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HomeIsWithU
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2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
My ExH and I have joint custody - so DS (who is 2) stays with him for a week and then me for a week. It works well for us generally and DS has never had too much trouble adjusting to the changing schedules etc.
The past week DS has been acting out more than usual. When he doesnt get what he wants he goes right into throwing a huge temper tantrum. He cries hysterically and yells for "daddy" until he's red in the face.
In the past DS has NEVER called for daddy....it's always been me that he wants. I'm glad he loves his daddy, but when he lays there crying for him it just makes me feel like a terrible mom. I feel like he must think I'm treating him horribly or that daddy doesnt yell as much or something  It's killing me. I just dont know what else to do...he's not listening and he's being flat out bad lately. I dont have a choice but to give him time outs or tell him no. Some of the stuff (actually most of the stuff) that he's being yelled at for is something that could hurt him (for example, yesterday he got yelled at and a time out because he was climbing on the stairs backwards in the house - we dont have a baby gate on those stairs yet and he was told 3 times not to go near them. He didnt listen so he got a time out. While in time out he just screamed and begged for daddy
I dont even know what I'm asking. Partly I just need to vent, but I guess I just need some words of wisdom here - I feel like DS just doesnt like me right now.
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Posted 10/31/11 9:26 AM  |
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maymama
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
you are not a horrible mom, it is a normal reaction whether two parents are together or seperated. its also the age!
DS does the same thing and DH and I are married. DS is mad at me so his natural reaction is to look for daddy 
He doesnt hate you, its only temporary. I have found that the best thing to do is to let him have his tantrum and once he calms down, i hold him and comfort him and then I ususally tickle him to death and we both end of laughing 
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| Posted 10/31/11 9:41 AM |
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
Teddy used to do that!!!! I used to get so annoyed because my husband travels alot for work and I am ALWAYS there, but I am sure when his Daddy puts him in time out he calls out for Mommy, it's not a preference thing, and don't worry when Teddy turned 3 it's all about mommy, has been for a while. I am well loved these days. But he still calls daddy when he is in Time Out.
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| Posted 10/31/11 9:42 AM |
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8ternity
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
Don't really have advice but just know that your doing the best you can. Discipling is not easy especially if its one parent doing it but someone has to do it. He could be yelling "I want mommy" when he is at his Father's house. Don't beat your self up!!
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| Posted 10/31/11 9:46 AM |
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julz33
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
I agree, its normal whether the parents are seperated or together. DH and I are married and when 3 yr old DS is being punished by me he screams for daddy, and when he is being punished by daddy he screams for me.
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| Posted 10/31/11 9:47 AM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
Posted by maymama
you are not a horrible mom, it is a normal reaction whether two parents are together or seperated. its also the age!
DS does the same thing and DH and I are married. DS is mad at me so his natural reaction is to look for daddy
He doesnt hate you, its only temporary. I have found that the best thing to do is to let him have his tantrum and once he calms down, i hold him and comfort him and then I ususally tickle him to death and we both end of laughing
You worded this perfectly!
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| Posted 10/31/11 9:51 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
You are not a horrible mom at all - I agree it is a typical child reaction. My girls do this and I see others doing it to - they want the parent they are not in trouble with at that time. I don't think it changes whether the parents are married or not. They want whoever they think they won't be in trouble with at that moment.
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| Posted 10/31/11 10:05 AM |
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bluekat16
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
Posted by maymama
you are not a horrible mom, it is a normal reaction whether two parents are together or seperated. its also the age!
DS does the same thing and DH and I are married. DS is mad at me so his natural reaction is to look for daddy
He doesnt hate you, its only temporary. I have found that the best thing to do is to let him have his tantrum and once he calms down, i hold him and comfort him and then I ususally tickle him to death and we both end of laughing
I couldn't have put it better. Sometiems he'll call for his daycare caretaker and will call her mommy. Talk about a hit to the mommy ego. At the end of the day when push comes to shove they want their mommy.
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| Posted 10/31/11 10:34 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: 2 year old calling for ExH when he cries
Posted by 4PsInaPod
Posted by maymama
you are not a horrible mom, it is a normal reaction whether two parents are together or seperated. its also the age!
DS does the same thing and DH and I are married. DS is mad at me so his natural reaction is to look for daddy
He doesnt hate you, its only temporary. I have found that the best thing to do is to let him have his tantrum and once he calms down, i hold him and comfort him and then I ususally tickle him to death and we both end of laughing
You worded this perfectly!
I completely agree!
My kids used to cry for Grandma when they go in trouble!
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