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preciouslove
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Need to vent!
We were at DH’s sister’s house last night and she told us this…
Ok DH has two SIL’s (we’ll call them A and B) B is not liked by the family because she makes herself not likeable. But anyways….DH’s sister said that my MIL was showing SIL B what she got for my shower and that in addition to the little gifts she got she also told SIL B that she plans on getting us either the stroller or the crib for us. So SIL B turns around and says “I think you’re spending way too much money on them”…Can you believe that!!!!!!! What business is it of yours how much your MIL spends on her son’s baby??? You shouldn’t even be saying that. But that’s the type of person she is, very blunt and doesn’t care who it offends. My MIL was in shock that she said that, she didn’t even know what to say in response. Meanwhile my MIL spent a lot on her shower, plus she had to pay for some of it because SIL B’s parents are deceased.
I honestly think that in her mind this is how she sees it: I have a mother and father who can get me what I need so therefore I don’t need my MIL buying me big stuff. She has it in her head that my dad is like some kind of Donald Trump who’s got money because my parents own two houses. She also thinks that me and my brother get spoiled because my parent’s gave us each an apt. to live in and fixed it up for us and charge us cheap rent. Not that’s it’s any of her business, she can think what she wants but my Dad worked his *** off to give us what he did, nothing was handed to us on a silver platter. My mom never worked, so my dad did 3 jobs and even today he’s supposed to be retired and still works! My parents may own 2 houses but they bought those houses when real estate was not as high as it is today but again it’s just none of her business.
I just think she is jealous of the relationship my MIL has with her own daughter and the other DIL’s. My MIL lives downstairs from my BIL and SIL B and she is still not as close to them as she is with the others. They have to ask themselves why. They treat my MIL very poorly.
Sorry for the long post...
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dandr10199
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Re: Need to vent!
It seems like your MIL does not care about SIL B says at all. That is a good thing.
IMHO, It seems like she is jealous of you & your DH. She probably misses her parents and is sad that they are deceased. Sometimes when people lash out like that it is because they are hurting. Sorry you have to deal with your SIL's issues.
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| Posted 3/2/06 10:17 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Need to vent!
I'm sorry you have an evil SIL, if it makes you feel any better, so do I. The best way to deal with someone like that is to simply avoid them when you can. I rarely see my SIL, but she makes it very easy for me. She doesn't come around the family that often. Unfortunately, you probably can't avoid this girl as much as you'd like too since she lives in the same house as your MIL. 
And just to give you a taste of my SIL, she's known I'm pregnant for over two weeks now and no call, no card. She's a real prize. 
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| Posted 3/2/06 10:21 AM |
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KangaMom
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Re: Need to vent!
Sorry you have to deal with that nonsense It doesn't matter how much your family has or not or how much someone spends on another... Your MIL is being kind to you and her son and no one ought to have a say in that!
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| Posted 3/2/06 10:28 AM |
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preciouslove
I love my DS!!!
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Re: Need to vent!
She must be jealous or something. It's ok for everyone to spend money on them and their children while everyone gets crap??? I don't think so...
Everytime my MIL goes to visit the other grandchildren she always says "you are taking time away from my girls" Meanwhile her girls can see grandma anytime they want cuz she lives downstairs. Hello you have to share grandma, she's got other grandchildren...
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| Posted 3/2/06 10:55 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Need to vent!
This girl obviously wants to be the center of attention 100% of the time, and that's just not going to happen, so she needs to grow up. She has children of her own now, so it's about time she act like an adult.
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| Posted 3/2/06 11:41 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: Need to vent!
Posted by nferrandi
This girl obviously wants to be the center of attention 100% of the time, and that's just not going to happen, so she needs to grow up. She has children of her own now, so it's about time she act like an adult.
That's her problem. She thinks everything is about her and her "girls" and that the world revolves around her.
She needs to grow up. Her girls are not being neglected by Grandma. They just need to understand that Grandma does have a life of her own too in addition to her family. My MIL should have the right to whatever she wants for her own enjoyment and should have to answer to her or to anyone.
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| Posted 3/2/06 11:54 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Need to vent!
It would be nice if your MIL told her, "you know that I love your girls, but they're not my only grandchildren." Maybe that would put her in her place.
I know my SIL must have an assortment of complaints over the fact that I'm pregnant. Somehow she'll try to turn MY pregnancy into something about HER.
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| Posted 3/2/06 11:57 AM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
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Re: Need to vent!
I have one of those evil SIL too- they are torture. I have learned just to tune her out. The funny thing is God forbid you say something to offend her!
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| Posted 3/2/06 12:00 PM |
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preciouslove
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Re: Need to vent!
Posted by nferrandi
It would be nice if your MIL told her, "you know that I love your girls, but they're not my only grandchildren." Maybe that would put her in her place.
I know my SIL must have an assortment of complaints over the fact that I'm pregnant. Somehow she'll try to turn MY pregnancy into something about HER.
Oh please if my MIL said that to her she would totally misunderstand and take it as an insult to her. Trust me that's the way she is. She's always singing the "nobody likes me song"...
It's so silly that your SIL would have complaints about your pregnancy. It's sad that these are the type of people that need attention 100% and will always find a situation where they turn things around and make it about them. I don't need all the attention to be on me cuz I'm PG, as long as I get it from DH, who has been great...
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preciouslove
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Re: Need to vent!
Posted by CkGm
I have one of those evil SIL too- they are torture. I have learned just to tune her out. The funny thing is God forbid you say something to offend her!
Oh I know! But yet they can turn around and say whatever they damn well please. The best is when you see her at a family gathering she acts all nice...then talks behind your back when your gone. She has never said anything to me to my face. All the comments she's made is to someone else. If she ever made a stupid comment to my face I would not think twice about putting her in her place.
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