Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

I’m so upset. I am the youngest of three, and the youngest in my extended family by 2 or 3 years. Every girl in my family has had a baby shower for their first born, including my sister last year. My mom and I planned my sister’s shower together. Now it’s my turn, and my mom tells me today that she doesn’t feel like throwing me a shower. I also asked her to watch my dog so husband and I could go on a four day babymoon and she said no. My mom and I have always been close, and she’s gone above and beyond for my brother’s and sister’s kids – changing her work schedule so she could be their primary child care, watching their kids for days on end so my bro and his wife could do getaways ,etc.

I know it’s not the end of the world not to have a shower, but I’m just upset because I don’t understand why my mom seems less than enthusiastic. She hates the name I have picked out and is telling people a made up name instead, thinks my bedding is ugly, criticizes the color walls I have picked out, etc.

I’m sure some of this is just me with pregnancy hormones, but I can’t help but feel like she’s just picking apart everything and anything with this baby. I just wish my own mom was as happy for me as I’ve seen her be for my sister and brother.
Sorry for the long post, just needed to vent.

Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It doesn't sound like pregnancy hormones to me - you have legitimate reasons to be upset! Have you tried talking to your mom about how all of her criticism and lack of enthusiasm is making you feel? You said that you were close, so hopefully you can open up to her and figure out what's really going on.

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Oh I'm sooo sorry girl!!! Her attitude is so sucky! Shame on her. It's NOT you and your hormones. My mom tried pulling that sh*t with me when she badmouthed the name I picked to everyone and anyone I hope in time your mom can see the light and just be happy for you and be there at a time when you need her the most!

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I just want to say that it's sucky to have to deal with this...

My mom was/is notorious for this sort of thing... she pulled it with my Bridal Shower - she didn't want to have one and made a big stink about it - to find out that it was "her way" of "throwing me off"... yeah, cuz that's awesome, nothing like stressing out an already stressed out woman.
And my baby shower was no different. She made up all these BS reasons to not have one, and then when DS stepped in she finally said she was joking.


It stinks... and I'm sorry. I just hope she thinks she's being funny.

Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

Any chance she is just saying that to you because she is going to throw u a SURPRISE shower?

Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

Im so sorry your going through this, but I think you should try to talk to her... Maybe shes trying to throw you off with the whole baby shower thing, but if shes not I would be SOO upset if my mother didnt want to throw me a baby shower...

What about your sister, is she willing to throw you one?

And even beyond the baby shower just all the negativity that your mom is putting out there should definately be discussed with her... This should be the happiest time of your life!

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Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

Re: Mom issues. Just need to vent. :(

Thanks all. I have been crying since 4 and can't seem to stop. I don't think she's trying to throw me off because I haven't registered yet and won't if I don't have a shower. I don't think my sister knows. She asked me last week for the names and addresses of people I wanted to invite and told me she had already picked out the invites. For my bridal shower and my sisters bridal and baby showers, we knew they were happening but not when. I showed up to my bridal shower unshowered and in sweats, so it's not like I'm hard to surprise. My mom also knows I'm a cryer so I don't think she would go this far this to surprise me in a month or two.I think once my sister knows she'll say something to my mom, but I'm just hurt that she has to convince my own mom to be happy for me.