DH is unsupportive

Do you ever feel that your DH is unsupportive? I am only 9w2d and I already feel as if I am going through this all by myself.

Re: DH is unsupportive

first of all

i have never been PG, but as we all know, men think differently than we do... i am not sure what you mean by your DH not being supportive but i am guessing that it just isn't "real" to him yet. i am willing to bet that when you start showing, that will kick his a$$ into gear and you will get all the support you need from him and more! in the meantime, if you need something from him - ask!! men just don't know what we need, though it may be obvious, until we beat them over the head with it. GL!

Message edited 8/2/2007 4:37:23 PM.

Re: DH is unsupportive

that's true it's like they don't read the writing, they only look at the pictures.

Once you start showing he will be different.

The first two-three months were horrendous for me. My hormones were all out of wack and he would pick on me about things (cleaning, laundry). I kept reminding him I was PG and that I'm just too f'n tired to do it. Then he would shut up but it took some yelling.

Other than that time no complaints. He's a sweetheart and he's been to every single dr's appt with me.

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My DH thinks my symptoms are in my head.
I'm sure it just hasn't sunk in- it's nnot as real to them.
Plus your hormones may be making you a little more sensitive.
He cares, he just doesn't understand.

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Wait until you start showing, or he goes with you to the MD and sees the baby on the sono screen or hears a heartbeat for the first time. His attitude will change.

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I guess I am just so tired. I know that part of it is I'm just so sensitive. But if I tell him I am tired - then I am "complaining". If I am feeling sick and not wanting to do stuff - then I am being lazy. He just makes me so mad it makes me cry! I try to talk to him but just get so frustrated I need to walk away.

He has been to the first doctors appt with me and he was understanding for a week and then he was back to his old self. He is coming with me in 3 wks when we go to our next appt.

Why do I need to keep explainging?

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My DH thought my symptoms were all in my head too. He didn't believe I was really pregnant until the 2nd sono when it actually looked like a baby. Sometimes he still seems to "forget" that I am pg and askes me to do things like paint the deck, or wonder why I am so tired. I just yell " hello I am growing a baby!" and he gets it. Give your DH some time. He will come around. Until then lots of

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i agree with the previous posters. my husband and i had a tough adjustment period btwn my mood swings, his "unsuppportive" nature and all of our anxieties...it was too much. once he saw the baby on the monitor his attitude changed. as my belly grows each week, he becomes nicer to me. it'll get better. hang in there!

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I'm sorry. He will come around I'm sure. He's probably just in shock.

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Posted by Preguntas

My DH thinks my symptoms are in my head.
I'm sure it just hasn't sunk in- it's nnot as real to them.
Plus your hormones may be making you a little more sensitive.
He cares, he just doesn't understand.