joint birthday party

My kids are born only 4 days apart (plus 2 years). my baby is turning 2 and my other one is turning 4. She's not in school yet and this is really the only year i'd make a joint party. I don't want to make 3 separate parties (I have an older one too). I'm only inviting like 15 kids age appropriate for her and the rest for him. Some family friends/family would have been invited to both regardless. My son's class though would only have been invited to his. What have you seen/done in terms of invitations when there is a joint party? I don't want the parents for the kids in his class to feel obligated to buy my baby a gift. I thought to send out different invites or use the invites from the gym and on some write one kid's name, on some the other and on some both ,etc. If I make an invitation I'd have to put both names on them (maybe with a check box? but isn't that tacky?). I don't want to make 3 separate invites (b/c some would be invited to both). Husband thinks everyone shoudl know it's a joint party b/c as much as i don't want anyone to feel obligated to buy gifts for both, he thinks it's odd to walk into a party not knowing that and that the kids in his class would know not to buy gifts for the baby anyway. I'm not very friendly with some of them. WWYD???!!!

Re: joint birthday party

I once got an invite to a twin's birthday (the boys were in different classes). The invite had both boy's names and the mom added, "please just one gift only." It may be tacky to ask for a gift, but it made the expectation/ obligation pretty clear.

Re: joint birthday party

I would just use the fill-in invitations supplied by the party venue and write in the names(s).

joint birthday party

We were invited to a joint bday party in prek. Dd was friends with the twins, and then the younger sibling was joint with them. All 3 names were on the invite. I did fell obligated to buy a gift but I didn't mind. I just bought something small for the younger dd. Just a $5 memory game. I wouldn't worry to much.

We sometimes do a joint bday with my dd and nephew. My sisters Inlaws were there. I told my sister not to tell them we were having cake for my dd b/c I didn't want them to feel like they needed to buy a gift. Well they got there before us and 1 sil found out and made her sister go buy a last minute gift right before she came. I felt so bad.

I'd rather know before and not feel bad. I'm sure some won't buy for your younger dd, some will spend a small amount.

Re: joint birthday party

if I was you I would write only the one name for the people who would only be invited to the one kids party and do both names for those who would be invited to both.

I would not feel weird if I walked in to find out that it was a joint party.

if I knew ahead of time it was a joint party I would feel weird not brining a gift for both kids

Re: joint birthday party

I would use the gym ones and fill them out seperately for each child. For people are are your friends or family, write both kids names.