Keeping it a surprise

Before my DH and I even got PG we agreed that we would wait to find out the sex of the baby until birth. Now he's saying he wants to know so that we can be better prepared. I want to stick to our original agreement, though it is tempting, because IMHO I think there are few surprises in life so precious as that moment it's announced. He suggested that maybe he could find out and not me. I think that would be torturous for one, and two he's not the best secret keeper. Anyone in the same boat?

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I'm in the same boat. I don't want to find out the sex,but DH does. He says that he won't tell me, but I think that it will impossible for him to kepp it from me.

I don't think that he would spoil secret on purpose. I just think that he will slip up and let it out. on my last appt I was only 13 weeks so we were not able to find out the sex. However, by my next appt I will be 17 weeks, so we need to figure out how we will handle this.

I keep telling DH, "I'm carrying the baby, so my decision goes!"

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This was DH & I at the beginning. He wanted to know I didn't. He eventually saw his moment of glory (announcing to everyone in the waiting room boy or girl) after the baby was born the way I did - something precious that is reserved for the father.

What has happened is that at 21 weeks I accidentally found out the gender (I am sooo not happy about this). I told DH I knew and though he has asked once or twice for me to tell him, he really doesn't want to know after all. I have not told a single person despite everyone asking. My friends were laughing at my baby shower because they couldn't get me to "slip" and spill the beans!!

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In the beginning I wanted to know and he didn't. I couldn't imagine not planning ahead of time, but he convinced me we should wait. Now Im excited for him, for that moment he can announce if its a boy or a girl. As far as being 'better prepared', we decided its okay to have green/yellow stuff in case we have a 2nd baby of the opposite sex and another option is to wait to totally decorate the nursery. either way its a personal choice and okay whatever you both decide---personally i don't think him finding out and you not would help the situation......he wouldn't be able to plan for a boy or girl ahead of time because I think you might catch on if he's buying pink or blue stuff

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we found out for both but this time we decided to not tell immediate family what the sex is until christmas so its a suprise. not due till march. i was glad to know both becuase i like to prepare. its your own personal choice but make sure you both agree.

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One of my best friend's DH wanted to know and she did not. She let a sono tech tell him after she left the room. He didn't tell a soul until the baby was born. It worked out fine for them.

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I never wanted to know, but in the beginning, my DH really wanted to know. I knew it would accidentally slip at some point if just he knew or I would figure it out by his not being as interested in picking a name for a certain sex or something like that. Now he is happy that we didnt find out. I kind of feel that if one wants to know and the other doesnt, that it isnt fair for either to find out.

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We wanted to know with my DD but because of the unusual position that she was in we were never able to see. So we got used to not knowing. Now with this one my DH doesn't want to know because it was so nice being surprised with her. I am 50/50 with knowing, some days I want to know others I agree with him and can't wait for the surprise. In the end we will probably not find out. Everything we have for newborn is neutral so that's not a huge deal and since their birthdays will be within weeks of each other all the stuff will be same season.

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DH wanted to find out what we were having, I didnt. He didnt push it and honestly I figure I am the one carrying this baby, I get veto power any how....keep the preggo happy is a DHs best rule of thumb!

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I will be 34 weeks tomorrow and am still a proud member of team green . Dh wanted to know and even tried the "I won't tell anyone" I said "when you carry the baby we will find out. Till that happens it will be a surprise".
I am so excited. I am on pins and needles to find out and the further I get the harder it gets but I know it will be worth it.

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We are!!!! I am AMAZED that I was able to walk out of the Level II without cracking!!! For us, there is no bigger thrill than going through this pregnancy, and eventually labor, and then hearing the doctor say "It's a XXX." We figure we have our entire lives to get to know this little one... waiting 9 months while he/she is in utero is OK. We just can't wait for the surprise factor!!!! Plus I am partial to the color yellow so I am having so much fun picking out geneder neutral baby items

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We found out for both just to be prepared and I am glad we did.
Seeing the baby's face for the first time is the biggest surprise of it all!

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My husband was the one who didn't want to know. I absolutely had to know.

I had them tell me what the gender was and they wrote a note in my chart that the husband was not to know...Wife keeping secret from husband.

I knew the entire pregnancy, my friends knew, my Husband's ex knew (we are friends with her...she is like a sister to me...who would have thought that is possible right)

The only people who didn't know was my hubby, my husband's mom and my husband's son.....

In the end he didn't care that I knew.
Everyone was shocked he didn't find out though