DH upset about family at my apt

I am home alone all day with the baby and I enjoy it! but, my cousin and aunt often stop by after work to see the baby and help me out.

DH said the "revolving door" needs to stop and that he doesnt want 1000 people there.

I understand what he is saying, but you know what---these people help me!! He comes home and goes on the computer!!

Now my family is scared to come here when he is home!!!

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I would tell him, if they can't come, he can't go on the computer and HE has to help. He'll probably change his tune real quick

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Hmmm...thats a little selfish of him! What exactly does he not like about your family helping you out with the baby during the day while he is not there?

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Wow, talk about making people feel uncomfortable! First of all, he shouldn't be telling you who can come over and who can't. It's your home too! Second, does he know how boring it is to stay home? These people that come to visit you are saving your sanity!!!

And this is coming from someone who comes home and goes on the computer?

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Honestly, he's not home alone with the baby all day, so I really don't think that he should be telling you to not have your family over. Leave the baby with him all day and offer no help when you get home and see how he feels then. With a new baby, you need all the help you can get.

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I would either tell him tough SH*T or ask him to take a few days off so you can get some help and perhaps a day to yourself.



My Dh got like this when we first had DD 10 months ago- she was cloicky as hell..... I left him home one day with her and from then on... he welcomed any help.

Some men just have no idea.

Good luck.

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I would simply tell him "Life's Tough"!
My DH is at work all day while Im home taking care of DS, cleaning, doing laundry etc...Oh and cooking dinner.
He comes in, we eat, and *I* go on the computer. It's his time with DS and he loves it (Thank Goodness). I usually have DS bathed and in his PJs already as well.
Tell DH that your going to go out for a day and let him stay home with no help. Bet your cell rings within an hour or two.

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Yeah. Tell him to bite you. It is your apartment too!

Now, they are there when he gets home from work? Is that why he goes on the computer? I know when my mom or sister is here when DH comes home he will say hi and change and go to his gargage. Is it possible that he wants to spend time with you and DS and feels like he can't do that is you have company over?

Now, if he isn't home then he doesn't really get a say? My DH really pizzed me off last week b/c he asked me "So, what got done here today?" in a snarky tone of voice. Um, HELLO?! I have a baby to take care of, if a SHOWER got dne that is an accomplishment!

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All I can say is "Wow"!


And what do you mean "you understand what he's saying"??

Why would you be understanding or even tolerate that kind of comment?

Sorry, but I guess different people are tolerant on different levels,bc if my DH ever even insinuated that he doesnt want me to have "visitors" there would be a major problem!

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I'm sure he doesn't understand how isolating being a new mom can be. Men don't have any perspective about things like that. I would explain that you enjoy the company and really need the help. Tell him you'll try not to have people there every day when he gets home from work. Hopefully he'll understand!

Re: DH upset about family at my apt

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I would tell him, if they can't come, he can't go on the computer and HE has to help. He'll probably change his tune real quick