Just another sad post about working

I went back to working a couple of hours a week when Sydnie was 3 weeks old. Financially I have no choice (my DH's business is VERY slow, OK, dead right now). The first day was hard but it's only for a couple of hours so I deal. But now little by little I am going back more and more (I substitute teach per diem and I tutor) and the more I am working the more upsetting it is. I am finding myself resentful because I need to work so much. I am just so scared of missing out on these early times with her.

Working moms, how do you get through this and/or get over it?

I am just crushed.

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it will keep easier, i promise hang in there

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What a crumby situation to be in. I am sorry that you had to return to work so quickly.

I didn't have to return to work as early as you have but it was still hard. In the beginning, I really just got through the days & looked forward to rushing home to be with DD. Over time, I just had to talk myself into a more positive state of mind. I just kept telling myself that I work for the future of my child. She needs things that cost money and will need college in the future. Just some things aren't options so it has to be the way it is.

Has your DH tried looking at ways to make a little extra money so you could be home more?

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well, you dont get over it, but you do get through it. It's very hard. I work full time AND go to school part time. It's awful and I feel guilty, but then I remember that I have to do this to provide for my child..and the school part is so down the road, I CAN be home more. I know it's hard, hang in there

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Posted by Lucky

What a crumby situation to be in. I am sorry that you had to return to work so quickly.

Has your DH tried looking at ways to make a little extra money so you could be home more?

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Posted by mikeswife06

Posted by Lucky

What a crumby situation to be in. I am sorry that you had to return to work so quickly.

Has your DH tried looking at ways to make a little extra money so you could be home more?

Thanks. Yes he's trying but it's even harder for him.

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Posted by aliwnec10

Posted by mikeswife06

Posted by Lucky

What a crumby situation to be in. I am sorry that you had to return to work so quickly.

Has your DH tried looking at ways to make a little extra money so you could be home more?

Thanks. Yes he's trying but it's even harder for him.

who watches your dd when you're working?

For me, it's hard. I work full time and i get only about 3-4 hours with my son each day. But on the flip side, my husband is home with him and when he's working... my MIL or SIL has him. So he's always around family and that right there is what makes it easier on me.

Yes it's hard, but i just make sure that every minute counts when i'm home.

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So sorry you are feeling down. It really is a tough situation for women when they are confronted with having to go back to work after having a baby. I went back full time when DS was 3 months and it was difficult at first - I try and keep busy and during lunch do personal errands so when I get home I can devote all my time to DS and DH. As much as I miss my DS, I enjoy catching up with colleagues and my job. My Dh and I really want to pay for DS' college, and there is no way for that to happen if i don't go to work, so I just try and keep reminding myself of that.

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Posted by aliwnec10



Yes it's hard, but i just make sure that every minute counts when i'm home.

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it definitely gets easier. I do not feel bad, as I know I am doing what I have to to help support my family. I want dd to know when she gets older that you CAN have a career and be a great mom too.

Being a SAHM is not for me.

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Posted by Mikismom

Being a SAHM is not for me.

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Just think how much worse it would be if you guys couldn't pay your bills or provide for your DD. That stress would be worse.
As mothers I think we always have guilt. I was able to stay home quite a while but when I did go back FT I still had the same guilt I would have had if she was still a newborn. As parents though we have to do what we have to do and sometimes making money to make ends meet comes first.

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