how do i do this team green thing?

so a little backstory. i am pg with #2. with #1, i wanted to know the gender and my husband didnt, but we found out at our 20 week sono. even before i became pregnant with this one, my husband would ask me if we could please not find out the gender whenever i was pregnant again. i never agreed to that, bc i am a planner and anal and like to know. so now, we have the 20 week sono on valentines day and my husband is really pushing for us to not find out and i am DYING!!!!!!! how can i come to a place of compromise and let him have this experience when the control freak side of me is just screaming in frustration??? is it really worth it to be team green?? is it as amazing as people say it is? do you buy clothes ahead of time? and most importantly, HOW ON EARTH do you get through the last 5 months of your pregnancy not knowing???

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I have no advice as I caved in Friday and found out. My sister however found out with all 3 of her children and never told anyone that she knew. May be that's an option but you'd have to be strong and not tell anyone you know. Good luck!

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I think since he compromised with your first child that you should leave it a surprise for him this time. It's fair.

Plus, with a first child there is SO MUCH to get, and this time you at least have things from your first child to get you through the early days.

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I say wait it out for him..think about it...whether you find out at 20 weeks or at birth, you'll eventually know. I know its tempting and hard to not know but if it means a bunch to him and you found out with your first, why not do it for him? I think the end result will be awesome.

I found out with my boys only because it didn't matter all that much to us BUT had my DH really wanted to stay team green for one, I absolutely would have! I actually envy those who do so, I think the experience would be awesome.
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how do i do this team green thing?

I am team green and am so glad we are. The hardest part was the 20 week sono bc it's so tempting to ask but once we made it past that its been amazing (although at week 35 I started to wish I knew). I'm 38 weeks and am looking fwd to labor etc bc I can't wait to know what our baby is.
Dh was not on board at first...he really wanted to know. We agreed to not find out at the 20 week appt and if at 25-30 weeks he still wanted to know we would have considered paying for an elective sono to find out. But he got over it and loves when everyone guesses and is excited to be able to announce it in the waiting room and see the reactions.

I'm a planner too but there is so much gender neutral stuff out there it doesn't matter...and you already have one child so if they are the same sex you'll have some things.

I would def try to be team green for your husband...it'll be worth it

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Its hard, I am the same way. With DD I found out, had her room perfect and ready, a closet full of clothes, etc. This one, my DH does not want to know so I am trying my best to stick to that. I don't want to do the babys room until after he/she is born now and don't want to buy clothes which is no fun! Also, its been 7 years since I was pg with my DD so I do need alot of stuff. So I am now making myself nuts over picking strollers and carseats just to keep me occupied. I go for 20 week sono feb 12 but as long as DH doesn't cave, I am going to stay strong for him. I look at it like this, the first half of this pregnancy has gone so fast, I can hang in there the 2nd half. He just better have a savings going for me so I can shop when the baby arrives! Good luck!

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I think you owe it to him to stay team green this time. It's a once in a lifetime experience for you both if you stop at two kids.

5 months goes by fast. I can't say that I didn't have my moments of frustration not knowing with my 2nd but in the end, I replay that moment finding out at birth over and over rather than those moments of frustration. It was so much better than finding out at 20 weeks with our first. we loved it so much we are green for #3!

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I'm on the opposite end...I don't want to find out but my DH (and kids) want to know. We didn't find out the first two times, so I am probably going to compromise and find out this time. I know my DH knows its not what I wanted to do, so he wants to have a gender reveal party to make it special for me. It was tempting not to know, but an awesome feeling to find out the sex!

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Team green for the 2 nd time around. It was the best feeling in the world when I had dd and we didn't know. I thought girl the whole time and everyone thought boy. They were in shock it was so much fun with everyone guessing.

You know, it was hard to not plan as much and I only had 1 sono so I wasn't tempted that often.

This time we are doing the same but I find it eaisier b/c we already have stuff from dd gender neutral and I just pulled out the most gender neutral clothes and that's all a new ken needs. We got so much stuff when dd was born from people I was set for her first year by the time she was 1 week old. They don't need much in the begining. A car seat, somewhere to sleep, a boob or bottle :), and diapers. You will be fine.

I am all for being team green. It was amazing hearing its a girl after all the hard work for 9 months than 16 hr labor including 4 hrs of pushing.

Even tho I think this one is a boy, I'm soooooo excited for delivery.

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I was team green. It was definitely tough and tempting to give in and find out the gender at times, but I was really happy to be surprised in the end. As far as clothing, I picked up a few gender neutral outfits at Carters before the baby was born, but DD is 4 months old now and I haven't had to buy her a single outfit since - family, friends, and neighbors went crazy buying her clothes after she was born! It was exciting for them to wait and see too. Good luck!