any working moms of early risers/early sleepers??

so it's pretty much official that out of nowhere this kid changed his schedule.

he went from 8:30 pm-7 am to waking up no later than 6.

I am trying to get him down before 7:30 now but I think even that is too late. he's a nut.

and he's just miserable from the time I walk through the door. so no happy and so tired.

I am going to start leaving work at 5 so I can be home by 5:30 but....dh..this just sucks for him b/c it's his busy season and I am trying to keep us eating as a family.

do I just forgo this, have my MIL feed him before I get home....or should I eat with Luce and then feed dh when he gets home???

I just think he really needs to start the nighty night process by 7 rather than 7:30. but I feel so bad that dh will hardly see him if I do that.

how long could this phase last?

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My DS transitioned to an early riser/sleeper shortly after I went back to work.

In the beginning I hated it but, then realized, I preferred the time we had together in the morning because he was happier and more awake then. Like Luce, he was miserable and crabby.

I would put him to bed on the schedule that works best for him - I know you want DH to see him and eat as a family but, if he's tired, he's going to be miserable.

Hopefully he will change his routine back to the way it used to be!

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If Luce is truly being a beast and needs more wind down time and an earlier bed time, I would have your MIL give him dinner. This way when you get home you get more snuggle time and can have more relaxation time.

I know it sux that DH is working late right now but maybe this won't be his schedule for long.

Aidan did this a while back so I moved up his bedtime for a few weeks. It helped "reset" his clock and he was then 1. more rested 2. happier and 3. sleeping more soundly and got up at his normal time (6:30-7 am instead of 5:30-6 am).

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I don't know if I have good advice but DD went from going to bed at 6pm to 7 pm at around 9 months... she's always been an early sleeper.

You have to think of it this way:

Of course your DH wants to see Luce but if it's fussy, cranky Luce, that's no fun for ANYONE.

If Luce is in bed when DH gets home, DH gets to relax and eat with you - which is never a bad thing in any relationship, especially in his busy season.

DH will still see him AND get to spend quality time with him on Sundays. MIL will be helping you by feeing Luce. And by the time late spring/summer rolls around, Luce will be older, able to stay up later, and able to enjoy the time with you and DH.

I know it stinks but Luce shouldn't suffer for your DH's sake Kidding, but you know what I mean

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I would allow him to have the earlier dinner time/bed time. If it is obvious that he needs it, you aren't doing anyone a favor by keeping him up cranky and all.

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DS was like this as a baby but around 2 I found I was able to push his schedule back more and he was more flexible. Hopefully it doesnt last long for you because I know it stinks

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Posted by headoverheels

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I know it stinks but Luce shouldn't suffer for your DH's sake Kidding, but you know what I mean

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AJ did that.. drove us CRAZY

She doesn't anymore but omg how annoying that she'd wake up an hour before we had to be up. Worse then she'd go back to sleep and not want to wake up

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DS has never been a really early riser, but I do remember putting him to bed before DH got home. There were a lot of days when they didn't see each other at all--DH left too early and got home too late. I did want to eat dinner as a family, but it just wasn't possible. I'd usually wind up having a snack or a bit of dinner with DS, then eating more dinner with DH when he got home. Kind of miss that alone time to be honest--now DS goes to bed later, but we have so little couple time.

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Posted by headoverheels

I don't know if I have good advice but DD went from going to bed at 6pm to 7 pm at around 9 months... she's always been an early sleeper.

You have to think of it this way:

Of course your DH wants to see Luce but if it's fussy, cranky Luce, that's no fun for ANYONE.

If Luce is in bed when DH gets home, DH gets to relax and eat with you - which is never a bad thing in any relationship, especially in his busy season.

DH will still see him AND get to spend quality time with him on Sundays. MIL will be helping you by feeing Luce. And by the time late spring/summer rolls around, Luce will be older, able to stay up later, and able to enjoy the time with you and DH.

I know it stinks but Luce shouldn't suffer for your DH's sake Kidding, but you know what I mean

Re: any working moms of early risers/early sleepers??

My DS was the same way. He needed to be asleep by 7:30/8 the lastest.

I use to let my mom feed him dinner and then when I picked him up, I had a full hour to play with him and just focus my complete attention on him till it was bath/bedtime.

I felt so bad for DH because there were many nights that he didn't see DS at all, but like the pp said, what good is that time anyway if he is clearly cranky and overtired? It's just frustrating for everyone.

Now that DS is going to daycare, he still gets home the same time, but the 2 hours where I used to play with him are spent cooking dinner and getting him to eat before rushing him off to bed.

It's still 2 hours but it's not the same quality.

I know with my DS, he is just so overtired and out of his mind when we push him past his natural bedtime.

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if Ian wakes up early i usually bring him into bed with us. i know thats bad, but its the only way i get an extra half hour.

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DD is a very early sleeper...she's normally down betw 615 and 630 every night and is up by 630 SOMETIMES 7 in the am...she naps like cr@p so she needs to go down early, she literally asks me to go take a bath and bed by 6

I'm not a working mom, but DH rarely sees her during the week, it's hard on him but he sees her when we've kept her up in the past and it has NOT been pretty

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Posted by Ophelia

Posted by pickles16


I'm not a working mom, but DH rarely sees her during the week, it's hard on him but he sees her when we've kept her up in the past and it has NOT been pretty

I asked about working moms for ME b/c I am getitng home late and dinner and then he is all messed up, but about the dh's...you guys at home would know better than me.

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Posted by Ophelia

Posted by QTDimps23

if Ian wakes up early i usually bring him into bed with us. i know thats bad, but its the only way i get an extra half hour.

dude, he's already IN the bed with us!

he sticks his foot in my mouth, taps my husband on the back and says "dada" and laughs.

once the mouth starts spewing "words" I know the day has begun!

it's hard to get mad though, b/c when he's ready to wake up he wakes up so happy. like it's the best day ever.

Re: any working moms of early risers/early sleepers??

Posted by headoverheels

I don't know if I have good advice but DD went from going to bed at 6pm to 7 pm at around 9 months... she's always been an early sleeper.

You have to think of it this way:

Of course your DH wants to see Luce but if it's fussy, cranky Luce, that's no fun for ANYONE.

If Luce is in bed when DH gets home, DH gets to relax and eat with you - which is never a bad thing in any relationship, especially in his busy season.

DH will still see him AND get to spend quality time with him on Sundays. MIL will be helping you by feeing Luce. And by the time late spring/summer rolls around, Luce will be older, able to stay up later, and able to enjoy the time with you and DH.

I know it stinks but Luce shouldn't suffer for your DH's sake Kidding, but you know what I mean I

Re: any working moms of early risers/early sleepers??

DD and Luce are around the same age.

For at least 6 months now, she has been going to sleep b/t 7 and 7:30pm and is up around 7:30am.

I am a FTWM too and on my very best day I get home at 6:30pm.

DH generally gets home after me.

What we do is I handle the night time routine. Usually my sister (child care provider) feeds her before I get home. When I get home I bath her, give her a bottle (yes, she still drinks one ) read to her and put her to sleep.

DH rarely sees her at night.

BUT he handles the morning routine. I need to leave before him, so DD follows him around all morning and he usually has breakfast with her.

On the weekends she spends time with both of us.

It is not perfect; lord knows I want to spend more time with my baby. But for now it works and she seems to be a really happy baby.

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Myy DD just turned 9 months. She has been going to bed for the night between 6:00 snd 6:30 for the past 2 months! She wakes up very early. My DH is also an acountant. He spends time with her every morning before he leaves for work. This gives me a chance to shower and get ready. He gets home late so I would never be able to keep her up long enough for my DH to see her at night. Maybe you could do breakfast as a family instead of dinner....