Need advice

Today I get a phone call from my friend saying that one of our other friends is having a party tonite for his birthday in the city. Mind you I have know the guy since pre-K. I was like really I didnt know. She said he didnt call you?? I said no.. She said he didnt want you to feel OBLIGATED to go. I was like meaning he didnt want me there because I can not drink and party right now. She was like no he knows you are tired and pregnant and he didnt want you to feel bad. I was kinda upset about it because shouldnt I have the option to decide if I am TOO TIRED to go. This guy is one my best friends he was in my wedding and walked my mom down the aisle. I dont know if it is the hormones and that is why I am sooo upset. But the least he could have done is called me and said Andrea I am having something in the city. I guess the bottom line is that HE COULD HAVE CALLED to invite me. Am I wrong girls??

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It stinks, but sometimes people realize our priorities change. They look at things that are black and white. (ie: You are pregnant, so you must not want to go out.) I'd call the guy in a day or two and ask how the party was. Kinda joke with him about that fact that you heard from someone else, but don't go on the offensive. You don't want him to go on the defensive.

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no--I would be downright upset.
This is also the kind of close friend where u can tell him like it is.
Call...,and say so and so called and mentioned the party, and u were hurt u didnt know about it.
Say..I care about you immensely and would do anything humanly possible to go-whether or not I can drink and party.
If I cannot go because I do not feel good or I am tired I know u will understand because we are that close...
then if u want to go-say, "So, am I invited?" and he will say of course!
then go have a good time!