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CaidensMommy
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Ok ladies I need some help...
I just don't know how to handle this? Caiden has been running away from me in stores and daycare and I just get so scared when he does this that I start crying. It's like he knows I'm PG and that I can't run after him. Yesterday in Eckerds I was taking him out of the cart and as soon as I put him down I took his hand and he yanked really hard away from me and ran as fast as he could to the other side of the store. So here is mommy freaking out because anything could happen to him because I can't see him. He did it again last night in Harris Teeter. (large supermarket) It really scares me to death when he does it. He won't listen for anything with anything. He laughs and keeps on running. And let me tell you that he's REALLY FAST!!! When it happened at the supermarket last night it was as soon as he got out of the cart. I normally use a regular shopping cart but he really wanted to sit in the car one so I did. So since it's really big and bulky I took him out of it in the store instead of by my car. I just can't control him and being 28 weeks PG my emotions are all over the place. I know he's almost 2.5 but I can't keep letting this happen. It's too scary! Can anyone help me on how to handle this? What can I do? My DH says I let him walk all over me and that I don't discipline him enough. It's really hard to when your PG and he throws a fit and goes limp, lays on the ground, etc. I try to discipline him I really do, but it's sooo hard. He's not even 2.5 and about 40lbs and almost 40 inches tall! Please help!!! 
Oh... it's happened in Kohl's about a month ago as well!
Message edited 6/30/2006 2:09:51 PM.
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Ambersmom
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
I know some won't agree with me but I'm going to put it out there and suggest a harness. You are not in a physical position to chase after him and he knows it, that's why he's doing it.
After I experienced a lockdown at Target due to a missing little girl who thought it was "fun" to hide from Mommy, I rethought the whole harness thing. I'd rather have piece of mind over anything else. That, or just keep him in the baby portion of the shopping cart and tell him he's not allowed to sit in the big boy cart until he can learn not to run from Mommy.
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Bxgell2
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Beth
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
Posted by Ambersmom
That, or just keep him in the baby portion of the shopping cart and tell him he's not allowed to sit in the big boy cart until he can learn not to run from Mommy.
That's what I would do...
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| Posted 6/30/06 2:20 PM |
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FranM
And so it goes....
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
Jack has tried this a time or two as well. This is a safety issue so for me there is no debate. If its just him and I for any store visit that is more than a few minutes long he stays in the cart or stroller -thats the rule, no choices no chances. When DH & I are both out with him we will give him the choice to walk holding our hand or ride, he always wants to walk. If he runs or pulls away he is immediately returned to the car with one of us and put in his carseat to wait. We have only had to return to the car twice.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Ambersmom
That, or just keep him in the baby portion of the shopping cart and tell him he's not allowed to sit in the big boy cart until he can learn not to run from Mommy.
That's what I would do...
Me too. I would take the stroller out of the car & put him directly in it until he learned that he could get hurt running away.
I would also fawn over walking like a big boy & reward him for walking safely & holding hands. Even if it means at the end of the trip, he gets to get some type of reward (We do the big huge kisses & a dance).
eta. When I was pregnant, I taught Joseph (he was about 17 months old) that he had to put his hand on the car until I was ready to walk. Later I changed it to hold my coat because it was winter.
Message edited 6/30/2006 2:44:55 PM.
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Maathy317
Grammie's Little Man
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
I never had this problem with my oldest daughter. She never left my side. My youngest was another story. Fisher Price used to make a "harness" that was for the wrist. One end went on my wrist; the other on hers. In between was a stretch coil that would only let her wander so far. The ends had velcro but held so well, that she could never open it up. I, personally, do not have a problem with a harness. I would rather have a child that was safely by my side, than having my heart in my throat trying to find him and praying that nothing had happened to him.
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| Posted 6/30/06 4:21 PM |
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Jillysmom
We made it to 8 years
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Re: Ok ladies I need some help...
I have the harness thing.. i was all against it untill Jillian thought it would be fun to hide from mommy...Now she is obsessed with buckling herself in the cart it actually makes it easier.. I also tell he if she doe snot hold me hand or listen we are going home.. and i have done it.. you really have to stand firm with him.. it does not make you a bad mother... you have to start taking favorite things way as soon as he starts acting out.. maybe ask at his daycare.. they moght have some suggestions for you.. and this way they will be on the same page as you with his disipline
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