How do I stop people from making me feel bad...???

I am pregnant with DS#2 and I am getting tons of pressure to EBF!!! To be perfectly honest I am incredibly grossed out by the thought of breast feeding. I was with DS and it effected me negatively. How do I get people off my case??!!??!! I have no intentions on breast feeding this one unlike DS#1 where I tried for a 2 weeks and quit.

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I only breast fed a couple of weeks...and I actually I really pumped.

I understand why people ask...just topic of conversation especially knowing how time consuming it is. But for people to make you feel bad is another thing.

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Just say you're not interested. Or, if you really want them off your back say that you will try and then say it didn't work out...

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I hate when I hear things like this!! No one ever said a thing to me about my choice to formula feed..I had little comments here and there after my first was born..from other mothers of all people, asking me why I didn't. I would smile and say it wasn't for me, I thought formula was great nutrition and I was happiest doing it this way.

Do what YOU want to do!! Not what anyone else says. And do NOT defend your decision. Just simply say its what is best for YOU. Good luck!!!!

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Tell them if they think the baby should be EBF, then they can do it

I never had any intentions to BF, and then I didn't get any milk, so the decision was made for me

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I would say:

Your boobs, your decision. They can BF your kid if they feel like it.

But in the end it does not matter, it's really dawm if you do, dawm if you don't. BFing, daycare, preschool vs no preschool, vaccination, parenting style, time out, CIO.

You just do what YOU feel you want to do. And tell people just that. You let them have their deal. Now it's YOUR deal.

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dont pay them any mind. they dont live your life. BF didnt work out for me either between nothing really coming in, DS not latching..i had the dr. in the ER berate me for not BF'ing (and at the time i was 4 Days PP..nothing had come in yet), a lactation consultant be all snooty with me.

Please..people need to get off their high horses and shut their mouths.

You do whats good for you and your babies and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

I had a nutjob lady at my trainstation (who was up my arse about using her daycare services) ask me about BF'ing. I said "this isnt something i want to discuss with someone at the train station"
she continued to go into the benefits of it and i said im well aware..thanks.

Just tell them its not up for discussion

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Well, stop allowing them to make you feel bad! You're your own person with a right to make decisions for you and your child based on however you feel. It is no one's place to impose their thoughts on you.
Why should you feel bad? It's not what you want. If they want your child to be breast fed so badly, tell them they can do it for you.

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Thanks ladies ofcourse your all right and I need to just either tell them to STFU or shrug it off but some days (like today) it gets to me that people try to guilt me into things. My DS is perfectly healthy and he was FF.

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Say you can't for medical reasons. They don't have to know more than that and that usually makes people stop asking questions. I couldn't BF DS1 truly due to medical reasons. I did get a few annoying questions/comments from people and that usually stopped them from inquiring more. I wanted to with DS1, and will try with DS2, but if it doesn't work out, I'm okay with that too.

There's always going to be someone who makes you feel badly about a parenting decision that you make. There is nothing wrong with ff your child and your baby will be perfectly healthy that way too.

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People just always think they know best, it doesn't matter what you do, someone will tell you that you are doing it wrong. My SIL is constantly telling me about the things "wrong" with DS, most of the time I let it roll off my back to keep the peace (until we get home and then DH or my sister get an earful ) but sometimes I just lay into her because she has no effing right to judge how I parent.

I'm sorry people are trying to make you feel guilty (especially on something that has no bearing on their lives and is none of their business!) You know what is best for you and your family, I'd ignore them or tell them how you feed your child isn't up to them.

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Tell them that you used to be a man so your boobs are fake.

Or, tell them that you can't for medical reasons but your DH is going to give it a try.

No one ever gave me any grief but I have to say if they did I would tell them that they really have no say in the matter and that I know what is best for me and my kid.