MrsJoeG got me thinking....

Please post your inspirational stories, poems, photos, whatever here....
I actually have this one on the wall in our bedroom- I look at it when I start to get anxious about a shot or an upcoming cycle.....
Also, I hope that those who don't understand IF ignore this thread if they see something they don't agree with, because I have ignored one too many posts about ppl being unhappy about their children's gender, etc lately... because I didn't belong on that board, and I hope they'll give us the same respect.

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.

I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.

Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.

I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.

I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.

Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.

I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.

I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body. I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.

So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.

I listen.

And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.

I have learned to appreciate life.

Yes I will be a wonderful mother

Message edited 8/9/2008 7:32:05 PM.

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I have this on my myspace page.

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I also love this video by kellie coffey. Tear jerker, but I love the message in the video. I would die for thathttp://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=11230538

Message edited 8/9/2008 7:45:33 PM.

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MrsGreek posted this a few weeks ago and I notebooked it because I thought that it was just beautiful:

What do I think God meant when he gave me infertility?

I think he meant for my husband and I to grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think God meant for us to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think God meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, and create procedures and protocols. I think God meant for us to find a cure for infertility.

No, God never meant for me not to have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, God meant for me to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let Him down.

Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God has singled me out for a special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.

While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me what God meant when he handed me infertility. I already know.

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this one kind of sums up IF for me
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Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumble bee doesn't know it so it goes on flying anyway.
Mary Kay Ash

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I also keep this one close by.

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wow.....i can barely see through the tears to reply properly...

beautiful.

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This is a great thread! I'm definitelty notebooking it.

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This quote helps me get through this process with a positive, upbeat, humorous outlook

""We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
Randy Pausch (the last lecture)

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Thanks. Now I'm tearing up at my desk!

I loved it though and trust me, I know it's true. Both, what you posted and what MrsGreek posted.

DH and I are closer b/c of all we've been through. There has been laughter and tears but through it all, I look at my little IVF miracle every day and I know I am blessed.

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This thread is beautiful and I am crying and cutting and pasting things to email to DH.

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