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WannaBeAMom11
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How would you handle?
My dd is 3.5. She loves playing with other kids and other kids she will follow their lead. We see my cousin's best friend's daughter every couple of months at parties or whatnot. She is 6 and just not very nice. She arrived yesterday and my dd said hi like 6x, the little girl looked at her and purposefully ignored her. I said "B, can you please say hello to P." Her response was "if I have too." She was purposely taunting dd and telling on her. Shoved my dd and I saw it then tried to tell me she tripped. Her mother does nothing. My aunt tells me to watch them because B is really a mean kid. I corrected B way too many times and DD too if she got out of line but B is just not a nice child.
I kept telling dd to just leave her alone bc dd kept telling me how B was being not nice. We don't see them a lot but I don't know how to handle these situations.
At the last party I ended up having to sit with the kids and it was the same thing over and over again because I didn't trust what would happen. This is the only kid I feel like I have to helicopter around and it's not my kid. Usually I let dd handle herself but this kid is a bully.
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luvmykids8
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How would you handle?
It breaks your heart when you see someone being mean to your child but unfortunately, kids can be mean.
I would limit your DD's time spent with this girl and when they have to be around each other I would make sure to be around to make sure my DD is not shoved, bullied, etc. And if it DOES happen again I would have no problem talking to the child's mother. That is unacceptable behavior. Sorry your child has to go through that!
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| Posted 11/9/16 10:28 AM |
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Re: How would you handle?
Posted by luvmykids8
It breaks your heart when you see someone being mean to your child but unfortunately, kids can be mean.
I would limit your DD's time spent with this girl and when they have to be around each other I would make sure to be around to make sure my DD is not shoved, bullied, etc. And if it DOES happen again I would have no problem talking to the child's mother. That is unacceptable behavior. Sorry your child has to go through that!
This!
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| Posted 11/9/16 10:29 AM |
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ap123
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Re: How would you handle?
She sounds like she's not a very nice kid.
You said she ignored your daughter when she said 'hi', does that mean that your daughter is the one initiating the interactions? I wouldn't think a 6 year old wants to play with a much younger child, so maybe you can just steer your child towards younger, nicer children in the group.
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| Posted 11/9/16 10:39 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: How would you handle?
Posted by ap123
She sounds like she's not a very nice kid.
You said she ignored your daughter when she said 'hi', does that mean that your daughter is the one initiating the interactions? I wouldn't think a 6 year old wants to play with a much younger child, so maybe you can just steer your child towards younger, nicer children in the group.
I have a 6 yo DD and if a 3.5 or whatever age that is younger said hi to my child and she did not answer back and I was there in the room .. you bet I would make sure my DD would acknowledge the child. I am sorry but it's the parent who has to teach the child manners, basic manners, especially at 6 years old!!
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| Posted 11/9/16 10:42 AM |
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ap123
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Re: How would you handle?
Posted by luvmykids8
Posted by ap123
She sounds like she's not a very nice kid.
You said she ignored your daughter when she said 'hi', does that mean that your daughter is the one initiating the interactions? I wouldn't think a 6 year old wants to play with a much younger child, so maybe you can just steer your child towards younger, nicer children in the group.
I have a 6 yo DD and if a 3.5 or whatever age that is younger said hi to my child and she did not answer back and I was there in the room .. you bet I would make sure my DD would acknowledge the child. I am sorry but it's the parent who has to teach the child manners, basic manners, especially at 6 years old!!
I completely agree. I think I misunderstood the question, I thought it was 'how do i avoid my daughter getting treated badly by a mean kid". My answer to that is basically, stop you daughter from initiating play with her.
The mother of the 6 year old obviously doesn't monitor her behavior or manners, but the OP can't change that, it's beyond her control .
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| Posted 11/9/16 10:53 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: How would you handle?
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Posted by ap123
She sounds like she's not a very nice kid.
You said she ignored your daughter when she said 'hi', does that mean that your daughter is the one initiating the interactions? I wouldn't think a 6 year old wants to play with a much younger child, so maybe you can just steer your child towards younger, nicer children in the group.
I have a 6 yo DD and if a 3.5 or whatever age that is younger said hi to my child and she did not answer back and I was there in the room .. you bet I would make sure my DD would acknowledge the child. I am sorry but it's the parent who has to teach the child manners, basic manners, especially at 6 years old!!
I completely agree. I think I misunderstood the question, I thought it was 'how do i avoid my daughter getting treated badly by a mean kid". My answer to that is basically, stop you daughter from initiating play with her.
The mother of the 6 year old obviously doesn't monitor her behavior or manners, but the OP can't change that, it's beyond her control .
yep I agree - seems that the 6 yo's mom doesn't seem to monitor her DD's behavior and OP can't control that.
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Re: How would you handle?
Posted by luvmykids8
It breaks your heart when you see someone being mean to your child but unfortunately, kids can be mean.
I would limit your DD's time spent with this girl and when they have to be around each other I would make sure to be around to make sure my DD is not shoved, bullied, etc. And if it DOES happen again I would have no problem talking to the child's mother. That is unacceptable behavior. Sorry your child has to go through that!
This. I would say something to the girl's mother. And if it continues, just remove your daughter from the situation as best as possible. Rather than you sit at the children's table, take your daughter to the adult's table.
Also, is it necessary that your cousin's best friend be invited to functions so often? I see my cousin's best friend maybe once a year, if that.
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| Posted 11/9/16 11:47 AM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Re: How would you handle?
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Posted by luvmykids8
It breaks your heart when you see someone being mean to your child but unfortunately, kids can be mean.
I would limit your DD's time spent with this girl and when they have to be around each other I would make sure to be around to make sure my DD is not shoved, bullied, etc. And if it DOES happen again I would have no problem talking to the child's mother. That is unacceptable behavior. Sorry your child has to go through that!
This. I would say something to the girl's mother. And if it continues, just remove your daughter from the situation as best as possible. Rather than you sit at the children's table, take your daughter to the adult's table.
Also, is it necessary that your cousin's best friend be invited to functions so often? I see my cousin's best friend maybe once a year, if that.
They are unfortunately usually the only kids at my cousin's parties besides my cousin's 1 year old. My cousin invites her best friend everywhere, they are attached at the hip.
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| Posted 11/9/16 4:59 PM |
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stillasecret
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How would you handle?
That's so hard. I recently went through something similar with my DD and one of her school friends.
Sadly, the only thing you can do is keep talking and role playing with your daughter. We got a few books from the Library that had "mean kids" in them and just kept telling her "if someone doesn't want to play with you walk away and find someone else that does. Because you are a great girl and plenty of kids want to play with you".
And she really came around and started walking away from the other girl.
You can say something to the Mom but I'm sure it will only start drama. And these situations are going to come up again when you aren't there so I personally think it's best to teach her how to cope.
Good luck.
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| Posted 11/10/16 10:20 AM |
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Re: How would you handle?
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Posted by ap123
She sounds like she's not a very nice kid.
You said she ignored your daughter when she said 'hi', does that mean that your daughter is the one initiating the interactions? I wouldn't think a 6 year old wants to play with a much younger child, so maybe you can just steer your child towards younger, nicer children in the group.
I have a 6 yo DD and if a 3.5 or whatever age that is younger said hi to my child and she did not answer back and I was there in the room .. you bet I would make sure my DD would acknowledge the child. I am sorry but it's the parent who has to teach the child manners, basic manners, especially at 6 years old!!
I completely agree. I think I misunderstood the question, I thought it was 'how do i avoid my daughter getting treated badly by a mean kid". My answer to that is basically, stop you daughter from initiating play with her.
The mother of the 6 year old obviously doesn't monitor her behavior or manners, but the OP can't change that, it's beyond her control .
yep I agree - seems that the 6 yo's mom doesn't seem to monitor her DD's behavior and OP can't control that.
Yep!
My 6 year old plays with younger children all the time.
She loves playing with her 3 year old cousin and at the park the other day a 3 year old girl came over to her and wanted to play and she had a blast with her.
That is BS that a 6 year old wouldn't want to play with a much younger child so that makes it ok
Eff that.
I'd speak to the kid's mom- she is the one to blame here.
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