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Do you work with someone like this?
Just seeing the post from Raken40 make me think of this....I'm not sure how many of you have experienced this....but it sure makes me crazy when you have people that are greedy, and cheap that work with you. Needless to say, it drives me crazy. I can't get over how someone can be so cheap..to say the least.......
Let me give you a couple of scenarios....There are many other scenarios but will give you these to give you an idea of what I'm talking about.....
There is someone that I work with that if we are planning to cut a cake and buy food for the celebration, this person will not chip in $$ like the rest of us, because he does *not* celebrate Birthdays. So after we sing Happy Birthday and put all the food on the table that we had ordered, he's the first one that it's on line to get the food......I asked him one time....if you don't celebrate Birthdays...why would you eat the cake? Isn't that a symbol of a birthday celebration? Why would you be part of it? And we also get breakfast and lunch free from time to time. So for the month of November, we can go to the restaurant accross the street where the company has a corporate account. They have many corporate accounts but this restaurant specifically the food is very good so the consensus is that all of us go there because it's close and food is good. Or you can bring the receipt and they will give you the $$$.
Well, the guy never brings or buys breakfast....EVER...so one day before we are scheduled to get it...he said to me...."I have to eat less for dinner". I was like...."what"...not really understanding....
He goes..."well, I will be eating breakfast now and it will be too much food....and I was like..."well you eat what you always eat for breakfast at home"....He goes..."well, I can't get cereal from the restaurant"..and I go..."well they sell cereal there"...he goes.."well, someone else is paying for it so why would I get cereal?"....and I go..."well if that's what you eat every morning...why would you change it?"
And then we always used to go and they didn't have to write down the names of who got what. When they started doing this, we were wondering why. Well, we then found out that the comptroller called him into the office because apparently he was also bringing his wife to get breakfast and lunch. They called him in to let him know that free lunch and breakfast is for staff in our department and that his wife does not work in our department...now that's truly embarrassing(at least for me it'd have been)....but for him, it was like nothing......
So now one of the girls at the restaurant made a comment to me this morning. He was ahead of me in the line but he didn't see me. He also had already left. She told me..."WOW...he eats a lot but I don't see he gets anything when the company doesn't pay"...I said "I bet". She showed me his bill for breakfast.....$8.05....I was like....."I guess he must had been very hungry this morning"....
I can actually give food to anybody...the shirt off my back if anyone needs it, but when I see people acting like that ....that makes me sick.....I couldn't believe it. So for someone who is sooo religious...I wouldn't understand that kind of ethics.....I don't mean to offend anyone who is from that religion but it really makes sick that someone would do that.
The same goes for Christmas...he doesn't celebrate Christmas...but if someone gives him a gift card...he says "I don't really celebrate it but thank you" and uses it. I don't see the correlation of this...if you don't celebrate it, why would you partake in anything related to that?
Maybe it's because I am not very fond of this person that I see things this way(not fond of him because of this behavior).....or am I right about this? And if there's anyone on here that belongs to that religion...what's your opinion on this? And like I said nothing personal and I don't mean to offend anyone but I just don't get it.
I almost forgot....He's a Jehovah Witness....
ETA>>> Now my other co-workers and I are talking about this and they are waiting to see what your opinions are.....
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Re: Please Give Me Your Opinion About This.....
I work in a large office, and we have a sunshine club (we throw in $3 a paycheck to cover the cost for parties, and also for sending flowers if someone dies, etc.) there are people who do not contribute to the sunshine club, yet they are the first on line to fill up thier plates, I don't get it.
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| Posted 11/15/05 11:57 AM |
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Re: Please Give Me Your Opinion About This.....
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
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| Posted 11/15/05 11:59 AM |
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Re: Please Give Me Your Opinion About This.....
Posted by baghag
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
I was talking with my brother inlaw about this and we were making fun of it. He also works with another guy that does the same type of behavior like this guy. Does not contribute because he doesn't celebrate but yet he's the first online to eat.
Your friend is remarkable then and does what it's right. At least in my opinion. I just don't get why if you don't celebrate birthdays...don't contribute like anyone else.....why would you even eat it?
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:03 PM |
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Re: Please Give Me Your Opinion About This.....
Posted by baghag
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
I agree completely. I work with a JW and she doesn't participate birthday celerbrations at all, but she does chip in for the cake and cards. She doesn't sign the card and waits til we are all done singing happy birthday and then comes in. She realizes that her faith is not the faith of everyone else and feels it's more respectful to acknowledge others in a way that makes her feel comfortable.
I think you should tell this guy "No cake for you!". He doesn't put money in because he's cheap and that is that.
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:20 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
people like this aggrevate me bigtime
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:26 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
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Posted by baghag
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
I agree completely. I work with a JW and she doesn't participate birthday celerbrations at all, but she does chip in for the cake and cards. She doesn't sign the card and waits til we are all done singing happy birthday and then comes in. She realizes that her faith is not the faith of everyone else and feels it's more respectful to acknowledge others in a way that makes her feel comfortable.
I think you should tell this guy "No cake for you!". He doesn't put money in because he's cheap and that is that.
See your friend chips in for the cake...he makes it sound that because of "his religion" he cannot partake in any form on this celebration.....but then I don't understand why would he be the first one eating?
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:30 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
your co-worker is just a cheap ******* and i think i wouldn't never involve him in such activities
and when his pathetic arse walks in to get some food from said party he did not contribute to..
I MOST DEFINITELY would walk right up to him and say YOU MUST PAY TO STAY 
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:39 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
we have a few people in my dept like this. not jw's, but are the first to take leftovers of whatever, bagels, cake, etc. i hate that.
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:49 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
Posted by baghag
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
Does your friend contribute at work when they have something like a Birthday Party? Or she doesn't get involved at all with this? Does she act like this person that I work with and not give but will eat?
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:51 PM |
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Posted by BNL2005
we have a few people in my dept like this. not jw's, but are the first to take leftovers of whatever, bagels, cake, etc. i hate that.
Oh! That's another of his qualities. If the company order platters for breakfast and we have leftovers, he will get a bag and take stuff for breakfast for next day....
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| Posted 11/15/05 12:53 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
Posted by MrsFresca
Posted by baghag
I have a JW friend, and she does not act REMOTELY like that. What I respect most about her is that she lives her faith, instead of using it as it is convenient, like guy you are describing.
I don't look his behavior as a stain on the religion, but on him personally- he could be of any faith and use it badly.
Does your friend contribute at work when they have something like a Birthday Party? Or she doesn't get involved at all with this? Does she act like this person that I work with and not give but will eat?
She isn't working right now, but when she did, she did not participate at all. Meaning no money given, no cake eaten, no singing. No Secret Santa, no birthday cakes. She wasn't a moocher.
She does contribute for things that are ok- bridal showers, baby showers.
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| Posted 11/15/05 1:02 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
Yes I do. We actually have a few people like that at my job, and let me tell you it's so freaking annoying.
As much as it bothers the rest of us, we just know that they will never contribute.
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| Posted 11/15/05 1:02 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
I am probably in the minority, but I am not a fan of office contributions and celebrations. I would just not rather participate, but unlike this guy, I don't mooch either. The way it usually goes here is one or two people make a big deal out of the birthday stuff, so they just get a cake themselves, since it is a small office.
I have worked in places where I have been made to feel like a scrooge because I don't want to be part of the secret santa. I don't begrudge other people the tradition - if you want to do it, that's fine, but why MUST I participate? Do I need another crappy gift from someone who barely knows me? I don't mind chipping in for funeral flowers, bridal or baby showers, but the other stuff I find kind of annoying.
I have worked with people like the guy you are describing. He is obviously not ashamed of how he mooches and how he takes advantage of all of these perks and situations. I think every office has one of these people. I don't think it is right, but there are more important things at work that get me upset that I don't really get too excited about it, but maybe that's because I am not the one paying for the cake
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| Posted 11/15/05 1:12 PM |
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Re: Do you work with someone like this?
Posted by dpli
I am probably in the minority, but I am not a fan of office contributions and celebrations. I would just not rather participate, but unlike this guy, I don't mooch either. The way it usually goes here is one or two people make a big deal out of the birthday stuff, so they just get a cake themselves, since it is a small office.
I have worked in places where I have been made to feel like a scrooge because I don't want to be part of the secret santa. I don't begrudge other people the tradition - if you want to do it, that's fine, but why MUST I participate? Do I need another crappy gift from someone who barely knows me? I don't mind chipping in for funeral flowers, bridal or baby showers, but the other stuff I find kind of annoying.
I have worked with people like the guy you are describing. He is obviously not ashamed of how he mooches and how he takes advantage of all of these perks and situations. I think every office has one of these people. I don't think it is right, but there are more important things at work that get me upset that I don't really get too excited about it, but maybe that's because I am not the one paying for the cake
In my opinion, no one should feel obligated to chip in for something they do not want to do or believe. I'd not viewed this person as a scrooge like they had done at your office. What really bothers me is that he uses the religion excuse for not chipping in. But if he's so religious....why are you the first one in line to eat the cake? I mean...the cake is a symbol of the celebration...I'd think he would not want to have anything to do with it....meaning not chipping in and not eating it.....
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Posted by MrsFresca
In my opinion, no one should feel obligated to chip in for something they do not want to do or believe. I'd not viewed this person as a scrooge like they had done at your office. What really bothers me is that he uses the religion excuse for not chipping in. But if he's so religious....why are you the first one in line to eat the cake? I mean...the cake is a symbol of the celebration...I'd think he would not want to have anything to do with it....meaning not chipping in and not eating it.....
I gotcha  I was kind of responding to some of the other posts. I think it IS very odd- if it is against his religion, I would think he would stay away as well. I think some people are just totally wacked when it comes to free food. I think it could be a dissertation project for a psychology student. 
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