Can't Stop Feeling Nervous

As some of you already know, we were expecting twins, but sadly I lost one of the twins around 9 weeks. It's been a week and I've met with genetic counselors, high risk specialists and my own OB/GYN. All reassured me this is more common then I realized and that the other baby is strong and healthy. Regardless of all of the reassurance of the other baby being ok, I really just can't relax. I'm so nervous and afraid that I will lose the other baby too. Deep down I know that I'm being ridiculous and that the rate of this happening is low, but there is just that small percentage that keeps lingering in the back of my mind. And I also keep replaying things I did or should have done that could've caused the loss. I'm torturing myself over something that probably wasn't my fault to begin with...but again...there's that awful doubt.

I don't go for another two weeks for my NT scan and MaterniT21 testing. I'm hoping once I have those done and they come back okay, I can breathe a little.

How have any of you coped with this? I was the most laid back person when it came to my first pregnancy with my 2 year old son.

Can't Stop Feeling Nervous

I had a late loss and i found solace in meditation. It helped me relax and clear my head. I also.found music helped. I made sure to keep plans with friends and talked openly with them and my dh about my feelings. Their support helped me through my pregnancy.

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I can relate after an early miss. I remember going over it in my head over and over again and saying "I shouldn't have done this...or that...or maybe if i had done this more or ate more of that and drank less of this" A person could really make themselves crazy over all the what ifs but it really is common. My SIL experienced the same thing you are going through. Her son is now 8 years old and attends LI school for the gifted. It's hard not being able to peek in and know everything is ok...but I'm sure you will be fine! Worrying won't help anything so try to relax as best you can.

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I try to keep busy and limit the time I "research" and worry about things. I make my husband remind me of all of the good things we've seen and heard so far. Every week the nervousness is a little less. I do feel that meditations/positive affirmations help me too. You can look for them on youtube or just google and read them.

Can't Stop Feeling Nervous

Of course I began spotting today which is certainly no help to my nerves. I know it could happen from losing the other baby but still....I just need to get to my next appt without stressing out!

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I have never had a m/c but I did have trouble conceiving. I can promise the nerves might get a little better as you progress but you will always worry. I think it is natural.

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