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cj7305
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Need advice from moms
OK, I am in my BFF's wedding in Mexico this summer. My baby will be about 4 months old (I am giving birth next month). Originally we planned to go & leave the baby home w/ my parents. It is 4 nights. Now DH is saying maybe we should bring the baby because he thinks we'll have a hard time leaving them. I am not sure that it is even safe to bring such a young baby to Mexico. He is also afraid to travel together incase god forbid something happens and that maybe we should go for less time. I am so confused & would love some advice. So...
Do you think it will be incredibly hard for me to go without the baby? Do you think it is safe to bring the baby? Do you think it's crazy to travel separately? Any advice will be appreciated.
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bicosi
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Re: Need advice from moms
I will not lie. It will be hard to leave the baby. You will miss the baby, BUT not many people have the opportunity to get away. It would only be 4 nights. So long as you have someone you trust to watch your baby, I would DEF go!! Think of it as a post-babymoon!
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:01 PM |
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curliegirl
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hmmmm, hard to say because you don't know what kind of baby it will be....
I wouldn't stress about it now, wait to see if he/she is a good sleeper, colicky, or whathaveyou.....
You may find the decision to be easier about a month before rather than now....
Traveling separately is very precautionary, but not unheard of.....
ETA
As the mother of an almost 4 month old....I would go alone, the break would be well deserved and appreciated...
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:05 PM |
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karacg
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Re: Need advice from moms
DH wouldn't take DD out of the country the first few months - he was too nervous of illnesses and kidnapping (way too common in Mexico BTW).
Personally, I think I would not take DD with me that soon. We went to Arizona at that age, but not out of the country. Where in Mexico?
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:10 PM |
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Laura-DDS
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At 4 months old we took DS away it was not bad but it was not Mexico. I as an adult and very experienced traveller have had problems with Mexico and my stomach... also god forbid you had a problem there I would not want to seek health care especially for a baby!
We too had a wedding in Vegas for a few nights and I would of course take DS there but thought it would be best to leave him and have the time for ourselves-I did miss him a lot but it was great to have some time together. I would for health, safety and just plain fun factor leave the baby with someone you love and go enjoy!
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Personally at 4 months, I'd leave the baby at home. He/She is being well cared for by parents, so that isn't an issue. Also at 4 months the baby won't remember (looking back). My DD was very easy by 4 months & at one point I left her w/ my parents for 3 nights when I had obligations at work (& DH was working nights). No problems at all. Obviously like the OP said, a lot depends on the temperament of the baby.
With that being said, its going to be very hard leaving your baby, but you should enjoy the time away/vacation w/ DH if you can. You're both going to need the relaxation....
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:13 PM |
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cj7305
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Posted by karacg
DH wouldn't take DD out of the country the first few months - he was too nervous of illnesses and kidnapping (way too common in Mexico BTW).
Personally, I think I would not take DD with me that soon. We went to Arizona at that age, but not out of the country. Where in Mexico?
An all inclusive in the Riviera Mya(?) near Cancun.
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:14 PM |
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karacg
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OK so not DF or the provincias, which can be very dangerous...but still, I think I would leave baby home with people you trust, but you may want to make the trip shorter....
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:15 PM |
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Gatsbygirl
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I'd leave the baby. You will miss him/her, but it will be nice for your parents to have that time to bond.
We left DS for a weekend at 4months and we missed him, but really reconnected as a couple. My parents had a great time with him.
It will be OK
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:19 PM |
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nicrae
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I'd leave the baby at home. Pretent like someone said that it is a post babymoon! We have a wedding to go to when Chelsea is 4 months and are leaving her with my parents...nothing as cool as Mexico though...we are going to Kentucky 
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:27 PM |
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stephaniea
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Go and leave the baby. You will have a good time. New parents sometimes forget that they need that alone time. You will feel refreshed when you get back. I left my oldest and my husband and I went to the Bahamas. We had a ball!
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:42 PM |
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I'd def. leave the baby home and take the 4 days to relax & enjoy. You will miss the baby a lot but I wouldn't risk Mexico. I took dd to Florida for a month when she was 3 months old but it was Florida and I stayed w/ family.
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| Posted 2/28/08 5:49 PM |
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cj7305
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Thank you so much for the advice ladies! I'd love to think about it as a time for me & DH to reconnect & enjoy being alone for those few days but I am so nervous that I'll be a mess about leaving the baby. I do think it would be better to leve the baby here. I guess we'll see. Thanks again!
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I wouldn't be able to leave the baby. Are you planning on BFing? that makes it very difficult to leave as well.
We brought our oldest to Mexico at 5 months - no problem.
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| Posted 2/28/08 7:42 PM |
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I wouldn't be able to leave the baby. Are you planning on BFing? that makes it very difficult to leave as well.
We brought our oldest to Mexico at 5 months - no problem.
No, I'm strictly bottle feeding (due to medical reasons). Did you OK the trip w/ your pediatrician?
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| Posted 2/28/08 8:14 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Need advice from moms
I dont think I would want to leave DS at 4 months old for 4 days (he is now 10 weeks) But I also dont think bringing the baby is the best idea. Not sure how the couple feels but what would you do with the baby during the festivities?
Unless I was really close to this person, I think I might forgo the event. That said I have a wedding in November (DS will be 11 months) we are leaving him for four days while we are in Nevis, and a friend of mine will be leaving her 3 month old...so its really a personal choice
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I would leave the baby.
DS is 8 months and we just asked several friends/co-worker about taking him to the DR.
They all told us it was not a good idea.... if you actually need medical attention for the baby while there. I never thought of that. I was more worried about the water, etc.. Not what we would do if we had a medical emergency with him.
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We took DD away with us when she was 10 weeks old. It was in the US though. My DD is 4 months old now and personally, I find it easier to leave her with my parents now, then I did when she was younger. 4 days is a long time to be away from her for the first time. It's obviously a personal decision, but if it was me I would probbaly leave her with your parents for this trip. It would be a really nice getaway for you guys without the baby and you'd really be able to enjoy the wedding.
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Posted by bicosi
I will not lie. It will be hard to leave the baby. You will miss the baby, BUT not many people have the opportunity to get away. It would only be 4 nights. So long as you have someone you trust to watch your baby, I would DEF go!! Think of it as a post-babymoon!
ITA!
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| Posted 2/29/08 7:22 AM |
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Posted by Kelly9904
I dont think I would want to leave DS at 4 months old for 4 days (he is now 10 weeks) But I also dont think bringing the baby is the best idea. Not sure how the couple feels but what would you do with the baby during the festivities?
Unless I was really close to this person, I think I might forgo the event. That said I have a wedding in November (DS will be 11 months) we are leaving him for four days while we are in Nevis, and a friend of mine will be leaving her 3 month old...so its really a personal choice
We've been best friends for over 20 yrs. I am her maid of honor so I cannot miss it.
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