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shapla79
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How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
DS (19 months) usually listens to me most of the time when I ask him not to do something, but every once in a while he gets into this mood where all he wants to do is hit me or pull my hair when I'm sitting on the couch. I tried telling him no very sternly, but he just doesn't listen. He just smiles and keeps doing it. Aside from telling him no in a stern voice, what else can I do to make him understand that it's not nice to hit people?
When DH tells him no the same exact way I do, DS immediately starts crying and stops his behavior 
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
pick him up and put him in his room.
for us, once I decided I was not scared to hurt his feelings or have him be mad at me, things changed.
dh on the other hand feels like I gave birth to his best friend, his words use to stop josh...not any longer though.
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:42 AM |
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Elbee
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
time outs suppernanny style. That's what works for us.
1. Give warning in a stern voice -- then if it continures ...
2. Put DS in corner, get down to his level and tell him in a stern voice why he is going into time out.
3. Ignore him and Make him stay for 1 minute -putting him back if neccessary - he WILL get the point eventually.
4. Go back, get down to his level and calmly tell him why he was put in time out. Tell him to say sorry (he may be young for that, but it's good to train him on it). Tell him you love him and give him a hug.
5. Carry on as if nothing happened.
ETA: we started this around 15 months or so and it worked for us
Message edited 12/3/2009 9:49:31 AM.
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:44 AM |
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DmarieK
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
We're going through this now too...not with the hitting though. Rylan will NOT listen to anything I say...EVER. I have tried asking nicely...tried yelling and unfortunately i've also tried screaming...lol...bad I know. He laughs at me and tries to do whatever it is again before I get to him.
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:48 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
miki does this sometimes, I tell her to stop, she ignores me or tells me "no, mommy, don't talk to me like that"
i see red 
I compose myself, tell her once more to stop
if she does not listen, she goes into time out for 2 minutes
after TO, I tell her to say sorry and that she has to listen to me
she says "I am SO sorry mommy, we are going to be best friends forever"
which melts my heart and all is right with the world...
I find the stricter I am with her, the more she listens...my kid is the type that NEEDS discipline
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:56 AM |
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pickles16
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
Posted by pinkandblue
she says "I am SO sorry mommy, we are going to be best friends forever"
 I can't, thats too sweet
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:57 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
Posted by pickles16
Posted by pinkandblue
she says "I am SO sorry mommy, we are going to be best friends forever"
I can't, thats too sweet
she knows how to get to me 
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| Posted 12/3/09 9:58 AM |
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Mkr09
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
Posted by Elbee
time outs suppernanny style. That's what works for us.
1. Give warning in a stern voice -- then if it continures ...
2. Put DS in corner, get down to his level and tell him in a stern voice why he is going into time out.
3. Ignore him and Make him stay for 1 minute -putting him back if neccessary - he WILL get the point eventually.
4. Go back, get down to his level and calmly tell him why he was put in time out. Tell him to say sorry (he may be young for that, but it's good to train him on it). Tell him you love him and give him a hug.
5. Carry on as if nothing happened.
ETA: we started this around 15 months or so and it worked for us
We started timeouts around this time too. We would remove her from the situation and she would get put in her PNP for 1 min. She knows now that she has to say sorry and give us a kiss. We just took down our PNP and now she is doing timeouts on a kitchen chair. She is almost 2 and will not get off the chair. She will sit there saying "sorry mommy, sorry daddy" over and over but does not get down until we tell her to. She still challenges us but she's getting the hint
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| Posted 12/3/09 10:18 AM |
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
OMG, this would totally make me melt
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| Posted 12/3/09 10:23 AM |
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shapla79
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Re: How to discipline a toddler who won't take you seriously?
Thanks for the responses ladies! I guess we're starting timeouts with the next tantrum. I hope this works!
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