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kerrycec03
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I'm so irrate
Ok, sorry to bother you all, but some of you might recall my posts about a certain so-called friend. Well she totally pulled some crap yesterday. Here's what happened:
Ok, just needed to vent because last night I was ready to explode. So this week she was emailing me saying how we should catch up, she misses me, etc. One of emails says "I miss you and want to see your place, what's your address?". How would you take that, maybe she's sending me a card, maybe a Christmas card, no, instead I get her 2 page pitch about her tri's and how to donate money. I was really irrate. You wanted to rekindle our friendship so you can send me requests for money for you HOBBY! I really can't tell you how floored I was. I know its a good cause, but don't ever make it out like you wanted my address to send something sweet & personalize. Instead I get her tri-ing times newsletter which is a giant pitch for donations. I really want to say something about this. What do you think? I felt hurt and stupid for actually thinking she would send me something nice, like a card, nope I get her stupid pitch for money
P.S. I"M NOT SENDING HER MONEY, but should I tell her how I feel?
Message edited 1/9/2008 8:46:54 AM.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I'm so irrate
I would be annoyed & I wouldn't send her any money.
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| Posted 1/9/08 8:41 AM |
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kerrycec03
Mom of 2 beautiful boys!!
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Re: I'm so irrate
Posted by nrthshgrl
I would be annoyed & I wouldn't send her any money.
Oh that's a definite. I wouldn't anyway due to her thinking all her friends who are married have money to throw around. Oh, sorry, I have a mortgage, etc.
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| Posted 1/9/08 8:42 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: I'm so irrate
what's a "tri"?
i agree with barb - a similar thing happened to me, i threw it in the garbage and haven't spoken to that "friend" since
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| Posted 1/9/08 8:43 AM |
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JP826
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Re: I'm so irrate
Nope- I wouldn't send her a thing. Lets see how much she wants to rekindle your friendship after you tell her that moneys tight & you cant afford to conrtibute to her hobby.
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kerrycec03
Mom of 2 beautiful boys!!
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Re: I'm so irrate
Posted by headoverheels
what's a "tri"?
i agree with barb - a similar thing happened to me, i threw it in the garbage and haven't spoken to that "friend" since
sorry, triatholon. She has taken them to the next level and now is sort of like a coach. But this is her life, and I'm happy & proud, but don't email me like you want my friendship again when you really want money
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kerrycec03
Mom of 2 beautiful boys!!
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Re: I'm so irrate
Posted by SIBride06
Nope- I wouldn't send her a thing. Lets see how much she wants to rekindle your friendship after you tell her that moneys tight & you cant afford to conrtibute to her hobby.
Ok, I'm so not giving her money, but should I say something, because this really hurt my feelings
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| Posted 1/9/08 8:45 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm so irrate
Posted by kerrycec03
Posted by SIBride06
Nope- I wouldn't send her a thing. Lets see how much she wants to rekindle your friendship after you tell her that moneys tight & you cant afford to conrtibute to her hobby.
Ok, I'm so not giving her money, but should I say something, because this really hurt my feelings
Yes, either call her or send her a letter explaining it. Friends don't treat each other like business prospects.
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| Posted 1/9/08 8:50 AM |
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TreAnt427
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Re: I'm so irrate
 She is too much! I personally wouldn't say anything, and just completely stop all contact with her. I would not answer her phone calls or emails until she gets the hint - but that's just my personality.
If you feel you need to get this off your chest - go for it!
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:19 AM |
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partyof6
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Re: I'm so irrate
yah..my inital reaction would be ****** off-then i would want to say something then I would just forget it and not do it.
Shes so rude as to do this she won't get it when you tell her off...just act like you never got it and don't answer her...
ever...
ugh..how ruddddddddde.
or..if she calls..say laughingly..oh..I thought u wanted my address to send me a xmas card...
sorry..I already have my charities..
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:24 AM |
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leighdvm
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Re: I'm so irrate
I would e-mail her back and tell her, "sorry, I just can't afford to donate right now, but thanks for thinking of me".
I'm just sarcastic that way....
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:26 AM |
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mtnmama
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:29 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: I'm so irrate
wow kerry---that is BALLS!
i would really just consider this girl is not a true friend...and seems to have forgotten her manners.
don't let her get to you---distance yourself from her...and try and move on. she obviously is the type that only wants to be your friend when she needs something.
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:32 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: I'm so irrate
Posted by Blu-ize
Yes, either call her or send her a letter explaining it. Friends don't treat each other like business prospects.
Well put! 
She is a piece of friggin work and should get a piece of your mind 
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:35 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: I'm so irrate
p.s. Maybe I should check my mail today too 
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| Posted 1/9/08 9:37 AM |
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MommyofG
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Re: I'm so irrate
Hmmmm Im thinking here. Ok so you guys rekindled the friendship- she misses you and wants to see you and your new place and asks for your address. then sends you a 2 page pitch to donate money to what you said is her life the triatholon.
Well it seems she did it in poor taste, but I truly think she is really happy for what she has accomplished and wanted to share that with you too. Since you guys lost touch this was probably her way of telling you what she has been up to. Was there a gain for her by a donation- possibly- you dont "have" to donate or is it a general letter that if anyone got it it asks to donate- maybe she just wanted to send it to you to read it not expecting a donation.
I would send her a card to congratulate her without a donation, and take it from there. Or call her and tell her that. I wouldnt mention the donation part unless she does. If she does then sorry her friendship attempt was not genuine and I would move on.
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robynfs
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Re: I'm so irrate
She is definitely in the wrong and I would be hurt. The only thing I can think of is maybe she doesn't realize how much you are hurt by her lack friendship. She may understand things have changed between you but have you really told her the extent to how you feel about it.
I'm just thinking...I am someone who asks for donations for marathons most recently for Leukemia, I reach out to every single person in my contacts. It doesnt matter how close we are, I let everyone know what I am doing and what my purpose is for. My closest friends and people I have lost touch with all usually contribute to my cause.
So my point being, she probably doesn't know truly how you feel, and once she does she will probably realize that her actions although not intentionally crappy, definitely appear that way to you.
I hope things work out with your friend!
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