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Blu-ize
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Susan
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My nephew
Wants to enlist in the army.
There is a whole story to it, but if you had a nephew who was 21, would you encourage it or not?
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Posted 10/2/07 12:05 PM  |
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Kara
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Re: My nephew
I think I wound neither encourage nor discourage it. I'd let him make his own decision. I wouldn't offer my opinion unless he asked me for it.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:06 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: My nephew
how would you feel about it? I think he's looking for an escape from life..he thinks this will be easy. The recruiter is telling him what he wants to hear.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:22 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: My nephew
Posted by Kara
I think I wound neither encourage nor discourage it. I'd let him make his own decision. I wouldn't offer my opinion unless he asked me for it.
i AGREE
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:27 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: My nephew
Posted by Blu-ize
how would you feel about it? I think he's looking for an escape from life..he thinks this will be easy. The recruiter is telling him what he wants to hear.
I would be worried but intensley proud  
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:27 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: My nephew
I think he's doing it for the wrong reasons.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:31 PM |
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Kara
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Re: My nephew
Posted by Blu-ize
I think he's doing it for the wrong reasons.
Can you elaborate?
I would be worried about him for sure, but beyond that, my feelings about his decision are somewhat irrelevant...
I know a bunch of people who did go into the military looking for an easy way out and emerged much better people because of it, with a much better work ethic. That said, I don't know this person well enough to pass judgment on his decisions.
Unfortunately, adults have earned the right to make their own decisions, even bad ones. You can offer advice if requested - or if you think it's just a horrible decision - but you can only push to a point. Then you have to let him do what he wants to do. Right or wrong, it's his decision to make.
And yes, I KNOW that's hard to accept when you are scared and really worry that it's the wrong decision. 
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:35 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: My nephew
My husband enlisted in the Army Reserves when he was 21. He agrees he did it for the wrong reasons. He was bored. Yep, he enlisted bc he was bored.
Now, he has 2 years left, and although he likes hanging with the guys, shooting stuff, and blowing things up, he wants out. To him the risk of having to go overseas (again) is painful for him to think about.
He should definitely talk to someone in the Army that can give both positive and negative aspects of going in before making his choice. I am sure if your nephew needed to, my DH would talk to him about it. Just let me know.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:36 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: My nephew
Posted by Blu-ize
I think he's doing it for the wrong reasons.
You also have to remember, this is his decision, no matter what reason he is doing it for. It may be a positive thing for him, and it is good for many people. HE has to make the decision, bc in the Army, they will tell you, your Mommy and Daddy (or aunt and grandparents) aren't here for you right now, you signed up, you deal with it.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:38 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: My nephew
Posted by Blu-ize
how would you feel about it? I think he's looking for an escape from life..he thinks this will be easy. The recruiter is telling him what he wants to hear.
sorry for the many posts, but I want to add, the recruiter is ther to tell him what he wants to hear. My DH said the same thing. That is their job, and they have made this their life, so of course they will look at it in a good light (even if you don't).
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:40 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: My nephew
if he were asking for my opinion, i would tell him that i would prefer he didn't enlist.
if he weren't... then i would keep my mouth shut. if he felt strongly about it, i wouldn't want to discourage him or make him feel bad in any way.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:41 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: My nephew
Posted by neener1211
My husband enlisted in the Army Reserves when he was 21. He agrees he did it for the wrong reasons. He was bored. Yep, he enlisted bc he was bored.
Now, he has 2 years left, and although he likes hanging with the guys, shooting stuff, and blowing things up, he wants out. To him the risk of having to go overseas (again) is painful for him to think about.
He should definitely talk to someone in the Army that can give both positive and negative aspects of going in before making his choice. I am sure if your nephew needed to, my DH would talk to him about it. Just let me know.
he is looking for an escape. He is being told that the chances of him coming back maimed or dead are minimal...the recruiter told him that he has a better chance of getting killed in Merrick than in Iraq or anywhere else.
He is also looking to escape from the situation with his dad. he doesn't want any responsibility for it..I ask him to do something for his dad and he can't because of selfish reasons. He thinks he's signing up for 3 years and then he's out..but if we are at war, he will have to re-enlist..
That's just some of stuff I've heard him talk about.
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| Posted 10/2/07 12:43 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: My nephew
His reasons for enlisting are not as important as his UNDERSTANDING of what he's REALLY getting into -
As long as he understands the consequences of enlisting - then I think his reasons are his own.
I'd be very worried, but proud at the same time. - Many people go into it b/c they feel it's their only option to make something of themselves- and they do - They are smart, capable adults who thrive in a rigid, controlled environment. -
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