Depression from IF

I have been really depressed since my BFN from FET. I can't get motivated to do much. I just keep thinking about how I might never get a BFP. I was wondering if anyone has any advice, does anyone speak to someone.
TIA!

Re: Depression from IF

You have FM

Re: Depression from IF

I go back and forth...sometimes I'm okay with it and other times it's really hard.
I am starting to come to terms with the fact that this may never happen and although it's extremely depressing, I also am beginning to feel as though I may be able to develop a life outside of IF.
I don't have any really good answers for you. I think if it's really affecting you, you should see someone. We had to see a counselor before starting IVF and she was very good. If you'd like I can FM you her info.
I just want to send you some I know how depressing these negatives can get.

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I am also very depressed lately.
I have good days and bad days. Nights are the worst when I am trying to fall asleep. I am seriously considering speaking to someone about this. if anyone has a recommendation I would be glad to hear it. You are not alone

Re: Depression from IF

I had severe depression while going through IF! Part of it I blame on the medications I took (clomid, injectibles etc) the other half I know was all me.

All of my girlfriends around me were having babies and it was such a struggle to be happy for them, when what I really wanted was to be a mom.

I saw a therapist and started to make some changes in my life and I am doing better but am not 100%. Now I worry about how am I going to handle all of these new changes!

I hope you can find someone to talk to and I wish you the best of luck!

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I have severe IF depression as well. I can't enjoy things the same way I used to. I can't get motivated, I always want to be sheltered, have no interest in seeing friends or doing anything "fun." I know exactly how you feel. You're not alone

I was considering going to a therapist. Of course, my IF is coupled with losing my son and having a miscarriage a month and a half ago, so I'm a real mess. I also have names of therapists recommended by my doctor for the IVF process if you're interested.

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I also battled with depression dealing with IF and a m/c. I ended up seeing a psychiatrist for a couple of months, it really did help me sort out what I was feeling.

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There were times I was sooo depressed. I looked into seeing someone for it, although I never did....but probably should have. I started isolating friends etc and it was taking over my whole life. I couldnt seperate from it at all.

I have no real advice, it was a hard time.

But I think talking to someone about it will help.....Try it.

And vent as much as you can to the girls here. We all know what your feeling !

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I was getting like that, to a point where I was thinking of seeing someone then someone said to me, you have a dh who loves you, a great family and a niece and nephew who are your world. I know it doesnt make up for having my own child, but maybe I was meant for other things to be a great person, wife and aunt.

Right now, I am ok with the whatever happens, happens approach and if things get to a point for my dh and I to adopt then I will, but right now I had to make what I can of the life I was given.

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Re: Depression from IF

Thanks everyone for your responses. I feel so much better hearing that you all have felt the same way. I have my apt next week with RE and I guess I will get some more news about what to do next.
I am going to consider talking to someone as well. I think now I need it. I just can't get myself to do anything or enjoy anything anymore.
THANKS!!

Re: Depression from IF

I don't think I have gotten to the point of feeling depressed, but I am new to all of this. I have definitely had my moments of sadness and of feeling defective. I also have a lot of times when someone announces they are pregnant and I think to myself its not fair...
I wonder why do I have to go through this? Having a baby isn't supposed to be so hard- its a natural thing to do..... so I defintely feel your pain.