having a really rough time with this

I know this should be one of the happiest times in my life but I'm having a really tough time with this. I am only 8 weeks and every day I feel like I am getting more and more depressed and anxious. I know that it has to be the hormones but I'm on the verge of tears every day for no reason. I don't feel horrible, but I just don't feel "right". I have no appetite, am always fatigued and just have this "distaste" when it comes to the thought of food. My body and mind just feel off, I don't really know how to describe it. The only people that know that I'm PG are DH, my mom and a couple of close girlfriends and I can't talk to any of them. DH just doesn't understand and is getting a little tired of me being cranky and depressed all the time, I am not close with mom, and all my girlfriends are single so I feel like I can't or don't want to burden them. Every day I overanalyze my symptoms and fear that I'm "not pregnant" anymore for no reason. I'm distracted and p*ssed off at work all the time and just can't enjoy this time.

Did anyone else feel like this? I'm really hoping it's just the hormones and that it will go away. I'm generally a pretty happy person, but lately, I'm just really in the dumps and feeling alone.

TIA for reading.

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I could have written this post at 8 weeks! I had a really, really hard time the first 3 months of my preganancy and am just beginning to feel more like myself. Its a huge adjustment, and your hormones are everywhere. I cried everyday and was convinced I was going to lose my job b/c I couldn't focus on a single thing, except my symptoms.
Try to relax, stressing over every little thing is not healthy for you or your baby. As for feeling fatigued, it is completely normal, I napped every single day and would still be in bed by 9. Your energy will start to come back!
As for food, just try to eat-eat whatever it is that you find appealing even if that means having french fries for dinner-you're in "survival mode" right now, in a few weeks when you start feeling better you can start to concentrate on eating other things that maybe are too difficult now to stomach. I lived on bagels for 12 weeks!
Feel Better and be proud of yourself, you are nurturing a new life!!
Here's some hugs!!

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I am very sorry you are having a tough time. I too have been very nervous since finding out i'm pregnant. I also found this article and posted it yesterday. You might want to read it...it did set my mind at ease a bit.
http://www.lifamilies.com/chat/topic-198038-1.html

I think one of the things that helps most is knowing that other people are nervous too. Feeling "off" is also one of those things. I have no appetite in the morning and the thought of food makes me feel sick. However, i make myself eat some yogurt and usually once i eat i do feel better. You are definitely not alone!

Another thing to do that sometimes helps brighten a mood is to make a list of all the good things in life. Things in the past that make you smile and things you look forward to in the future. This always helps me

Even though your friends may not be close to where you are in life remember that everyone on this board understands and will be there for you

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The beginning is so rough - your body is going through so many changes and you don't know what to make of it. On top of that, you are exhausted, feel off, are nauseous and just feel awful! I promise it gets better - and just think of the light at the end of the tunnel

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I felt the same way! I was always tired and being one who likes to eat, not having the stomach to eat much was very depressing! Oh, and I would fall asleep all the time at work!

However, around 12 weeks or so it gets better! Your body is going through so many changes right now that it is hard for it to keep up! I remember my dr. saying the fetus is like a parasite.....it sucks the life right out of you, but when you feel that baby move and when that baby is born, you totally forget the way you felt at 8 weeks!

Good Luck to you!

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First I want to say I know how you feel. Honestly I one of those women who just really doesnt like being pregnant. I hate not feeling like myself at all, and let me tell you at 26 weeks I still feel "off" most days.
I remember being about 10 weeks and crying to DH that I felt so alone in all of this because I had no one to talk to, he didnt understand, and I was so afraid that something was going to happen to the baby.
My first suggestion is to tell someone who you can talk to. I know its early but sometimes thats the best thing for you mentally. Once I had someone I could "complain to", someone who got it, I felt much better. Also tell someone who will be so excited for you. I told my cousin who practically started jumping up and down, it was nice to have that level of excitement when I was so filled with anxiety that I was having a hard time being happy about the pregnancy.

Even though I dont like pregnancy, it gets easier in some ways. As you start getting closer, see / hear the baby at your Dr appts, you become more attached and less worried. Once you feel your baby kick inside of you, its an amazing feeling! Its still makes me and DH chuckle to think that there is a person inside of me! And give your DH time, I hated when my DH said he needed time to adjust but its true. I know for us it took more time for it to become real to DH, longer for him to get what I was going through, and longer for him to become attached to his unborn child. And if he is sick of hearing you complain, tell him when a life takes over his body and his hormones are raging and he has no idea of what normal is with his whole body, then he can make the rules but until then he has to be quiet, supportive and listen! (obviously I have been there)

And dont forget we are always here, probably feeling the same way as you!!!!

Message edited 9/14/2007 9:16:22 AM.

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Im sorry you are feeling so bad. As far as your fatigue, no appetite, etc---this is going to get better! I know I was miserable the first few weeks and then all of a sudden I felt myself again---you are going to feel better!
As far as worrying, I think a lot of people feel this way, we are all here for you any time you need-----I know it must be hard not to be able to talk to anyone----I think you should try talking to your DH---even though you feel like you are going thru this alone, you are a team and he needs to be there for you too. My DH didn't really understand what was going on with me----I had him read the chapter in "girlfriends guide to pregnancy" (which i recommend) for partners, after he read it he finally started to understand what was going on with me (emotional, sick, tired) was totally normal and to be expected.

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Thank you ladies so much for responses!! It really helps to know that I'm not some freak who hates being PG when everyone else loves it!! I'm just going to take a deep breath and try to be more positive! Hopefully this will pass soon!

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First, I'm so sorry that you're having a tough time right now, but you should know that your feelings are totally normal. Stop judging yourself and feeling like a bad pregnant lady! Being pregnant is not always fun, sometimes it's just downright miserable and it's totally normal and totally fine to be sad, nervous, whatever.... Second, it really does get better in the second trimester so just hang in there.

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I so sorry to hear how you are feeling. It is hard in the beginning. Everyone has their ways of dealing with it.Don't beat yourself up about it. Maybe since you don't really have anyone to talk to about your pregnancy,you should look up classes for pregnant women,meet some new firends that can relate to you and you to them.I hope and pray that you feel better.If you ever need someone to talk to or someone just to listen,I'm here. Good luck. Take care.

P.S Just that fact that you are expressing your worries shows that you care and are going to be a GREAT mommy.

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i read your post and could relate to so much of it! while i am not too worried about the baby, i feel fatigued and sick to my stomache all day long. the fatigue is the worst because i am a teacher and i feel that my students aren't getting as great a teacher this year as i was in the past. i love my job and am sad i am too tired to do it properly.

last night we told dh's family and everyone kept telling me to "enjoy it, it's such a special time." i am so excited for the baby to come, but i do NOT feel special and feel a little guilty that i think pregnancy sux. but, i keep hearing that it gets better, so let's hang in there a few more weeks!

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I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, it will get better

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To tell you that I know how you feel is an understatement.

I was an emotional basketcase for at least the first 10 weeks of my pg and feel that it was my hormones all out of wack.

This too shall pass..and tell your DH to cut you some slack or he will have SEVERAL hormonal pregnant ladies on his azz .

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Posted by LIBOUND

This too shall pass..and tell your DH to cut you some slack or he will have SEVERAL hormonal pregnant ladies on his azz .

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Its your hormones!! I'm going through the same thing, I cry all the time and I just feel so depressed and nausaus alll day long.... ThankGod for my 2 year old she keeps me going! You start to feel much better in the 2nd trimester. Its good to know that you have us here to talk to.

I'm 6 weeks today.

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No it's not strange at all how you feel. I remember feeling that way, and I still get moody sometimes now and get upset much more easily than in the past.

While I wasn't depressed, I was weepy and felt like crap most of the time. Exhausted beyond belief and nauseous on and off through the day. I never vomited, but I had nausea a lot and tons of food aversions! I felt bad because I wasn't eating enough healthy foods in the beginning, but at that point, you need to eat whatever you can stomach.

Also, my temperment definitely changed. I used to get angry easier than I do now--must be the hormones!

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Posted by jambalady

Posted by LIBOUND

This too shall pass..and tell your DH to cut you some slack or he will have SEVERAL hormonal pregnant ladies on his azz .

Thanks for having my back!!!

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I also could have written your post a few weeks ago. What you are experiencing is NORMAL and it does get better, I promise! I am doing much better now, approaching 12 weeks.

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It is your hormones! This all sounds normal! I had the dr specifically tell DH that I was going to be tired all the time and this was normal and I should rest whenever I wanted! I also think once you tell everone you are pg you wont feel so alone with it.

with me some days I feel great other I feel like ive been hit by a truck. Try to go for a walk everday at least once (do you have a dog?) Also, put everything else (chores, work...) on the backbruner and listen to your body first.

Hope all of us in 1st trimester start feeling better sooooooooooooon!!!!

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I have experienced this and also I have read over and over this is VERY normal during the first trimester.

It might not help you feel better but it is....as much as you think it won't pass - it will. You will see that once you get to week 14 you will be totally different.

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For me the first tri was not fun. I was sick and tired all of the time. Now that I am in my second tri I feel 100 times better and am starting to enjoy my pregnancy.

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It's the hormones and the morning sickness. I felt a little resentful of the baby for a while, like she was making me sick, which she was. And I felt very apprehensive for a while even though I really wanted this. But eventually those feelings fade and you will be happy preggo girl. Once you feel the kicks, which happen well into the 2nd trimester, you will feel so much better. Hang in there.