Destination Wedding Q.

Do you give monetary gifts?


I ask bc we have DH's sisters' friday-and she did pay for everyones rooms-but not air fare and she alraedy said she doesnt want any gifts

but i feel kinda bad about not giving one....

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I have never been to one.(a destination wedding)..But I would give a (money) gift.

Message edited 5/6/2007 5:15:53 PM.

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I think if you can afford give something, than do so. If not, IMO asking you to travel to their wedding is gift alone, maybe something more sentimental would be nice.
ETA: If you give a gift item, give to them prior.
I also look at it as, you are getting a vacation out of it, so some gift is nice.

Message edited 5/6/2007 5:08:39 PM.

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we are going to one in July. They are DH's close friends since childhood. we are giving the same amount as if they had their wedding here.

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I think it's really nice that she's paying for rooms, and has made clear that she doesn't expect anything - but I would def. give something if at all possible, especially since she's family.

Message edited 5/7/2007 12:00:26 AM.

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We just went to one in Key West...we gave the same gift as if it were here.

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Everyone gave us money at our wedding.

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my best friend got married in Vegas. They were engaged a long time and booked the date in April and got married in July. It was pretty expensive to fly there and even though she was my best friend, I couldnt at the time give her what I wouldve given if it was here.

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It's very nice that she is paying for the rooms.
We had to go to one where they paid for nothing and it was ridiculously expensive. (we could have went on a cruise for a week for what we paid for 2 nights at this place).
At that point we could not afford to give them the same amount we would have had we not had to spend thousands of dollars to go to the wedding.
They understood.

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I would still give a gift, I would feel like I was getting a discounted vacation out of the deal anyway.

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We always give a gift anyway. There are many differences of opinion on this subject though, usually if you the wedding couple do not pay for any portion of the guests travel expenses (rooms, airfare etc...) which they are not required to do, then you are not expected to give a gift. On the other hand, if they do pay all or at least part of the guests travel, then you definately should give a gift...

We always do, no matter what.

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if she has a registry I would get her gift off of that and have it sent to her house. this is what I've done in the past.

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Did she have a local shower? (for registry items)


I would still give money.

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I've only been to one destination wedding. It was my sisters wedding in Vegas. I was her maid of honor and we gave them a gift.

I would have given her a gift is she got married down the block, in Vegas or even eloped, because she's my sister.

I think every situation is different though, and just because I did that for my sister doesn't mean I'd do it for someone else. It entirely depends on the situation, our relationship with the couple, how much we've already spent on the trip, and our financial situation at the time.

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I would still give a gift - it is your DH's sister.

Have fun!!!