Dating Question....need advice!!

So to make a long story short, I am dating this guy and I really really like him. I had mentioned when I was first going out with him....back when we had all that snow and he came to pick me up and every thing. Well we have since seen each other like 6 times....going to see each other tomorrow and Friday....very excited! I would love to be exclusive with this guy but don't want to scare him by having that talk. After how many dates do you think this talk should occur? How would you bring it up? I have never really dated before. All of my previous relationships were automatically exclusive. This is so new to me. He talks about doing all of this stuff in the future...for instance he's talking about how me and all of my friends will have to come to his 4th of July party, he wants to take me to the Bamboozle concert (which I won tickets for) in May, he wants to take up dance lessons with me, etc. However he never said any thing about being exclusive yet. I want to know where I stand without being pushy I guess. Is it too soon to talk to him about this? Advice guys is much appreciated....thanks so much!!!

Re: Dating Question....need advice!!

I think at this point it is totally fine to bring this topic up, it's not like your talking about babies on the first date. I would just casually say something that gives him the hint that he is the only guy you are seeing. But that's my subtle approach. I would see how he reacts to that, if nothing more is said I would wait a few more dates and then just come out and ask "What are we?" in not so many words. I know, this wasn't great advice...sorry...but glad you are so happy!!!!!

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Don't say anything. See what comes naturally. If someone else fun comes along you won't feel so bad.

It seems like he already thinks that you are "exclusive".

Re: Dating Question....need advice!!

Re: Dating Question....need advice!!

I think you should bring it up, games and hiding feelings never worked for me. Then I decided not to play games, why should I? We won't be here forever, if you want to be exclusive, bring it up. His answer might influence your future together. Either for the good or the bad. In my experience, if he makes plans, it's his way of telling you he wants to be exclusive. Good Luck and congrats on finding a nice guy!

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Sounds to me like you are becoming exclusive naturally. I would let it go like this for a little...doesn't sound like either of you are going anywhere!!! Enjoy this time!!! I have found this topic always does come up eventually, so I wouldn't push it!

Re: Dating Question....need advice!!

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Posted by LaPetiteSirène

It seems like he already thinks that you are "exclusive".

it does seem that way. I might say something like, well how do you know you wont want to invite someone else... and see what he says.

But I havent dated in 13 years so that answer may suck