any parents here with kids in the 9th grade or higher

if so can we talk.... dd just told me she has a bf and i am freeking out here

i need help in how to handle this... i have no clue what to say or ask her?

PLEASE help me

Re: any parents here with kids in the 9th grade or higher

It's a tough one isnt it?

My daughter isnt emotionally ready to have an unsupervised relationship with a boy. I dont know what I would do at this point.

High School is really such a different place. It scares me every day. I know that she wants one pretty bad. It's actually very sad b/c it's something that she would never really tell me...or something that she would never really say out loud. She's 14 of course she wants a boyfriend....

Just talk to her...see what she means when she says she has a boyfriend. See if it's anything you need to be concerned about. Ask her maybe to see a pic? Find out who he is...etc...etc...

My daughter has never really had friends before this year. So I know she is definitely not ready to have a real relationship with someone. But in my daughters case someone she would be eating lunch with might be her "boyfriend" in her mind..KWIM?

FM me and we'll talk this thing through.

Re: any parents here with kids in the 9th grade or higher

yes My parents always had to meet the BF, also my first was in 9th grade, I was preety mature in 9th grade, i was ready for it but not all are... anyway i SUGGEST you encouraging them to hang out at your place, rather than his....

Re: any parents here with kids in the 9th grade or higher

also i would talk with his parents and se how they feel

Re: any parents here with kids in the 9th grade or higher

My stepdaughter is 17 and has her 1st real BF. they go out together but they are old enough to do that.

We make sure we spend a lot of time with them together.

Honestly, at 14 they should spend most of their time supervised, and go out in a group to the movies on a weekend night.

I'm avialable for questions. I'm well versed in teenager (unfortunately )