How do you know when it's time to move on to IVF?

Background info: I am 33, DH will be 33 in 3 weeks. We have a 2 1/2 year old DD, who we conceived on our 4th cycle trying (so, no problems then). We began trying for #2 in April last year. My cycles are regular, 28-day cycles, and I ovulate on my own (I temped for a while). I had some mid-cycle spotting issues, so when it came time to TTC, I pressed my OB to test me. Every single test I had done came back normal. DH had an SA and my OB said it was not great (some morphology issues) and that we should see an RE.

We began to see an RE in October. The RE said there was NO problem with DH's #s at all. Confusing, but good to hear. Since then, I have had 3 IUIs - 2 with Clomid, 1 without (I had a cyst). All 3 failed. I am not spotting anymore due to the Clomid, which is great, but clearly isn't helping me get pregnant. This month we are trying again with the Clomid. In my 2ww, we are going to meet with the RE for an IVF consult.

Thing is - I am not very comfortable with the idea of IVF. Mostly due to my religious beliefs. And I know it's something *I* need to come to terms with, one way or another. I think part of my issue is that since we are unexplained secondary infertility, that supposedly all our parts "work" and HAVE worked before -- when do I decide to move on? I am SO SO torn and confused. I want to be be pregnant SO BADLY - I want to give DD a sibling in the worst way. But I just don't know what to do.

Is there other testing that can be done? I just HATE not having an ANSWER for this inability to conceive a child. I feel like there HAS to be one, and if we knew, we could fix it.

Ugh, I dunno. I realize this post is more of a rambling therapy session than anything, but if you have any thoughts at all (if you could understand at all what I am saying/asking!), I'd love to hear them.

Thanks for reading, if you got this far.

Re: How do you know when it's time to move on to IVF?

I could have written this post, except for the DD part. We don't have any kids YET:)

I am Roman Catholic, not strict but I do practice, and I do believe. I had brief, fleeting thoughts, out of guilt, but in the end, when I talk (pray) to my god, I believe he has given me resources to help move along the baby making process. In the end, its really all up to him and in his hands, but I don't believe I am a sinner because I am taking full advantage of what has been given to me. What will be will be.

I understand your frustration, totally . I have been on this ride for way too long, and sincerely hoped every month (for almost 2 years) that it would happen. Every test came back FINE.

After much thought and prayer, we finally went to see a RE, and it has been the best decision I ever made. I have a plan, I have HELP (medically speaking) and now I have hope.

I wish you the best, Good luck in whatever you decided.

Re: How do you know when it's time to move on to IVF?

Thanks for your response, maybemommy.