Difficult pregnancy-opinions

I know alot of you ladies know how difficult my pregnancy was and were ultra supportive. Well last night DH and I were talking and I jokingly said I would like to have another baby in 3 years. Instead of the adament NO WAY like he usually says he actually started mapping out a plan He said-we know you will be on bedrest and probably in the hospital so that means we have to save $$$ for during and after the baby is born.....etc

I had a pregnancy from hell but there is apart of me that would do it all over again-dont know that I have the courage to but I wondered what others would do in the situation...
If you knew you were going to have a difficult pregnancy which inclluded Hyperemesis, bedrest and months long hospital stay would you still do it

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I'm facing this decision too, and I honestly dont know yet what I will decide. Its a LOT to think about.

Some days I think I can take it, other days I dont.

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Thankfully I had a wonderful pregnancy but I have cousins that have gone through terrible pregnancies each time (hospitalized, bedrest, etc.), same thing as you (hyperemesis) yet they each have 2-3 kiddos.

I think it depends on if you know after that time period (of being sick) you will have a beautiful child and if you have a good support system and you & your family can handle it ($$$, emotionally, etc.) then I'd consider it. You also have to consider that now you'll have a toddler running around to take care of too.

Yet its so much easier to say than do & having not ever gone through it, I don't think I'm at a place to give an honest answer.

to you & your decision

Message edited 11/9/2007 7:27:58 AM.

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During my first pregnancy I was sick with HG (hyperemesis) and was hospitalized and also on homecare. I swore I was never getting pg again. Then as DS got older we started talking about baby #2 and said we would wait until he was closer to 2. To our surprise, 1 week after his first b-day, we found out we were pregnant. I was excited and nervous because I was so afraid that I wold be diagnosed with HG again. Of course, HG started at exactly 6 weeks and again I was hospitalized, currently on homecare with Zofran and IV fluids and bedrest.
This is absolutely our last pregnancy because my body wont be able to handle another pregnancy.

I am going to be honest and I hope you dont mind.....it is much harder being pregnant and ill the 2nd time around. During my 1st pregnancy I was able to rest all day and all night and not have to worry about taking care of anyone. This time around, I have a 1 year old to worry and care about. I begged to be discharged from the hospital because I missed my son terribly and needed to be with him. Even with an extremely supportive DH and family, when you have a child, no matter how crappy you feel, your childs needs will always come first.

Even being sick, I am still thankful.







to you and Dh regarding your decision

Message edited 11/8/2007 7:33:31 PM.

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First of all, I give you ALOT of credit for even entertaining that idea. You went through so much. I know that I don't have the courage to be in the hospital that long (I would have gone insane) and have all the tubes, etc. that you had so in my case? No, I couldn't. But looking in those little ones eyes makes us feel differently.

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Was your first pregnancy like this one?

I had some problems during my pregnancy and the same exact problems repeated itself for my 2nd unfortunately.

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There's a chance your third pregnancy might not be like your second. This decision can only be made by you and DH. Nobody else!!

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Posted by KateDevine

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by Summerrluvv

Was your first pregnancy like this one?

I had some problems during my pregnancy and the same exact problems repeated itself for my 2nd unfortunately.

And HG patients have an 85% chance of reoccurence.

Thats why I get tired of people telling me " Every PG is different"...It wont happen again.

This thread and my Dr's can tell you different.

It does happen again and its sucks trying to mentally and physically "prepare" for it.

I'm another HG girl and honestly, I am not going to have another. DH and I talked about it and we are happy with the family we have now and we are "one and done"

I (semi) kid around that a newly pregnant woman should NEVER talk to me, I sound SO negative about pregnancy and that isn't how I mean it, it was just MY experience.

I am going to be blunt to the OP, you and your DD almost died, I wouldn't do it again if I were you, but that is MY opinion and you know what they say, everyone has one and most of them stink

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Posted by waterspout4

There's a chance your third pregnancy might not be like your second. This decision can only be made by you and DH. Nobody else!!

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My friend had awful hyperemesis with both of her PGs. Actually, the second one was worse! She was sick and had to be on medicine the entire time. She said that she will not be having any more children, mainly because she can't leave her children "stranded" so to speak for that many months again, and also because she feels that she was really lucky that her baby was born healthy, considering all the medication she had to take just to prevent the vomiting.

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I'd have to talk to my Dr. The thought of losing a baby or the high chance of the baby being very early and experiencing related problems might prevent me from trying. I can't say an outright yes.

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I have always had a difficult time..and for some reason I always go back for more. My LAST pregnancy was actually the only one that I didnt have a major issues. I always found that you are more prepared for the issues the second, third, or in my case forth time around.

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bottom line is....
if u can live with the fact u have one little one and u are done then u are done.If u feel in the pits of your spould u might regret not trying or doing then you are not it is a personal decision. It can happen again...and according to this I guess high chances...but u can beat the odds---who really knows..it all comes down to how you feel and how much you think you and your family can take.
Your son and your dh are going to be on their on those days you are toilet or hooked up to a IV. Everyones tolerence is also different.
I can't imagine going through what you girls go through at all....I can't stand throwing up---I would rather have physical pain.