having a mental breakdown

so I am only 6 weeks and already, i have noticed a small stretch mark on my thigh, forget my boobs, they will be a mess within a few more weeks, I can see very faint stretch marks already coming couple that with being already 20+ lbs overweight how am I going to last 9 months without completely falling apart? seriously, I am already not happy with how I look, I do not want to gain weight but know that undoubtedly I will ... im just bummed. i have already started taking long walks at night but it isnt going to make a big difference

my plan was to loose 20 lbs before getting preggo, we were fortunate to get our BFP after just 1 month TTC. Of course we are thrilled but I cant help but he a little sad knowing that I am going to be a monster mess within a few months

vent over, i guess, for now

Message edited 9/5/2009 11:39:54 AM.

Re: having a mental breakdown

This was me exactly at 4 weeks! We were not planning it at all and I was really hoping to loose 20 lbs before starting to try.

What helped me deal with it, was that I had to remember that this extra boob and tummy weight is for baby.

In the end what happened was that I got the worst attack of MS at 6 weeks, lost 15 lbs so far. I'm at 14 weeks now, and still not able to eat much. A part of me is really relieved, but I feel like my boobs and belly are now in a race to stick out more than the other. I feel like an alien.

Hang in there and concentrate on the happy healthy baby inside

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i know how you feel. i gained 20 lbs while we were TTC, so you can imagine my worry when we first found out we were pregnant. luckily, i didn't start gaining weight until my 2nd trimester, and i gained it very healthfully. the other big positive was DH's attitude. all throughout he let me know he still found me sexy, and that's such a great feeling. right now, you really don't know what your body is going to look like 6, 7, 8 months from now. i was terrified, but managed to gain just a big pregnant belly and i actually love my pregnant body. but i did have the same worries, it's very normal to. but i didn't start loving my pregnant body until i had a defined baby belly, and that didn't happen until about 22 weeks.

just hang in there (i know, so much easier said than done), and remember why your body is changing. it really helps put things in perspective.

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thanks girls. and i dont want to sound ungrateful for this blessing but im just worried its partly hormones im sure and I will just have to take it one day at a time. weight has just always been a battle for me and im kind of scared i am going to try to get back to the gym a few days a week and I just need to remember to make healthy decisions with food. at 6 weeks, luckily, i havent really had any m/s (though I know it can still be just around the corner). I dont think eating will be an issue for me

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aww, friend...don't have a mental breakdown!!!!

first of all, is it possible that you had these faint stretch marks BEFORE, and are just noticing it now because you're more critical of your body right now?? bc i know i have stretch marks on parts of my body that are just there from whenever i have gained or lost weight in the past.

ALSO, if you read stuff about gaining weight during pregnancy, if you're NOT overweight, you should ideally gain 25-35 lbs, but if you ARE, you don't gain as much. so figure that you're NOT going to gain as much as you might think.

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I know how you feel I was 20lbs more then I wanted to be when I got pregnant and gained way more then I should have during this pregnancy.

As much as I hate the way I look, I will worry when the baby is born and I am confident that I will lose what I gained with hard work.

Re: having a mental breakdown

Posted by mrskparetta
I dont think eating will be an issue for me

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i just wanted to give you many

you know i was way more than 20 pounds overweight when i got pregnant...but because of the diabetes diet - i didn't gain much...but i feel your pain so badly...

i promise you - once you have that 'baby belly' - you'll love it....(i never got one because with the diet - i only gained 2 pounds ((because i was so large to begin with))...so i would've killed for the baby belly)..

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dont worry about the stretchy marks -- theyre just little battle scars!!!

KP - you KNOW how bad my stretch marks are on my boobs, and now my thighs - but theyve already started to fade and Sophie's not even here yet!!

its all part of being a mommy
when I first got them Anthony said well youre just gonna have mama boobies now, not teenager boobies made me feel soooo much better but it is true.

and lets be honest, when did we ever walk around in teeny bikinis anyway?


definitely do lots of walking, and make sure to eat healthy! lots of fruit! i was lucky to only gain 19lbs, but I think part of it was bc i didnt gain much in the first trimester (i watched what i ate) and its been very difficult to eat much of anything now that Sophie's fat butt is pushing my stomach into my throat

I LOVE YOU!!! and so does your goddaugher

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I am completely with you. I'm holding onto my sanity by a thread because i've been very weight-conscious the last 4 years and it's slipping away much quicker than I thought. I try to eat healthy but i'm SO HUNGRY that I'm eating a lot. I feel like I'm packing on the weight and I'm only 10 weeks! Plus my skin is breaking out and the weight is going straight to my a$$ and thighs so i know it's not baby weight.

But the weight will come off once the baby is born. Keep up that walking and remember that you're growing a human being and sometimes that takes a little extra. Soon enough you'll be in all your pregnant glory and everyone will look at you like a goddess (that's what i'm hoping at least!).