Just curious- Do you have Step- Parents/Inlaws?

How do they act towards your DC(s)?

I have a stepMIL who is a total witch with a B! She's not nice to me and I feel like I'm starting to see that she's not going to be nice towards DD (who is only 12 weeks old!)
I do not have a MIL tho, and it makes me so sad just about everyday when I look at DD and know she will never meet her namesake and have this horrible "sustitute"

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We actually have the opposite situation.

DH's dad is deceased, but his step mom is VERY involved (aka has been looking at schools this week with me) and once I go back to work, she will be doing a lot of C3's care.

My MIL on the other hand has no interest in my child

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I have a step mom and she's great with us and DD... my dad wouldn't have it any other way though, we mean too much to him.

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My dad has a long-term girlfriend, and she is more involved than he is (though they live upstate, so we don't see them too often). She never had children of her own, and I think always wanted a child, and I can see in the way that she treats DS that she wished she had had a baby of her own. I'm glad she's there, b/c my father is an idiot and fed my 9 month old peanuts and fondue-dipped pretzels, and she seems to have more common sense than he does.

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Re: Just curious- Do you have Step- Parents/Inlaws?

I have a Step Mother and Step Father...

Well, I don't consider him a Step Father... he is my mother's husband. I can't stand the guy and I know the feeling is mutual.

My Step-Mother loves, loves, loves DD.

My mother's husband has met her once when she was 6 months old. (she is now almost 17 months.)

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My dad's wife is nice to the kids. She will sometimes post pictures of the kids on FB but it's not often. My dad and I aren't close so it annoys me to a degree that she acts like they are involved in their lives when they really aren't. But in the grand scheme of things I figure it's harmless, I'd prefer the fake nonsense to her being mean to them.

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My DH has a stepfather - has been married to his mom for about 25 years. He is SUPER involved. Picks my kids up from daycare and is in love with them! He has no children of his own. My ds calls him grandpa and adores him. Sometimes he gets on my nerves b/c he is a little too involved/obsessed but I think he likes feeling needed and loved.

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I have a step-son so my parents are technically his step-grandparents, they treat DSS just the same as the other 9 granchildren. Same goes for my MIL, my SIL has a child from her first marriage and MIL (actually everyone) treats him just like everyone else.

My father had a step-mother, his mother died when he was young, but he never lived with her (she and my grandfather married when he was older). After my grandfather died she spent very little time with the family.

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DHs step-father is a total d o u c h e r with Logan... he's going to be 5 months on the 30th and he has held him once, and that was bc my MIL put him in his arms in the hospital. He doesn't touch him or interact with him at all... it's so upsetting...

But that was to be expected. When Joe's half-brother has his kids, they will be the prince and/or princess of the family and the ones to inherit the "throne" - just like my BIL (Joe's half-bro).

Joe, unfortunately, is the black sheep in his Stepfather's eyes 'cuz he isn't "his kid" - even though he "raised" him since Joe has been 5.

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and... I have a step-father (who has been around since my bros and I have been 4 and 7)... but since my parents (my mom and my stepdad) recently split (approx two mo before Logan's birth) ... he has been practically non-existent. My stepdad was more like my real dad - since my biological father skipped town when I was 11 and Ron stepped up to the plate... but lately he's been at total jerk too (completely MIA - only saw Logan the day after he was born - he'll be 5mo) - so the notion of what a "dad" should be has been pretty cr@ppy for DH and I.

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I have a step-mother and she is very thoughtful and is great with ds. My parents are young and my step-mother is even younger than my father, so she is only 10 years older than me It never bothered me, we have always had a decent relationship. I wouldn't say we are close but we have a mutual respect and appreciation for each other. I also have a step-dad but we do not speak or see each other since I have had very little contact with my mother since I was a child. I'm close with my grandmother (dad's mother) she is a terrific grandmother and great-grandma to ds

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I have a stepMIL -- im still not too sure about her She's always been nice to my face and to DD, but Ive heard some things have been said behind closed doors. Im very close with DH's aunt/couisin and they've told me some stories and told me to be cautious. It makes me so sad for DH. His family always talks about his Mom - what a great woman she was. I wish she was around to see her granddaughter


Now -- DH's stepsister -- im definitely NOT a big fan of her

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I have a wonderful step fil. He treats dh and the kids like blood family. I am very thankful we have him because bio fil is a wacko to put it nicely. My mil and sfil more then make up for bio fil shortcomings.