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oobabyoo
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If you are diff religions than DH
How did you decide to raise your children? My background is Jewish and DH's is Catholic, but neither of us are religious. We always briefly touch on the subject but haven't really decided. Neither of our families are really religious either. TIA!
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SweetTooth
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
We have the same exact situation. We will celebrate holidays with our respective familes. When the kids get older and they decide they relate more to one of the religions then that will be their choice. But they will not be raised as one or the other and will not have any kind of religious ceremonies.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:06 AM |
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snowflake08
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Same thing with us and though we will celebrate Catholic holidays with DH's family, our children will be raised Jewish
Neither of us are super religious - I just dont feel it is something children can choose on their own
they only know what we teach them - JMO
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:08 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I'm Jewish and DH was raised Episcopalian. It's important to me to raise our children Jewish and DH is fine with that since he doesn't practice any religion. We'll celebrate both sets of holidays with our families.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:11 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Posted by snowflake08
Same thing with us and though we will celebrate Catholic holidays with DH's family, our children will be raised Jewish
Neither of us are super religious - I just dont feel it is something children can choose on their own
they only know what we teach them - JMO
I'm not saying as little kids they will choose on their own, but when they are teenagers or adults and if they decide then that they relate to one religion better, then they can choose. Or maybe they will want to be buddhist, who knows?
Neither DH and I are religious at all and to raise our children as one religion or the other would be hypocritical for us. We don't attend services, or anything like that. Actually I would say we are probably both agonistic. So I guess thats really how we will be raising our kids but will celebrate holidays with our families.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:11 AM |
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snowflake08
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
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Posted by snowflake08
Same thing with us and though we will celebrate Catholic holidays with DH's family, our children will be raised Jewish
Neither of us are super religious - I just dont feel it is something children can choose on their own
they only know what we teach them - JMO
I'm not saying as little kids they will choose on their own, but when they are teenagers or adults and if they decide then that they relate to one religion better, then they can choose. Or maybe they will want to be buddhist, who knows?
Neither DH and I are religious at all and to raise our children as one religion or the other would be hypocritical for us. We don't attend services, or anything like that. Actually I would say we are probably both agonistic. So I guess thats really how we will be raising our kids but will celebrate holidays with our families.
I didnt mean you so im sorry if you thought i was referring to you
I just mean in general - I just feel that children need to have A foundation - I dont believe that you can be 1/2 catholic and 1/2 jewish - yes, your parents can each be one, that does NOT make a child half - In my opinion it is up to the parents to instill A belief in their children; or NONE
It is not like being Russian and Puerto Rican (as my children will be) they are nationalities and religions are not nationalities
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:15 AM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Posted by SweetTooth
We have the same exact situation. We will celebrate holidays with our respective familes. When the kids get older and they decide they relate more to one of the religions then that will be their choice. But they will not be raised as one or the other and will not have any kind of religious ceremonies.
this is exactly us as well.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:15 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Posted by snowflake08
Posted by SweetTooth
Posted by snowflake08
Same thing with us and though we will celebrate Catholic holidays with DH's family, our children will be raised Jewish
Neither of us are super religious - I just dont feel it is something children can choose on their own
they only know what we teach them - JMO
I'm not saying as little kids they will choose on their own, but when they are teenagers or adults and if they decide then that they relate to one religion better, then they can choose. Or maybe they will want to be buddhist, who knows?
Neither DH and I are religious at all and to raise our children as one religion or the other would be hypocritical for us. We don't attend services, or anything like that. Actually I would say we are probably both agonistic. So I guess thats really how we will be raising our kids but will celebrate holidays with our families.
I didnt mean you so im sorry if you thought i was referring to you
I just mean in general - I just feel that children need to have A foundation - I dont believe that you can be 1/2 catholic and 1/2 jewish - yes, your parents can each be one, that does NOT make a child half - In my opinion it is up to the parents to instill A belief in their children; or NONE
It is not like being Russian and Puerto Rican (as my children will be) they are nationalities and religions are not nationalities
Oh its ok, actually in writing my response I realized we are actually agonistic, lol. Spiritual but not really relating to one religion or the other. I had an epiphany, lol!
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:17 AM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
We are different religion if we practiced what our families do. We however are NOT going to introduce religion to the baby. We do however have Christmas and do Easter as that is what my famly does. But we will be letting the child when he/she is of the right age make that choice for themselves.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:20 AM |
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ASJ2008
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I'm Catholic and my DH is Jewish. We decided to have the baby baptized Catholic. 
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:34 AM |
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mommy-of-2-angels
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
DH is catholic and I am greek orthodox furtunately my hubby didn't give much of a fight we got married in my church he understood that it was important to me and I wanted my children to have the same experiances as me so he agreed to have them baptized greek also neither of us are really religous but I felt it was important to me b/c the only church we go to is mine (when we go) my hubby has been thinking about converting we have been married over 7 yrs and I have never pushed that on him he is making the decsion all on his own
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:38 AM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Posted by OctMommy08
I'm Catholic and my DH is Jewish. We decided to have the baby baptized Catholic.
Same here. But, we will embrace both holidays and expose the baby to Judaism. And when our child gets older and if (s)he feels closer to the Judaism I will support him or her 100%. I believe for catholic women, it is easier to embrace judaism beliefs then jewish women embracing catholicism beliefs. I say this b/c once I started dating DH and learning about his beliefs, it truly enriched my christianity (catholic) beliefs.
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| Posted 7/22/08 9:51 AM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Yes, I'm Jewish, DH is Catholic. Neither of us are religous, as a matter of fact, he's pretty anti-the catholic church. He's pretty anti-organized religion in general but will support whatever I want. I still haven't decided. Either way, we will as a family, celebrate both sets of holidays with our families as we've always done.
I will most likely have our child raised Jewish rather than nothing at all, though I don't know if I'll send  to Hebrew school or not....i'm still deciding. 
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| Posted 7/22/08 10:10 AM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Luckily, Dh is okay with raising our children Catholic. I am Catholic and he is Russian Orthodox (they are very similar anyway) His family celebrates our holidays instead of their own , so it worked out.
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| Posted 7/22/08 10:46 AM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
DH is Catholic and I am Christian. My husbands family is very religious, very. Mine...not so much anymore. I would say that I am more religious than my husband. My feeling on it is I want my child to have a a formal religious upbringing, whatever that may be. we have talked about it recently and we will likely bring up our child Catholic with my DH's parents playing a significant role. Although, I will not convert I will help with teaching and the process as much as I can.
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| Posted 7/22/08 10:55 AM |
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pnm1654
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
We actually spoke and agreed on this before we were married. We got married in a Greek Orthodox church (dh is GO) but our children would be raised Catholic (me). We still celebrate both though.
Message edited 7/22/2008 12:26:07 PM.
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| Posted 7/22/08 12:25 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Ya know what's funny? DH and I are BOTH Jewish and we have similar conversations as to how observant we want to be within our own faith and how we want it to apply our faith to our children.
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| Posted 7/22/08 12:38 PM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
Both dh and i arent religious but i have a stronger belief in my religion. So we decided that our children will be raised the same faith as me, but they still will learn about his. Plus we have other religions in the family my sils dh is another religion.. so they will get a wide variety.
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| Posted 7/22/08 12:40 PM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I am Greek Orthodox and Chris is Catholic. Our  will be brought up Greek Orthodox.
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| Posted 7/22/08 1:00 PM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I am Jewish and DH is Catholic... We were married by a priest and rabbi to represent both sides, and they will both be present at a welcoming ceremony for our baby after he/she is born.
There are some programs that exist which will educate a child in both religions...and we will be responsible for teaching about them at home.
We are two people with two backgrounds, and we plan to teach our children about both. Will it be easy? Probably not always. But we will work to make it work. It's important for us to expose them to both.
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| Posted 7/22/08 2:26 PM |
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sarahbelle
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I was raised in a mixed home, so I don't have a definitive view on my own faith. However, DH is Jewish and observant to some extent. We will raise the baby Jewish and we plan on having a bris for him. We will still have a Christmas tree in our home and we will celebrate Christmas with my family.
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| Posted 7/22/08 2:35 PM |
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Re: If you are diff religions than DH
I just saw this post and wanted to reply. I'm Jewish and my DH is Catholic (even went to catholic elementary and middle school). Both not very religious ourselves but our parents are. We were married by a cantor and a deacon. We decided as far as having children went that whatever the mother is, that's what the child should be since it would mostly be the mom teaching and running back and forth to religion classes.
We do celebrate all the holidays though w/our DS. My very conservative dad even comes over to decorate our Christmas tree. We also celebrated Passover w/his family this year b/c they were interested. I think it's nice and no one in the family has a problem with it.
JMO but I think it's good to have one definitive religion chosen but to then expose the child to all.
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