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At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Im going to be a 38.5 week pregnant bridesmaid in a friend's wedding, assuming I dont give birth before the wedding. I commited to this before I was pregnant but told her immediately when I found out, and she left it up to me if I wanted to stay a bm. At the time of being like 1month pregnant, of course I said yes...now, at 33 weeks, im starting to second guess my decision.
I'm having anxiety about going into labor/water breaking at the church or during the pictures. Also, I can barely make it through 4 hours at work before Im achy and tired now, and I don't know how Im going to make it through the long day then.
If you would back out...how/what would you tell your friend?
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Posted 4/14/11 12:11 PM  |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I would play it by ear. If I felt fine that morning I would get dressed and ready to go.
I would do the church (or ceremony) and then attempt as much as the reception as I could.
I am sure your friend will underdt if you really can't be there. 
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:13 PM |
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Marcie
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Honestly...at this point I think it is too late to back out.
If you can talk to the bride and see what she thinks.
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:14 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
You should do what you are comfortable with, but honestly, I would do it. Maybe just talk to her before about how if you aren't feeling well, you might not stick out the whole day. I would do my best to get through the ceremony and pictures at a minimum - especially since she left it up to you at the beginning.
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:14 PM |
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d-h2008
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I woudl do it cause you gave her your word.
HONESTLY though, my water broke randomly at 37.5 weeks and I had a normal, healthy pregnancy.
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:17 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I think at this point you owe her a good college try at making it. Play it by ear and see how it goes. Being at the ceremony is more then likely the biggest for her so maybe sit down instead of stand. People will understand. Just take it easy and don't over do it.
IMHO agreeing to be in a wedding or somebody special at any event past 36 wks would be a no for me. You're just so uncomfortable and you could go into labor at any time no matter where you are. Just wear a big pad in case your water breaks and stay out of Bath and Body Works
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:21 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I dont know what it feels like to be 38.5 but I concur w/what the other ladies are saying, you made a commitment. I would def talk to her, let her know you will do everything possible for her but you might be VERY limited the day of. Make sure you have DH carry water for you to sip on whenever you like and possibly get those slippers in a bag and put them on when ever you absolutely
dont have to be in heels. Also, this might sound silly but my friend did this at a wedding. She had a hand held massager and had her DH massage her back when ever it hurt throughout the day.
Good Luck
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:27 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I would talk to her and ask her opinion. She may let you back out or she may not want you stealing her thunder
Either way, I agree with the other posters. You made the committment already and you should probably TRY to honor it, provided that you don't deliver prior.
Good luck
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:29 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by medic6809
I think at this point you owe her a good college try at making it. Play it by ear and see how it goes.
I agree. I'm going to at least try to be a bridesmaid at 36.5 weeks pregnant -- I live in the city and plan to deliver in the city and the wedding is in Nassau. I really really hope I don't go into labor before/during her wedding and at this point being 21 weeks I'm still excited about it. Yes it will be July, yes I will look like a boulder, and yes the dress is satin... but I want to be part of her day, don't want to back out, and hope I can at least make it through the ceremony (sitting), pictures, and as much of the reception as I can.
38.5 weeks is very close to your due date but I'd at least see how you feel as it gets closer ...
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:33 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I say suck it up and deal -
You made a commitment to your friend to be there - so be there.
If for some reason you have to leave, well, then you have to leave - but really? What's the difference if you go into labor at a Wedding, at the mall, at the park, driving your car ...........KWIM?
You could be early, you could be late - you never know .............
ETA: And maybe I'm the minority - but although it may be uncomfortable to stand on your feet at 38 weeks - it's not impossible and it won't kill you -
I have done it in stillettos ..........is it pleasant? No - but again, you just deal with it and then it's done.
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:48 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
my MOH was 36.5 weeks pregnant at my wedding and she was a trooper...made it the whole day and even spent a good amount of time on the dance floor...
but i say this, but im thinking myself that far along pregnant i don think i would be able to do it! my feet swell like crazy and im super tired already at 30 weeks. so im not sure i would do it if i were in your shoes.
im sure your friend will understand no matter what decision you make.
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:49 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by MarisaK
I say suck it up and deal -
You made a commitment to your friend to be there - so be there.
If for some reason you have to leave, well, then you have to leave - but really? What's the difference if you go into labor at a Wedding, at the mall, at the park, driving your car ...........KWIM?
You could be early, you could be late - you never know .............
ETA: And maybe I'm the minority - but although it may be uncomfortable to stand on your feet at 38 weeks - it's not impossible and it won't kill you -
I have done it in stillettos ..........is it pleasant? No - but again, you just deal with it and then it's done.
D to the ITTO
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| Posted 4/14/11 12:56 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
at 38.5 weeks, i was sitting on a couch watching my (already born) son's NB photoshoot, so NO, I wouldn't risk it!
eta: you're 33 weeks now, i assume you have the dress and everything, just suck it up and deal
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:05 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by DiamondGirl
I would play it by ear. If I felt fine that morning I would get dressed and ready to go.
I would do the church (or ceremony) and then attempt as much as the reception as I could.
I am sure your friend will underdt if you really can't be there.
I agree. Im 38w 5d now and I honestly thought I'd be completely useless and out of comission, but let me tell you that besides being a little uncomfortable, for the most part I feel great. I'm still doing things, going out, etc. In fact I'm still working out! I was always an active person and I was determined to stay that way during pregnancy. I love that I still do things and go places!!!
I went to a wedding at 36 weeks actually and danced the entire night and in heels!!!!!!!!!!!! It's totally possible!!!
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casey31
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Honestly, I feel its really late for you to back out now- unless you require bedrest or, of course, baby comes before then.
If you are generally well and healthy you should be there- even if your feet are swollen and you are miserable.
Make it through the ceremony and pictures (that's whats important), sit down when you can and leave the reception early.
The ceremony and pictures are only a few hours- you can do it!
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:23 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
i would play it by ear. my cousin was in my wedding and was due a few days after my wedding. the whole time leading up to the wedding we knew there was a possibility she wouldn't make it, but she said as long as she wasn't in labor she would be there! Her hospital was really close by so she wasn't worried about having to travel or anything. She ended up making it and was a trooper! I was so happy she could be part of it 
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:27 PM |
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Posted by Shorty
at 38.5 weeks, i was sitting on a couch watching my (already born) son's NB photoshoot, so NO, I wouldn't risk it!
eta: you're 33 weeks now, i assume you have the dress and everything, just suck it up and deal
The dress is another issue...it is in the shop, but it was recommended that we not get the alterations done at the shop b/c they are notoriously bad, and I was told to wait to get it altered since Im obviously not done growing, and who knows when I will drop.
Im making arrangements to get the dress altered elsewhere...and I have to pick it up regardless of if I stay in the wedding or not, so that is not a deciding factor for me...
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:28 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by MarisaK
I say suck it up and deal -
You made a commitment to your friend to be there - so be there.
If for some reason you have to leave, well, then you have to leave - but really? What's the difference if you go into labor at a Wedding, at the mall, at the park, driving your car ...........KWIM?
You could be early, you could be late - you never know .............
ETA: And maybe I'm the minority - but although it may be uncomfortable to stand on your feet at 38 weeks - it's not impossible and it won't kill you -
I have done it in stillettos ..........is it pleasant? No - but again, you just deal with it and then it's done.
Ditto on everything.
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:29 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by casey31
Honestly, I feel its really late for you to back out now- unless you require bedrest or, of course, baby comes before then.
If you are generally well and healthy you should be there- even if your feet are swollen and you are miserable.
Make it through the ceremony and pictures (that's whats important), sit down when you can and leave the reception early.
The ceremony and pictures are only a few hours- you can do it!
ITA!
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:33 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Honestly at 38 weeks I could barely walk around for mote than an hour at a time... Can't even imagine being in a wedding all day long!!! It's a tough one since u did make a commient to the bride but maybe if u tell her now ahead of time she can make proper arrangements...
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:04 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
I would not back out - you can always leave early if you want.
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:06 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
i was 38 weeks pregnant with DS for my friends wedding. i committed to this before i was pregnant and told her when i did. she was fine with it. and she knew as long as he didnt come early, i would be waddling down the aisle.
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:12 PM |
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by MarisaK
I say suck it up and deal -
You made a commitment to your friend to be there - so be there.
If for some reason you have to leave, well, then you have to leave - but really? What's the difference if you go into labor at a Wedding, at the mall, at the park, driving your car ...........KWIM?
You could be early, you could be late - you never know .............
ETA: And maybe I'm the minority - but although it may be uncomfortable to stand on your feet at 38 weeks - it's not impossible and it won't kill you -
I have done it in stillettos ..........is it pleasant? No - but again, you just deal with it and then it's done.
ITA
One of my friends from HS was 40 weeks preggo and she still came to my wedding, ripped it up on the dance floor and gave birth 2 days later. I was shocked that she even made it to my wedding and so happy she was there.
I just think she gave you the option to back out and you didn't. Backing out now would probably really stress her out. Not to mention, you probably don't want to miss her wedding unless you have to if you are that close.
I say s uck it up and go. It will be a great story for baby later on.
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
Posted by MarisaK
I say suck it up and deal -
You made a commitment to your friend to be there - so be there.
If for some reason you have to leave, well, then you have to leave - but really? What's the difference if you go into labor at a Wedding, at the mall, at the park, driving your car ...........KWIM?
You could be early, you could be late - you never know .............
ETA: And maybe I'm the minority - but although it may be uncomfortable to stand on your feet at 38 weeks - it's not impossible and it won't kill you -
I have done it in stillettos ..........is it pleasant? No - but again, you just deal with it and then it's done.
ITA!
If you are tired then just go and sit down. Make sure you have a nice pair of flip flops on so that you're comfortable
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Re: At 38.5 weeks pregnant would you...w/poll
IDK...Being in a wedding is a big undertaking, I let my bf off the hook bc she had given birth 1 month prior and I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable, or have to spend all that extra money knowing how expensive weddings are, and how expensive newborns are too, I'm also a person who had a girl drop out a week before and it didn't even phase me.
I'd say do what you feel, but if I was your friend and it was my wedding I wouldn't not want you in it, but wouldn't want you to have to do that all day for me when you could be a guest and come and go at your leisure
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