Getting back to "you" after a new baby...

DD is 5 weeks old and I keep getting told how quickly I returned to my "old self". ANyone else still take the time to do makeup, hair and putting same effort into wardrobe? It bothers me a little bit because I feel like people think i am being selfish..but DD is well taken care of and I put the same effort into her as I do myself. It's just important to me to resume my normal routine. ANyone else relate? Maybe people expected me to curl up in a dirty sweatsuit for months and become a frump LOL.....no mom jeans for me...

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good for you!!!!! i think i was the same way. i had to go back to work so i had to look good! as long as you feel good and the baby is happy, don't feel guilty!!!

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Thanks! I think I was just overly sensitive but it's so annoying that people ( esp. those without a baby themselves) expect you to lose your pre-baby identity!....Just needed to hear from other moms that it's ok! <3

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Why would you feel selfish? I think that it is wonderful that you feel motivated to look good and keep yourself feeling wonderful. You can do both. Everyone is different, for me it took months to feel "me" again. I think it's great and healthy:)

Enjoy your new beautiful bundle and your makeup too:)

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I didn't feel selfish..I was saying that I was afraid people thought I was being selfish. Thank You! Believe me there are days I do the velour outfit with a ponytail..I am not dressing to the nines LOL but I do want to feel good about myself. And DH loves it also...thanks for all of your support ladies!

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I made sure I showered and got ready and dressed everyday.I did for ME and not for anyone else. Even on the days I did have my hair in a ponytail and wore a sweatsuit, I still looked put together and not like I just rolled out of bed.

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It is very important to me to still look good when I go out. I don't want to fall into the trap of never doing anything for myself because I know it is very easy to do.
Now when I stay home (on a day like today) that is a totally different story.

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i am 3 weeks pp and so far i have got dressed everyday maybe not in jeans but def shower and makeup.. but with 2 of them it is hard!

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That is great that you are taking pride in taking care of yourself!

I cant relate. I'm SAHM right now who is 30lbs overweight so no "nice" clothes fit me. I dont wear my heels anymore for fear of falling with the baby. I do put on makeup, but I rerely ever do my hair anymore _ my hair that is down to my butt is always up on a clip- because the baby loves to yank it.

It is a little discouraging at times to say the least. So again, KUDOS to you for getting back to "yourself" and rockin on as a hot mamma!
DO NOT let anyone make you feel bad or uncomfortable about that!

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I think that's great! I always make it a point to shower and get dressed and put on makeup everyday too. Only time I didn't was a couple of weeks after my c-section. It makes me feel a heck of a lot better and ready for the day than sitting around in sweats. I didn't want to turn into one of those frumpy moms. Plus I think it's important to look good for my hubby too, even though he tells me he likes me without makeup, yeah right! So I say good for you!

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my DS was extremely demanding from birth so it took much much longer for me to get back to my normal self. It all depends on your child, I didn't have time to do anything

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Not selfish at all!!! My DS was a winter baby so I was basically home all the time. I made sure to shower each morning, put makeup on and get dressed. I wanted to feel good about myself. It also made it easier for me because I already had a routine down so when I was able to take him out I was a pro .

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good for you if you do it... im 8 weeks now..and durring the day since im home im still wearing the clothes I decided to sleep i... im in for a rude awaking when i go back to work in 2 weeks

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Good for you

I had a hard time doing that after the kids, especially after #2. Once I put #1 into pre-school that changed because I didn't want to bring my kid to school in my pj's. When #2 was 18 months I joined a gym and while I don't always put makeup on now or do my hair I try and only wear jeans or velour sweats when I go out and I keep the yoga pants for the gym.

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that's soo not selfish. So far at 2 weeks pp i am making sure to shower and get dressed every day, even though i still can't put on a pair of jeans. I'm hoping in the next week or so the jeans should fit me.

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I'll put makeup once in a while....I have to have had at least a decent night's sleep..lol I would have I have not gotten back to the "old me" yet....
I think I'm just too exhausted...

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Good for you! Its not selfish at all! its very important to take care of yourself and get into a routine! It took me appx 4 months to feel like myself again. I was back to work and to my pre-pregnancy size at that time. I finally felt like myself and it felt good!

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It's great that you are taking care of yourself & making yourself feel good. For me, with a toddler and a newborn, I am lucky to get a 2 minute shower---never mind do my hair. I would LOVE to but it's just not possible.

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I'm right there with you... I love my 3 week old son and take care of him, but it's important for me to look good too b/c then I feel good as well. I love shopping for him, but i can't wait to shp for myself. I lost the weight already and can't wait to shop for real clothes. No more maternity clothes!

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it's funny bc when i was pregnant i didn't surround myself with everything baby and i thought that was weird. like when i was pg i was asking girls at work who had kids"after i give birth can i take a shower right away?" and the one looked at me and said" you won't want to take a shower you'll just want your baby" well needless to say i DID want to take a shower and i thought wow is that wrong? but ya know what it's not......so like i said you go girl!!!!!!