Friend question

Ok so here's my story... I got married in Oct 04. My MOH was great at the time. However now I very rarely speak to her, and when I do speak to her it's only when i call her. She NEVER picks up the phone to just say hi or how are you doing. I've seen her only once since the day of my wedding. I then called her to tell her i was PG. She congratulated me, and has never called me since. That was 4 months ago. My mom has asked me to start to make a list for my shower, so i guess what i'm asking is do you think i should invite her?

I'm just tired of making the effort to maintain this friendship when she does nothing!!



TIA

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I probably would invite her, see what happens. If she doesn't come or does and acts funny- I would slowly start to write her off

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I agree with Marcie- Invite her and put the ball in her court.

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Posted by Marcie

I probably would invite her, see what happens. If she doesn't come or does and acts funny- I would slowly start to write her off

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I would invite her and leave the ball in her court.

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I have a friend like this and we have grown apart a lot because of this. we can only do so much right? Every relationship has to be nurtured by all parties or it just won't work

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I had the same situation, except it was with 2 friends (1 of whom I met through the other). Both in my bridal party in 2004. When I called to tell the first I was PG she said "When are you due?" I told her April. She said "Oh, I should be on my second by then". The other said "Now you know how your bridal party felt the day of your wedding" (3 of them were PG).

Well, they were both invited to my shower and neither of them even bothered to respond!! I think they're mad because I didn't go to their showers or babies christenings -- which I had very specific reasons for not being able to make those occasions. And, at least I responded.

In any case, I have decided that I too am tired of always being the one to make the effort, and I'm tired of everything always being about them. So, I have pretty much written them off. It's sad because I used to think of both of them as good friends. I don't even know if I'll call them when the baby is born.

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Is your friend single? I've noticed that sometimes people who aren't married automatically assume that friendships will never be the same, and unfortunately start to fade away from the married friend.

I agree with everyone, you SHOULD invite her. However, I also believe that you should talk to her about it, as well. There's a reason why you guys were friends, and an even bigger reason why you made her your MOH. I know it's a pain in the arse to have a one-sided relationship, but I wouldn't give up that easily, until SHE confirmed that the friendship just won't be the same.

Good luck!

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Hi Melissa! how are you doing???

Yeah I agree with everyone else, invite her and see but I think after a while friendships like this that aren't two ways might not be worth it. Good Luck!!