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Odd pregnancy superstition
We traveled 2 hours to go to my uncle's wake today and as I was approaching the room my cousin (his daughter) stopped me in my tracks and started yelling " Stop! What are you doing? You are not allowed to be here!" I was like " huh ?what?" I am not on good terms with a handful of family members so that was the first thing that came to mind, I thought I was getting kicked out for that. Then she was like " My mother is gonna kill you! Pregnant woman are not allowed to be at a wake, the only way you are allowed to go up to casket is if you walk backwards!" At this point I am starting to wonder if this is a bad joke. They want me to moonwalk into a room? At that point I was starting to get annoyed, after a bad long travel in the rain I am basicly getting kicked out of my uncle's wake . I waited in the downstairs lobby with my husband and kids ( thank god they had a special playroom for kids) but everyone was coming downstairs to talk to us so i guess it was not a complete waste but it defeated the purpose why I came there. Funny thing is I am only 23 weeks and I havent talked or seen my family in a year but I guess my belly is more obvious then i thought because everyone was eyes on the belly as soon as they saw me and congrating me. I felt awkward that everyone was crowding around me cooing over my belly and asking me about the baby - like I became some attention whore without trying. The only person who was annoyed was one of my sisters who wouldnt even say hi to me or my husband. But it was a VERY awkward circumstance to say the least. My family is Irish Catholic but I think this superstition must be some Irish thing. One of my cousins, his daughter had a stillborn so I dont know if that has anything to do with it or made them more uptight about such superstitions when it comes to pregnancy. Anybody ever heard of such a thing or something similar?
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Posted 12/10/12 3:35 AM  |
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whoababy11
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
yes i have heard of this, but never paid it any mind. when i was pregnant with #1, my grandmother died and i attended all events. no one there said a word. im sorry u had to deal with silly superstitions.
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| Posted 12/10/12 7:45 AM |
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MandJZ
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
I haven't heard of it at a wake, because I know this as a Jewish superstition (obviously other religions/cultures may have similar ones). But it is a very common Jewish superstition that pregnant women are not allowed to attend funerals or anything related to death.
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| Posted 12/10/12 8:43 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
DH is Maltese and his family forbids pregnant women to go up to the casket at a wake. I think just being there in general is considered to be a bad idea but if the person is very close to you you can go, just not up to the casket. DH has made me not attend funerals for people I wasn't close to.
I've had several people die right in front of me at work while pregnant though and I don't see how that's any different. So far we're ok!
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| Posted 12/10/12 8:51 AM |
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BabyHopes15
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Just don't believe in it!
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| Posted 12/10/12 1:27 PM |
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mommyof3girls
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Never heard of it and I don't believe in it.
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| Posted 12/10/12 1:43 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Posted by mommyof3girls
Never heard of it and I don't believe in it.
Ditto.
And can I just say that I  at: 'They want me to moonwalk into a room?'
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| Posted 12/10/12 1:46 PM |
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ANR1211
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Odd pregnancy superstition
Never heard of it, but I went to a wake when I was like 9 weeks pregnant... No one said anything.
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| Posted 12/10/12 5:09 PM |
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moonmist09
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Odd pregnancy superstition
i've heard of this. this is actually a superstition that goes across several cultures. In Italian/Greek/Filipino/Polynesian/Eastern European and i guess Jewish (per some previous posts i read) cultures, the belief is that if you attend the actual burial at the cemetary, the spirit may linger at might try to reincarnate as the fetus in the womb or do evil things to the baby. The walking backwards thing is because they "spirit" can't see your prego belly so your supposedly "safe" all of these ideas are so far fetched i don't believe any of them.
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| Posted 12/10/12 8:06 PM |
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JB1122
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
I guess I'm screwed - a month ago I went to my Aunt's wake and her funeral!
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| Posted 12/10/12 8:24 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Never heard of the walking backward thing, but my family is Italian and I have heard that you shouldn't go to a wake or funeral while pregnant,
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| Posted 12/10/12 9:22 PM |
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mommyecs
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Posted by mommyof3girls
Never heard of it and I don't believe in it.
SAME.
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| Posted 12/10/12 9:43 PM |
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gdubs
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Odd pregnancy superstition
My cousin's wife is Chinese and she didn't come to our Grandfather's wake bc she said it was a Chinese superstition not to be able to attend a wake... I was pregnant at the time and I went and baby is fine. I wouldn't miss the wake/funeral of a close family member because of an old wive's tale.
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| Posted 12/10/12 10:04 PM |
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Jazzyt
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
I have a west indian background and this is a superstition of theirs as well. Cannot anttend anything relating to death...my 1st cousin passed away this pregnany and my aunt (her mother) told me not to come.
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| Posted 12/10/12 11:20 PM |
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ItsaJoya19
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
crashing to say wow! I've never heard this superstition. I went to DH Grandfather's wake at like 7 months and no one said anything. DH family is Sicilian.
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| Posted 12/10/12 11:35 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Odd pregnancy superstition
Posted by MandJZ
I haven't heard of it at a wake, because I know this as a Jewish superstition (obviously other religions/cultures may have similar ones). But it is a very common Jewish superstition that pregnant women are not allowed to attend funerals or anything related to death.
This exactly. That said, my father passed when I was 38 weeks PG, and you can be sure I still attended the funeral and burial. If I was not a direct mourner, I would not have gone to the cemetery.
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| Posted 12/11/12 8:34 AM |
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