Need your opinon(really long)

First a little back ground. My husband and I have been trying conceive since Aug 2008. In July we went to see a RE and after having test run it was determined that my husband had a low sperm count. So we were waiting on my period SO we could start IUIs. My period never came. Turns out We conceived on our own. At the end of September, we found out there was a problem with the pregnancy and we had to terminate.
So here is my question.

Would you go back to an RE right away or would you wait? If you say wait. How long would you try before you go back to see an RE? And why would you wait?

DH doesn't think we need to go back to an RE since we conceive on our own but I feel like our best chances are with an RE. I know the really reason he doesn't want to go back is because he is embarrassed about having to have another semen analysis

Re: Need your opinon(really long)

First, I am very sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what that must have been like.

As for the RE, I would go back. Yes, you got pg on your own BUT it took a very long time. So, if you work with the RE, hopefully they can get things to happen sooner rather then later. As for DH, he may not need a complete SA again and if you live close enough to the RE (less than an hour) he can "produce" at home for the IUI and maybe that can help with his embrassment. And just remind him, what WE go through is MUCH more embrassing!!
Best of luck to you!

Re: Need your opinon(really long)

First, I am very sorry to hear about you situation. I know it must be difficult to go through.

As for whether or not to return to the RE, it all depends on the time frame that you are looking at. It wouldnt hurt to hold off and consider trying things on your own for a few months if thats what you want to do, but you need to be realistic that it might save a lot of time and potential disappointment if you go back sooner. You might want to consider a compromise with your DH. Maybe suggest trying on your own for a few months (2-4months) and then agree to go to the RE after that if you havent had success.

You have to remember that your husband is going through all these emotions with you, especially since his sperm is the issue, and its important to consider his suggestions and feelings. However, take the time to reitterate to him the reasons and benefits of using the RE from the beginning. Maybe it could help him realize that its the better way to go. If it were me, I would return back the the RE and not waste any time.

Message edited 11/5/2009 5:55:34 PM.