Family overstepping their boundaries...

I am just fuming at my SIL! She decided it was OK to tell her friends about my situation. Yesterday at a party, long behold, I have people telling me how they wish me luck! My face turned white! I was soooooo upset!!!!!!! I didn't even have the courage to tell my own parents about this!!!!! Where so people get off thinking its ok for everyone to know about such intimate issues about other people no less?????? I don't know how I'm going to forgive her, she completely lost all my trust and I am devastated!!!!!!! I am now the topic of conversation at other poeple's houses! (people that are not even my friends!!!!!!!!) Now I have poeple speculating about all kinds of things and people making jokes about if I have multiples if I could give them one!
I am soooo mortified, I don't even know where to stick my head in!
ARGHHHHHHHHHHH
BOTB

Re: Family overstepping their boundaries...

Wow that's really awful, I'm sorry she betrayed you that way.

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That's awful.

Are you going to tak to her about it?

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Wow that is way out of line. People will talk that is for sure. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you when she was telling them, though she had no right to share this with her friends. You confided in her and its not a topic that you would confuse discretion with. But, I would confront her, so you get your feelings out on the right person. Though I would wait till you calm down a little, she's still your SIL. Good luck!!!!

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I am so sorry! I know how you feel! In the beginning,my inlaws and my family did the same thing. I am sure they didn't mean any harm but it is definitely upsetting. I would talk to you SIL and let her know how you feel.

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People can be so insensitive about IF, I would definitely say something to her. People truly do not understand unless they have been through this. I am so sorry.

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I am sorry to hear that your SIL over stepped her boundaries... It would be one thing (not that it would be ok) if she said something to a friend in confidence... But to share your entire IF story with everyone of her friends that would listen and then to have them come up to you and repeat it to your face... That is just AWFUL!!

If you have enough courage - I would call her and explain to her how you are feeling. That behavior is not ok! Hopefully she will apologize for her actions and (even tho you will not trust her again) maybe you can find a way to move on.

GL with everything and feel better!

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I read this earlier today and have been thinking about what I would do if it were my SIL (I have 2).
On one hand w/ my 1 SIL, who is one of my closest friends- I would be irritated, and upset that HER friends took the approach to speak directly w/ me about it- BUT I would bet that if I asked my SIL WHY she told her friends, that she would tell me that she didn't know anything about IF and was trying to see if any of them had problems... where in turn, she would be doing it to try to help me.
If it on the other hand were my other SIL, who I'm not at all close to and has no clue that we're having problems TTC, (or that we're even TTC for that matter)- THEN I would be ticked.... but I wouldn't have trusted her w/ that info in the first place, because I know how she is and that she'd use it to make me uncomfortable and awkward.
I'm not sure which SIL yours is like- my 1st one or my 2nd.
I don't know if you saw my post the other day--- my MIL took it upon herself to not only tell DH's aunt and uncle BUT also her cleaning lady. Who happens to have a daughter who has PCOS and has 2 children, both via IVF (my last option now).
I was really annoyed by it... to be completely honest w/ you. I mentioned it to my own mom and she made me realize, it may not be the right thing to do, but it's the only thing that my MIL can do to try to help me- by reaching out to others hoping to find some window of opportunity in which will help her to get a direction on where to go from here--- because she so desperately wants us to be parents as well.
I'm sorry you were made to feel uncomfortable- I'm more surprised by your SILs friends, than I am by your SIL. Sometimes we confide things in our own friends, especially when we don't think they see our extended family often--- and I think we forget that sometimes the opportunity does present itself for everyone to get together. Your SIL was definitely wrong for not telling her friends that those conversations were b/t her and them and that was it.
Also, I know what you mean about the multiples jokes- last week my mom's friend asked me how everything went b/c I should've been in my 2ww--- but it was cancelled- so when I shared w/ her why --- my dr said I'd end up having like 8 babies- she jokingly said 'i'll take 1'.

I didn't find it so funny...