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TiggerBounce
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How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Our DS is 3 1/2. Our niece will be 4 in January.
We live in a small 2BR apartment.
They own a 4BR house, with a decent sized yard, with a swing set and she (the daughter) has things that DS doesn't have (tv in her BR, electronic toys, 2 dogs etc).
DS is starting to say things like "I want a swing set." "I want a dog." "I want . . ." and asking for things that our niece has. And he says "But V has a . . ."
How do I explain to him why she has these things and he doesn't?
Some things we don't "want" him to have and some things we just can't afford.
It breaks my heart immensely that I can not afford to get him these things, but we simply can't. 
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Posted 10/28/10 11:12 AM  |
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CookiePuss
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Honestly, there will always be someone in your life that has more.
Never compare yourself.
Give your DS things that matter...your time, your love. He won't remember the swingset in the backyard but he will remember playing with you on ANY swing. He wont' remember the backyard...just you playing baseball with him in ANY field. Children want love, companionship and understanding...not things.
Message edited 10/28/2010 11:16:22 AM.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:15 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Posted by morgie124
Honestly, there will always be someone in your life that has more.
Never compare yourself.
Give your DS things that matter...your time, your love. He won't remember the swingset in the backyard but he will remember playing with you on ANY swing. He wont' remember the backyard...just you playing baseball with him in ANY field. Children want love, companionship and understanding...not things.
ITA!!!! And who knows if they can really afford all those things or are just putting it on credit cards. It catches up eventually.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:18 AM |
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TiggerBounce
The Prince & Princess
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Posted by morgie124
Honestly, there will always be someone in your life that has more.
Never compare yourself.
Give your DS things that matter...your time, your love. He won't remember the swingset in the backyard but he will remember playing with you on ANY swing. He wont' remember the backyard...just you playing baseball with him in ANY field. Children want love, companionship and understanding...not things.
You are so right. I lost sight of that. It happens that the father (DH's brother) is VERY competitive, so I feel like I am always on the defense to explain why my child doesn't have what his child does.
Thank you 
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:21 AM |
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chelle
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by morgie124
Honestly, there will always be someone in your life that has more.
Never compare yourself.
Give your DS things that matter...your time, your love. He won't remember the swingset in the backyard but he will remember playing with you on ANY swing. He wont' remember the backyard...just you playing baseball with him in ANY field. Children want love, companionship and understanding...not things.
ITA!!!! And who knows if they can really afford all those things or are just putting it on credit cards. It catches up eventually.
ITA as well.
A lot of "stuff" can mean many different things. Compensating for lack of other things.
What you "see" isn't always what you get.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:21 AM |
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TiggerBounce
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
Posted by jellybean1420
And who knows if they can really afford all those things or are just putting it on credit cards. It catches up eventually.
SO very true! We have one credit card, but seldom use it- b/c we're finally ahead of the game (in that aspect) and want to stay there!
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:22 AM |
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TiggerBounce
The Prince & Princess
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Re: How do you deal withcomparisons/competition with 3-4 yr olds?
You're all making valid points that I overlooked. Thank you so much!! 
Funny, b/c a few days ago I was thinking to myself "Money doesn't buy happiness"
I reconnected w/ a friend recently and she's all about the $$$- I admit, I was envious, but I would not give up what I have for money.
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| Posted 10/28/10 11:23 AM |
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