9 month old and aggression/overstimulation

My DS is 9 months and he has a habit of trying to grab/bite/crawl ontop of/pull hair/hurt the other kids he plays with. He is with a babysitter but is the only baby under 1 and he terrorizes some of the older kids (there are only 3 or 4 there and all girls). He really likes other kids and is so happy to see them that he gets so excited. I really do think this is his way of also showing affection. After a while that he is in the situation, he eventually calms down and doesn't try to hurt them. He also does this to me and I have been taking his hands and saying "no, you hurt mommy" and counting to 5, but he still goes back and does it again. I am not as concerned about me, but I am more concerned about him being with the other kids, because I don't want him to have no friends, especially when he loves kids. He gets very mad and throws himself down when he gets removed from the situation, but then goes to do it again. Any suggestions on what I can do? I have been seriously contemplating calling EI about his social emotional behavior regarding this, but he will never qualify (I am an EI evaluator, so I definately know he won't, just don't know what to do). I would appreciate any suggestions.

Re: 9 month old and aggression/overstimulation

anyone have any suggestions???

Re: 9 month old and aggression/overstimulation

At 9 months, not really many suggestions, I think he's probably too young to really understand what he's doing hurts other people. I would pretty much do what you are doing, take his hands away, tell him ouch, that hurts, or something like that if no isn't working. Does he see other children regularly? DS was like this at that age, he really loved being with other kids and would get a little nutty when he was around them. But then we signed up for a Mommy and Me at 9 or 10 months, and when he started seeing the same children every week, he got better. I think they learn a lot from each other.

The only thing now is that he chases them around trying to hug them sometimes, but this is better than the hitting.

Also, is it possible for him to play with boys closer to his age? Or girls and boys, but I think the boys tend to be more physical in their play. He may be getting frustrated because the kids he is with aren't playing the way he would like--I remember now that DS and the boys in his Mommy n Me tumbled all over each other--the girls usually looked at them like they were crazy. We've been lucky in that most of the children I've met around us his age are all boys.

Message edited 7/1/2009 8:21:12 AM.