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Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

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mitabtrfly

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Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

What do you think? He's 16...I don't want to traumatize him but I thought it would be nice and somewhat of a bonding experience if he were there to see his sister born. He won't have to "watch" the birth, but I think it would be so nice to have him there.

Yay or nay?

Message edited 7/26/2007 2:09:55 PM.

Posted 7/26/07 2:09 PM
 
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I would definitely ask if he would like to. He can always say no...

Posted 7/26/07 2:17 PM
 

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I think he'd probably be uncomfortable being there.

Posted 7/26/07 2:18 PM
 

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I'm on the fence with this one. I teach 16 year olds all day long, and I know what they are/are not capable of handling. I'd say yes ONLY if he doesn't see a thing. This event may traumatize him for a very long time...


Definitely give him the option - if he says no, then don't hold that against him. Leave it totally up to him.


Good luck to you!!! The clock is tickin away!!!

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Posted 7/26/07 2:20 PM
 

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by greeneyes361708

I think he'd probably be uncomfortable being there.



ITA - it IS a very nice gesture though. Chat Icon

Message edited 7/26/2007 2:20:45 PM.

Posted 7/26/07 2:20 PM
 

zeta1996
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I would ask him...and then you can leave it up to him to decide. Tell him to think about it and let you know that way he wont feel pressured to give you an answer right away.

Posted 7/26/07 2:22 PM
 

ckdk
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

If I had a 16 year old I don't think he would want to be in the room but I really have no idea...
I guess you can ask and see his response?
I personally don't want anyone in the room with me besides doctors and DH!

Posted 7/26/07 2:23 PM
 

KateDevine
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I think he will be uncomfortable...BUT I would say something to him like "I completely understand if you don't want to, but if you would like to be, you can be in the room with us when your sister is born"

Posted 7/26/07 2:23 PM
 

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by melijane

I would definitely ask if he would like to. He can always say no...



I agree

Posted 7/26/07 2:38 PM
 

sweetie

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

It would probably be the best form of birth control! He'll be scared after he knows what really happens

Posted 7/26/07 2:48 PM
 

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by nyteacher13

I'm on the fence with this one. I teach 16 year olds all day long, and I know what they are/are not capable of handling. I'd say yes ONLY if he doesn't see a thing. This event may traumatize him for a very long time...


Definitely give him the option - if he says no, then don't hold that against him. Leave it totally up to him.


Good luck to you!!! The clock is tickin away!!!

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I agree. You might have some rather unpleasant moments that he doesn't need to see (pain or bodily function related).

My biggest labor fear was that DD would freak out if she saw me suffering. Luckilly, my labor was mild, so mild she didn't realize I was in any pain prior to getting her ready for school that morning.

Posted 7/26/07 3:05 PM
 

Karen
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Honestly, I wouldn't do it. Even if he doesn't see the birth itself, he is going to see a parent in a painful situation, and I'm not sure if a 16 can rationalize/handle that.

Posted 7/26/07 3:49 PM
 

mitabtrfly

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by sweetie

It would probably be the best form of birth control! He'll be scared after he knows what really happens



Chat Icon Believe it or not...I thought about this....hahahaha!!

Of course I won't pressure him, I just thought I'd ask since it was he and I alone for so long, and I get the feeling he thinks we/I am going to forget about him.

I'm sure he'll say HELL no..but I'll ask him anyway and tell him he can stand by my head...Chat Icon

Posted 7/26/07 3:52 PM
 

yankinmanc
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I think its a lovely idea that you would want him there. That is a really special thing. I hope he says yes...

Posted 7/26/07 4:04 PM
 

mitabtrfly

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by racheeeee

I think its a lovely idea that you would want him there. That is a really special thing. I hope he says yes...



Me too..but if he doesn't want to be, I'll understand.

Posted 7/26/07 4:17 PM
 

nadia
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I was actually 16 when my mom had my lttle brother. I video-tapped the birth. I was so excited to be a part of it. So, go ahead and ask him.

Posted 7/26/07 4:43 PM
 

Mrs. Patticakes
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I think it's a nice thought but I think he's too young and would be uncomfortable but who knows. I would personally be uncomfortable having him there but maybe he would want to.

Posted 7/26/07 4:50 PM
 

sometimesmommy
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I feel like even I am too young to watch a birth-JK
Seriously how can you ensure he doesnt see something that he is not ready to mentally handle at 16. Labor is unpredictable. Fathers have been known to faint themselves.

Posted 7/26/07 5:19 PM
 

sweetie

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I don't think 16 is too young to handle it. If he's having sex or thinking about having sex, why shouldn't he see it?

Posted 7/26/07 5:55 PM
 

ziamaria
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

i think it would be nice if u asked, he may say no but he will always appreciate that u thought of him at this special time!


good luck!

Posted 7/26/07 6:25 PM
 

traceyd
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I think it would be nice to ask-he probably wont want any part of it but at least he will feel like he was included.

Posted 7/26/07 6:27 PM
 

mitabtrfly

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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

Posted by traceyd

I think it would be nice to ask-he probably wont want any part of it but at least he will feel like he was included.



yep...my feelings exactly. Chat Icon

Posted 7/26/07 7:48 PM
 

MelToddJulia
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Re: Considering asking my son if he wants to be in the room with us when baby is born?

I wouldn't force him, but I think having him in the room with you would be very sweet, and something he would always remember!!

Posted 7/26/07 7:57 PM
 
 

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