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Hi Everyone-

As of today, I am 8 weeks pregnant. I made plans with my best friends for this weekend to announce to them. Just a couple days ago, a terrible tragedy happened within our group and I don't think our plans are going to take place. There are several events in upcoming weeks at which we are going to be telling good friends and family. I'm afraid that the news will be pretty much out there within the next couple weeks and I don't know how to announce to my friends now.

I by no means want to be the center of attention or to steal the floor, and I don't want to make a production out of it. These are my best friends and I want/need them to know before other people start to find out. I just feel like no time is going to be a good time.

So my question is...should I just tell everyone now? or is it better to wait?

Any advice you may have would be greatly appreciated.

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Im so sorry for whatever tragedy happened...if it is something that involved a child, I could understand it being a difficult thing to talk about. Not knowing the specifics, I am not sure what kind of advice to offer.

If it was another type of tragedy, this may help to bring a little bit of joy to such a dark place.

Congrats to you, and again, I am so sorry for the tragedy you are experiencing

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Thanks for your reply. It was nothing involving a child. It's in no way sensitive to what happened. But I just feel like the timing is poor just knowing that my friend is suffering.

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When I am suffering a bit of good news really makes a difference.

I personally would love to hear wonderful news from one of my best friends - I think it would help with my suffering - even if its just for a short time, its nice to smile.

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When we were pregnant with my first son, we told our friends after a tragic death of one of my friend's dad. It was ironic because I was due on his birthday. I told my friend who lost her dad first, and she loved hearing the good news. We then told our friends after the funeral. I know it doesn't feel appropriate, but good news sometimes helps others through difficult times.

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You are such a good friend to be concerned for your friend's feelings. But I totally agree- I think the news will cheer up your friend who is hurting. I am assuming there was a death? A lot of times life and death seem to go hand in hand. When one of my best friends from college passed away I was so depressed. A few days later I found out my sister was pregnant and I was ecstatic... it totally brightened my spirits. I have found a lot of situations like that in my life where a baby is born and a person dies around the same time. My BIL's best friend passed away from cancer a week before his twin babies were born. Just last week my husband's grandfather passed away and he had 3 great grandkids on the way- me, my SIL, and my husband's cousin (who is due in 1 week) all are pregnant. While it's sad that he won't get to meet the babies, it gives everyone in the family something to focus on and look forward and be happy about.

So I say tell your friends!! Maybe don't do anything crazy or creative to make the announcement that would make a production out of it, but definitely let them know!

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Thank you so much everyone. Your responses are making me feel so much better. Like you've said...I don't want to make a big deal or do it in any fancy/creative way....I just want to let them know. Thank you all for your input!

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I would maybe wait another week or two to let the dust settle a bit and then make your announcement. I know it's really hard to keep it in especially to your close friends but understand why you feel this way. Like pp said this would be good news to cheer everyone up!

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Hey, I just wanted to let you guys know that we told our friends last night. They were beyond ecstatic! And my friend who lost her mom was so happy for us. Her mom had such a passion for children and loved every little one like they were her own. When I told her I was afraid about the timing she said, "Your timing couldn't be more perfect." I'm so happy that I told them! Thanks for all of your advice!