Are you judgemental?

I admit, there was a time in my life when I would look at people or a picture (online here) and make judgements. It could have been about their look, their clothes, their hair or whatever.

In the last year, the best lesson I have learned and I think the MOST important growth for me is stopping that.

Going where I have gone, doing what I have done and looking the way I look...I will never do a gut reaction judgement on someone.

I pass my wisdom on to you....You all know I am self conscious (sp?) about my look...I hate the loss of hair, I hate the red eye, I hate the white glue in my eye where my black pupil and brown iris SHOULD be.
But I am reminded daily...I am happy just to be walking around.

Anyway. I guess I just wanted to share, don't be soo quick to judge.
The freaky girl with the messed up eye and soon to have the LARGE freakish scar across her face...well she has a big heart.

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I will admit that I have been in the past...I think everyone has...I definitely have changed though.

Message edited 5/23/2007 9:22:22 AM.

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i don't think i ever have been... i learned the same lesson you learned early on in my life.
i have a genetic disorder called turners syndrome. basically, girls are supposed to have 2 X chomosomes, i only have 1. it doesn't affect the way i look TOO much- just that i'm short. but all of the testing, doctors visits, etc that i had to go through when i was little taught me to be sympathetic to other people and that you never know what they've been going through in their life... many babies that have turners syndrome die before they're even born- so i'm lukcy to be here, let alone have a fulfilling life.... so, because of that, like you said- i realize that just being here and healthy is more important than how my hair looks and whether i have the newest Louis bag

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Younger, I was the worst. I had a chip on my shoulder about life in general. Today I surround myself with happy, loving people. I try to judge less and listen more.

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Yes, but I'm working on it. Seeing and hearing people's reactions to the severe excema on my son's face was a good lesson for me.

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I try never to judge a book by it's cover.

sometimes you find the author has more invested on the outside, and the read is a bore.

sometimes the author knows, it's what's inside that makes them a best seller.

and sometimes you are a swashbuckling hero with triple d's, a skinny bod just waiting for a hottt bikini, and a good person on the inside to boot.

Message edited 5/23/2007 9:42:35 AM.

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Yeah I am. But I'm better than I used to be. Always working on it...

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I think I can be judgemental but it's not based on looks, clothes, etc ... more so on actions (which I realize can be isolated incidents).

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i have never been judgemental about the way a person looks. Certain things may make me like tattoos and lots of piercings but that's just because i am very pain averse and cant imagine subjecting myself to that type of pain. getting my eyebrows waxed is about as far as i will go in the pain for beauty department.

I think that going to an all female high school really helped me to not care about what someone looked like on the outside. I feel like that is such an important time in a female's development and not having boys around to pick on people and single them out really made a difference. I know that girls can be way harsher than boys, but when you take boys out of the element i think it totally changes the dynamic between girls.

I do find that i can be somewhat judgemental when people make one bad decision after another and never seem to learn from their mistakes, especially when it impacts others in a bad way. And I have absolutely no tolerance for drug use (except maybe marijauna although I am not crazy about that either).

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i have been and can be and I wish that i can change that about myself. Im not so much judgemental about looks and esp NOT about disabilities but more about personality. I often dont agree with others actions and find myself judging them when i should realize that everyone does their own thing that I may or may not agree with and that is ok.

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Posted by Ophelia

and sometimes you are a swashbuckling hero with triple d's, a skinny bod just waiting for a hottt bikini, and a good person on the inside to boot.

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Posted by DebG

Posted by Ophelia

and sometimes you are a swashbuckling hero with triple d's, a skinny bod just waiting for a hottt bikini, and a good person on the inside to boot.

is that me or you?

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Posted by Ophelia

Posted by DebG

Posted by Ophelia

and sometimes you are a swashbuckling hero with triple d's, a skinny bod just waiting for a hottt bikini, and a good person on the inside to boot.

is that me or you?

dude, if I had triple d's, I'd be homeless. My husband would be humping me so often, we wouldn't leave the house to work!

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Yes...but I am working on changing!

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I am much harder on myself than others...my heart goes out to others...me on the other hand I tear apart on a daily basis.

My heart goes out to you

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I think it speaks leaps and bounds that there are those of us who know we are not "right" and that we are striving to be better people. It's not an easy thing to do and not everyone can do it.

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I don't think I am...or I try not to be. I try not to comment on inconsequential things but if it something that I am morally averse to, I will.

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Yes, but I have gotten so much better.

I try not to judge unless I have an informed opinion, so is that considered judging?


Ocassionally I will fall back to my old ways and speak before I think.