10.5 Month Sleep Help

I really don't know what to do anymore. DS was a great sleeper from 4.5 months -8 months. For the last 2.5 months DS wakes up on average of 2-4 times per night. He cries uncontrollably until I go in his room and will not stop unless I pick him up. Some nights I can get him back to sleep pretty quickly by just holding him and other nights he's ready to play. Some people say its separation anxiety, others say teething and others say I created a monster cause I have been going in when he cries and holding him but I truly cannot help it. DS very rarely cries during the day and at night he cries so hard Depending on how exhausted I am/if I have to go to work, I will bring him into bed with us and he falls asleep instantly. If he sleeps with us its only for part of the night (he always starts out in his crib) and maybe happens 2-3 times a week. People telling me I approached this whole thing so wrong makes me feel so bad but, it's my first baby and I truly had no idea what else to do. Sorry for my rant, I just don't know what else to do and am beyond exhausted.

10.5 Month Sleep Help

you know what I learned, you have to do what's best for you and your baby. If it means co-sleeping then so be it, there's no right or wrong way of doing things .. all that matters is that mommy gets a good night rest - whichever way that may be. GL!

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I agree with pp you have to do what works for you. The peanut gallery doesn't live in your house.
I will say my ds #2 became a dreadful sleeper from 6 months on; he eventually ended up in our bed fulltime. At the age of 5 we kicked him out and he goes to bed in his own bed. He will be 7 next week and he comes into our bed almost every night; most nights I have no idea when he comes over. (Meanwhile my other 3 boys are good sleepers so every kid is different)
Maybe over a weekend try and be consistent and keep him in his room and see how it goes.

Message edited 10/13/2016 2:59:59 PM.

10.5 Month Sleep Help

Do what works. My DS was a terrible sleeper til 2. I never brought him in my bed, but I would comfort him when necessary.

10.5 Month Sleep Help

It's terrible that people are making you feel bad about this. You do what works and unless someone is there with you all night they shouldn't judge you. Every kid is different and what works for one won't work for another. My kids were so different when it came to sleeping. My second was no easier than my first even when I knew all the things I wanted to do differently. Babies don't follow anyone else's rules and I think some people forget that 10 month olds are very much still babies and not sttn is very much normal.

10.5 Month Sleep Help

Thank you all. My only concern is that this isn't just a phase like some people say and he's going to continue to wake up constantly.

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Truth is, if you're happy with him sleeping with you, then it doesn't matter what other people say. But if you want him out of your bed, you have to stop bringing him in. He's learned that if he cries, mommy comes in and gets him. So he wakes up and cries, rather than putting himself back to sleep. Our DS was a dream sleeper, but DD, not so much. We sleep trained her around 6 months and never looked back. It was a couple of rough nights, but I never regretted it. However, you have to be ok letting your child cry. If you're not ready for it, it won't work.

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Ugh sorry, I feel your pain. Our 7 month old is
Now in our bed every night. He won't sleep without us. He hangs with us while we watch tv, falls asleep while we hold him and we all go to bed together. I'm not a fan of cosleeping but he is I also don't admit it to many lol

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I'm so sorry to hear the difficulties are continuing. I know I shared with you that for us, we did cio when we reached our breaking point. It was HARD but it took 3 nights (each better than the one before it) and it worked for us. Having said that, you need to do what works for you and your family. We were always afraid to co-sleep because dh wears a sleep mask, and our bed is obscenely high off the floor. But it's absolutely an idea we entertained, and if it works for you, then it's what you need to do. Hang in there, momma. Follow your instincts.

10.5 Month Sleep Help

Aww I'm sorry to hear this =( I don't really have much advise since ds2 is a terrible sleeper but just stick with whatever works for u and ur baby and do not pay attention to ppl that make u feel bad for consoling him when he's crying, just like a pp mentioned, it's totally normal for babies to wake up throughout the night, some learn to put themselves back to sleep at an early age, and for others it takes longer. But this is something that they have to learn on their own, unfortunately there's no way to know what kind of sleeper a kid will be. DS1 was pretty much a good sleeper from the beginning, and DS2 not at all!