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Shelly
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Need advice...
Back in August, my an old college friend, "S" just got out of school and told me she needed to find a job. That same day another, more recent, "J" friend told me the attorney working for him just quit. So I told them about each other. She gave him her resume, had an interview and got the job. Things were going really well- they were both very happy.
Well yesterday she got fired- she was late on a very big day. The one who hired her called me and told me because he wanted to let me know.
I was thinking about calling S and see how she is doing. I know she is very proud, but she is going through a lot. She didn't pass the bar and I can imagine she is feeling pretty bad. I wanted to call her yesterday but I thought I would give her some space. I just don't want her to feel like we were talking about her behind her back, or anything else.
What would you do?
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Posted 12/2/05 12:26 PM  |
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Michi
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Re: Need advice...
I would def. call..not to be pushy but just so they kno ur here if they need anything
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:27 PM |
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unknown1
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by Shellyesq
Back in August, my an old college friend, "S" just got out of school and told me she needed to find a job. That same day another, more recent, "J" friend told me the attorney working for him just quit. So I told them about each other. She gave him her resume, had an interview and got the job. Things were going really well- they were both very happy.
Well yesterday she got fired- she was late on a very big day. The one who hired her called me and told me because he wanted to let me know.
I was thinking about calling S and see how she is doing. I know she is very proud, but she is going through a lot. She didn't pass the bar and I can imagine she is feeling pretty bad. I wanted to call her yesterday but I thought I would give her some space. I just don't want her to feel like we were talking about her behind her back, or anything else.
Wait for her to come to you.
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:27 PM |
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DebG
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
I would def. call..not to be pushy but just so they kno ur here if they need anything
agreed
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:27 PM |
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saraH
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give her a few days...call her & be honest. say that the person who fired her called you and explained.
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:28 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by BNL2005
give her a few days...call her & be honest. say that the person who fired her called you and explained.
I agree with this
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:29 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Need advice...
IMO i would wait a day or two and then call and see how she is.
She is going to know you know and most likly will bring it up herself...
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:29 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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I would say wait a few days until things cool things off. If you call her now she may think you're calling because "S" called you to tell about what was going on. I would call her but maybe next week. Good luck chica. 
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:59 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by Redhead
IMO i would wait a day or two and then call and see how she is.
She is going to know you know and most likly will bring it up herself...
I agree. Hopefully she'll put together a game plan by the time you call. Calling right away just wouldn't feel right to me. Also I'm sure she's somewhat embarassed especially since you referred her.
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| Posted 12/2/05 12:59 PM |
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Shelly
She's 7!!!
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by Redhead
IMO i would wait a day or two and then call and see how she is.
She is going to know you know and most likly will bring it up herself...
I agree. Hopefully she'll put together a game plan by the time you call. Calling right away just wouldn't feel right to me. Also I'm sure she's somewhat embarassed especially since you referred her.
That's one of the reasons I want to call her- to let her know I have know hard feelings about it and that I don't look at her any different because of this. But I'll wait another day. It happened yesterday, so I'll call her over the weekend. I just want her to know I still love her and hope she's OK.
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| Posted 12/2/05 1:03 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Need advice...
Posted by Shellyesq
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by Redhead
IMO i would wait a day or two and then call and see how she is.
She is going to know you know and most likly will bring it up herself...
I agree. Hopefully she'll put together a game plan by the time you call. Calling right away just wouldn't feel right to me. Also I'm sure she's somewhat embarassed especially since you referred her.
That's one of the reasons I want to call her- to let her know I have know hard feelings about it and that I don't look at her any different because of this. But I'll wait another day. It happened yesterday, so I'll call her over the weekend. I just want her to know I still love her and hope she's OK.
well that is why you should call and let her tell you what happened and tell you how she feels or has been feeling...
in which you can, in return, be a good friend by listening and telling her you are there for support !
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| Posted 12/2/05 1:21 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Need advice...
I would give it a few days or a week too. If I got fired, I don't know how much I would want to talk about it immediately afterwards. I would contact her eventually though, because she might feel weird calling you first, since you were the one that helped her get the job. I don't think I would get into the details of it, either. I would probably say I heard she was let go and ask how she is doing and let her tell me whatever she feels comfortable with.
Good luck
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| Posted 12/2/05 4:11 PM |
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