at a loss...

well it looks like our only option is going to be IVF. DH just had an ultrasound this morning and everythings looks fine so that ruled out any blockage which was our last step in determining MF so I guess we became part of the "unexplained" factor.

I am finding it very hard to believe in anything anymore, that someone would ever do this to us without reason or cause. We have an appt tomorrow with the RE to discuss our options. I am thinking about maybe asking her to do an IUI this month and then if that doesn't take to start IVF process next month. I just don't know how to make it through the day without crying and feeling so resentful anymore.

Re: at a loss...

I'm so sorry. I know that's a really hard thing to hear, that you have to move to IVF. But it's really not that bad, and hopefully it would be the answer to your prayers!

Re: at a loss...

I felt the same way when we were confronted with IVF. It was all the more bittersweet for me because I HAD gotten pregnant naturally, very easily, only a few years ago. And yet 3 years later, after a year of trying with mucinex, the CBEFM, primrose oil, charting, etc., and then another 6 months of trying with natural IUI's and then injectable IUI's and STILL nothing, we had to seriously consider IVF.

It was daunting to me, incomprehensible and devastating. But the truth is, once you get into it, it's not as scary, overwhelming or devastating as you make it out to be in your head. I tried to just be thankful that we had means to be able to utilize whatever technology was available to increase our chances of conceiving.

And at the end of the day, when you do get your BFP and have that little baby in your arms 9 months later, it simply will not matter anymore HOW you got there, whether it was natural, IUI or IVF. It's all just an ends to a very significant means.

Give yourself some time to grieve, and then start focusing on your game plan, and I promise you will start feeling better

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I'm so sorry, it is so hard not to feel bitter and resentful, I struggle with this on a daily basis. There's no rhyme or reason why for some people its just harder and a different path. But its good that you at least have a plan and there are options, no one has said that you can't get PG - and you will. My SIL told me the other day, she had IF issues and after three years now has two daughters - that for whatever reason this happens to some of us, now, even on the worst days, she never ever takes her children for granted. Like the other poster said, take some time to grieve and be angry, b/c that's healthy, and then you'll get back up again and move along with your plans knowing how wonderful the result will be!