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kristen92450
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kristen
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Baby Shower Dilemma,
I need help..I am 25 weeks pregnant..My mom is going to start planning my baby shower. My MIL has been home bound for 2 years. MY DH asked her if she would leave the house for the shower and she said no.. My mom wants to have the shower at a restaurant.. I would want about 50 people to come, they wouldn't fit in her house. My mom doesn't normally speak to her, and doesn't know what to say to my MIL. SHould I say something to my MIL about the shower? I was thinking of maybe telling MIL that I will also have a small shower in her house for her friends..I don't want to be involved in this b/c I know MIL will be ****** at me.. I don't know what to do. Sorry so long.. please advice..Thanks
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Posted 9/5/06 7:08 PM  |
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partyof6
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jeannine
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
can I ask why your mil is house bound?
is she able to get out or she just chooses not to?
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| Posted 9/5/06 7:16 PM |
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kristen92450
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kristen
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
She is in a wheelchair and went outside in the backyard one time this past year. It would be possible to leave the house if she really wanted to.
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| Posted 9/5/06 7:19 PM |
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partyof6
b nice like u want ur kidz 2
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jeannine
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
ok...my opinion then is--I wouldn't feel that horrible. If she is in a wheelchair and can leave the house very easily--then she was invited, your husband asked her, would more then likely pick her up and return her and she simply does not want to leave.
Maybe she will realize she is missing out on things and think twice for the next time.
You can accomodate everyone.
I would have dh tt her and say your mom has looked forward to this for a long time and is anxious to have it in a restaurant. They arereallysorry she does not want to come and she will be missed.
Dh can then tell her he will bring u for lunch the following weekend.
I think thats fine..
enjoy your shower
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| Posted 9/5/06 7:27 PM |
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nferrandi
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Nicole
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
I leanred my lesson the hard way, but my advice is to just stay out of it. I don't think your MIL would/should be offended that your mom wants to host a shower for you in a restaurant. Don't even mention having something at her house- she may feel it's presumptious.
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| Posted 9/5/06 7:52 PM |
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Mrs
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
I would pretend you don't know anything. IF this is a surprise shower, how were you suppose to know anything?
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| Posted 9/5/06 8:32 PM |
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CouponKT
Our family is complete
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K
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
I would plan on doing the shower at the restaurant whether or not your MIL is able to come. It sounds unfortunate that she won't "go out of her way" to be there for you. You can't force 50 people into a house they wouldn't fit into. Plus, your MIL wouldn't be really be hosting.
Don't sweat it - it's her decision and you need to enjoy your day!
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| Posted 9/6/06 9:04 AM |
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sweetpea
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Donna
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
Posted by BabyCote2006
I would plan on doing the shower at the restaurant whether or not your MIL is able to come. It sounds unfortunate that she won't "go out of her way" to be there for you. You can't force 50 people into a house they wouldn't fit into. Plus, your MIL wouldn't be really be hosting.
Don't sweat it - it's her decision and you need to enjoy your day!
i agree!!
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| Posted 9/6/06 9:38 AM |
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dee7772
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Re: Baby Shower Dilemma,
Posted by sweetpea
Posted by BabyCote2006
I would plan on doing the shower at the restaurant whether or not your MIL is able to come. It sounds unfortunate that she won't "go out of her way" to be there for you. You can't force 50 people into a house they wouldn't fit into. Plus, your MIL wouldn't be really be hosting.
Don't sweat it - it's her decision and you need to enjoy your day!
i agree!!
me too.
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| Posted 9/6/06 9:41 AM |
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