At the risk of sounding shallow..and selfish..

I feel so ugly lately. I'm almost 10 weeks and look hideous. My last pregnancy was a breeze and I looked great. This time, no luck.

I know it sounds so messed up, but I don't want to look pregnant again. I hated looking pregnant last time, wobbling around like Shamu in heels. I'm not Heidi Klum, but I like to feel like ME.

I feel so selfish admitting this, but I know there must be some others who feel the same way.

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I feel gross. I was forced to dye my hair back to my natural dark color (from a sexy blonde), & I have quit tanning so I'm pale & pasty! At 5 months I look fat & bloated... not pregnant. I hate the way all my clothing looks (the clothing I can force on, that is) & I am horrified to see the scale (although I'm on track for my weight gain)
I don't love my pregnant body thus far at all!!

I do LOVE my new, full pregnant boobs though & so does DH.

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I am right there with you and i don't feel shallow or selfish. I work very hard to maintain the way I look and I find it very hard to accept that I have no control over how my body responds to pregnancy. At almost 7 months I FINALLY look preggo but most of the weight I have gained has gone to my thighs and boobs and I HATE it! My thighs rub and my boobs are so heavy and large that I don't like looking in the mirror!

I just keep reminding myself that my baby is healthy and growing well which is most important...and that I know exactly what I need to do to get my body back and I will do what I need to after my baby is born. I see all these girls on here and out and about that look exactly the same except with a cute round belly...that is definitely NOT me!!

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I am sure you are not alone in the way you feel. I felt this way in the first trimester (now 33 weeks). Its the transition stage that is the hardest- when your normal clothes start to get snug you can not help but feel puddgy. Once you get into the second trimester you will get into the swing of things and start to feel comfortable with your pregnant body. I did anyhow. You are not FAT- you are PREGNANT. Go treat yourself to some new clothes that fit and you won't feel or look puddgy. And just remember- there is no way you can have a healthy pregnancy without gaining weight so if your normal clothes still fit that would be kinda weird and unhealthy

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I don't mind looking preggo...it's the "fat" stage I can't stand....where regular clothes you look like you've just packed on pounds, but maternity doesn't fit....this is where I'm at - just in time to go back to work too!!!

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I totally hear you!!! My first 14 weeks I felt SO sick and SO ugly that I hated being pregnant!!! It DEFINITELY gets better though! I am 5 months now and I have also stopped trying to fit into my old clothes. I've gained about 13 pounds so I went out and bought some new maternity stuff and also bigger sizes of regular clothes and let me tell you--IT HELPS!!!!!

Hang in there though...it's only a temporary setback!!!

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I think mostly everybody feels like that at some point. I started breaking out pretty bad as soon as I got pregnant and then of course stopped tanning and coloring my hair. So, yeah, I doubt i look my best, but DH still makes me feel beautiful and I know that it's all worth it. I'd allow myself to look 100x WORSE if that's what my baby needed. lol. I'm sure most pregnant ladies feel the same.

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I totally agree I feel the same way!! I am 4 months and had a belly since 2 months....This is my second time around so I am more conscious about how much I am eating I gained 65 lbs with my DS! I was miserable I would look at my legs and be whose legs are these

Just remember it is all for the baby and it is not forever and you will get back to your old body eventually

But new maternity clothes make a huge difference!!! Go shopping girls!!

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Haaa I think its normal to feel like that.

I totally thought I'd be all belly and I'm gaining everywhere!! LOL I've been gaining a pound a week since getting pregnant-my doctor isn't concerned, but as someone who's always battled body dysmorphia and weight issues I've been having a tough time.
And I feel horrible and selfish for feeling this way, since so many girls are TTC and would love to be in our shoes.

I did find a few things that made me a feel a million times better

1-got my hair highlighted the second my first tri was over-it really made a huge difference in my confidence level

2-bought some cute maternity clothes (or clothes that were a bigger size that will grow with me)

3-bought a pair of kickass wedge boots.

Being 16 weeks pregnant I'm finally accepting all the changes, and just trying to make healthy decisions. And I'm plotting the diet/exercise plan for when I'm on my mat leave.

You are not alone!

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Call me shallow & selfish too but I WANT MY BODY BACK.

I love this baby and will gain 200 pounds if I have to for it (whining the entire time of course) but I fantasize about my body being normal, about being able to shave lady parts again, & being able to wear all the clothes in my closet.

and my belly isn't even THAT big yet

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I really haven't liked the way I look since I got my BFP this time.

Last time, I didnt feel this way.


Honestly, I dont worry about it. It's for the greater good.

I don't look in the mirror much now. I am montoring my weight gain to avoid having extra weight to lose. I just remind myself that in a matter of months I will have a little baby and my face will go back to looking like it used to and my body will follow suit.

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I'm right there with you...I was overweight before but being 5'11" I don't look as heavy as I am (don't get me wrong, I still look heavy). Now I look fatter. I was just squeezing into a 14 before...now I can barely fit into a 16. Luckily I had lost weight previously so I have everything from a 16 - 18. I've been wearing my 18s lately and today is was bothering me. But I'm not big enough for maternity clothes yet

To top it off my boss told me that my hips are starting to widen. When I told my mom, she said that she just told one of her co-workers that she saw it too At least my boss told ME, unlike Mom!

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I feel this way too, so unattractive,but it's not even so much related to weight gain or my belly - it's my skin. I cannot get over how gross I feel because of my skin. I am broken out all over my chest, and upper back, and the occasional mountain on my face. It's so hard to get used to this, having had close to a perfect complexion prior to pregnancy.

My boobs have gotten so huge, that I need to sleep in a bra, because they kill. It's just difficult dealing with these changes, but like all the PP said, it's for the best. I just wish it would clear up a bit.

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I got maternity clothes early.

I agree: at the early stages, one just looks fat: but maternity clothes accentuates the very early belly and makes it look pregnant.

Note: I had 2 stages of maternity clothes: early & late...

As for acne, swelling, ect... it's all for a good cause!