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GoodThoughts
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First Birthday: Gift question
DH and I are going to my friend's daughter's 1st b-day in a few weeks. It's one of those almost wedding first birthday parties (close to 200 guests in a private room at a very nice restaurant). We're giving cash, but not sure what the norm is. What's a typical gift for a party like this?
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sfp0701
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
I always give an actual gift for a first birthday. I don't think anyone gave us cash. If they did it was a gift card. I would spend between 30 and 40. Cash is tricky. If you really want to give it, I would give 50?
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| Posted 8/6/12 9:16 PM |
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GoodThoughts
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
This is a SI couple and I know cash is the norm for this type of party. We just have no clue how much. I agree that an actual gift for the child makes more sense, but I don't want to stick out like a Virginia wedding guest at a NY wedding...lol.
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nferrandi
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
$100
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First Birthday: Gift question
If you want to do cash, I'd probably do $100. I don't think anything more than that is necessary.
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GoodThoughts
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Perfect. $100 was my intention, but I really wanted to hear others quote the same amount. I feel better now. Thanks!
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| Posted 8/6/12 9:29 PM |
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Probably $40-$60.
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| Posted 8/6/12 9:30 PM |
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gina409
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
if it was my really good friend i would do 100 if not prob 50
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First Birthday: Gift question
$100
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| Posted 8/6/12 9:39 PM |
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jgl
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Posted by nferrandi
$100
Wow for a friends kid? I know it's at a fancy place but even my close cousins kids I've given $50 or a ~$25 gift and $25 cash for. 1st bday.
Christening cousins kids yes $100
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PearlJamChick
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
I would give $50, regardless of venue (backyard BBQ/party in picnic area/party at hall)...that's pretty much what I give from DH and I for a kid's party.
They chose to have it somewhere fancy, but not everyone spends fancy for a first birthday party. ;)
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$100
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jilliibabii
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Message edited 8/8/2012 12:33:22 PM.
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MAC222
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
I don't even reallly expect a gift for their first birthday's, if so, maybe a car/truck/outfit..certainly not $100!
I think $50 is very generous!
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CloudNine
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
id go with $50. $100 is a lot for a kids first bday! especially not a relative. its a 1st birthday, not a christening or a wedding!
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dlj97
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by gina409
if it was my really good friend i would do 100 if not prob 50
Same here. And then  at the fact that they had a party for themselves and pretended like it was for their kid.
I think $50-75 is fine, or $100 if it is a good friend.
What does that mean - you think the parents are pocketing the money? We put all gifts for DD in an account in her name.
Aren't all 1st birthday parties for the parents? Does any kid care about/remember their first birthday?
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Message edited 8/8/2012 12:33:48 PM.
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JenniferEver
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
I don't know. I have a 1st birthday to go to for a family member. I think we're going to give an actual gift in the $50-75 range (she has a wish list). We also went to another 1st birthday party a few weeks ago. it was at a party place with pizza, not at a hall. I think we did a $50 gift card. If it were at a hall, I'd probably be steered more to giving the $100 cash or savings bond. Right or wrong, that's how I feel
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JenniferEver
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
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Posted by dlj97
What does that mean - you think the parents are pocketing the money? We put all gifts for DD in an account in her name.
Aren't all 1st birthday parties for the parents? Does any kid care about/remember their first birthday?
That's exactly what I mean! They threw a big party because they wanted it for them. The kid isn't going to remember, so it's laughable to me that they would make it so over the top. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I had a similar first birthday to attend this past Sunday at a Yacht Club. This is the 6th extravagant party in 2 years that the family has thrown- each shower, Christening, engagement party, everything was more elaborate than my wedding.
PS- I didn't go to the birthday party, I doubt they missed me among their other 200 guests.
In some families this is just the culture. We ha da family member throw a kids only low key 1st birthday, and they got SO much crap for it because they didn't have the huge shindig.
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by dlj97
What does that mean - you think the parents are pocketing the money? We put all gifts for DD in an account in her name.
Aren't all 1st birthday parties for the parents? Does any kid care about/remember their first birthday?
That's exactly what I mean! They threw a big party because they wanted it for them. The kid isn't going to remember, so it's laughable to me that they would make it so over the top. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I had a similar first birthday to attend this past Sunday at a Yacht Club. This is the 6th extravagant party in 2 years that the family has thrown- each shower, Christening, engagement party, everything was more elaborate than my wedding.
PS- I didn't go to the birthday party, I doubt they missed me among their other 200 guests.
Not sure why that would bother you - if people have the desire and means to throw nice parties, why would it affect you? If I have to go to a shower, Christening, 1st Birthday, etc. I would have a lot more fun at a nice hall then a kids party place!
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BeachGrl
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First Birthday: Gift question
$100 is what I would probably give
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Re: First Birthday: Gift question
Posted by dlj97
Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by dlj97
What does that mean - you think the parents are pocketing the money? We put all gifts for DD in an account in her name.
Aren't all 1st birthday parties for the parents? Does any kid care about/remember their first birthday?
That's exactly what I mean! They threw a big party because they wanted it for them. The kid isn't going to remember, so it's laughable to me that they would make it so over the top. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I had a similar first birthday to attend this past Sunday at a Yacht Club. This is the 6th extravagant party in 2 years that the family has thrown- each shower, Christening, engagement party, everything was more elaborate than my wedding.
PS- I didn't go to the birthday party, I doubt they missed me among their other 200 guests.
Not sure why that would bother you - if people have the desire and means to throw nice parties, why would it affect you? If I have to go to a shower, Christening, 1st Birthday, etc. I would have a lot more fun at a nice hall then a kids party place!
ITA. I would give a gift. if you really want to give money, I'd do $50, but do whatever you're comfortable with. Who cares where they have it? its not like theyre charging a cover charge 
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