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mtnmama
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Christine
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Re: Would you send a gift?
I wouldn't send a gift - he basically took back the invite but not sending one which is really rude!
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| Posted 10/15/07 9:55 AM |
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sticklee
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Re: Would you send a gift?
i think the co-worker didn't send the invitation because he knew you couldn't attend, and didn't want you to feel obligated to send a gift. (that's giving him the benefit of the doubt, of course)
either way, i would do whatever you feel is right. personally, i might send a "token" gift.. i.e $100 gift certficate or something
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:00 AM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Would you send a gift?
nope. no invite, no gift.
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:04 AM |
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Geraldine
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Re: Would you send a gift?
I would sent a gift.....because I feel it's the right thing to do..........I think it's wierd that they called for the address and never sent the invite but I wouldn't base my actions on what they did or what they gave......
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:07 AM |
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CathyB
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by sticklee
i think the co-worker didn't send the invitation because he knew you couldn't attend, and didn't want you to feel obligated to send a gift. (that's giving him the benefit of the doubt, of course)
either way, i would do whatever you feel is right. personally, i might send a "token" gift.. i.e $100 gift certficate or something
I agree. We give all of DH's colleagues a gift when they get married regardless of if they invited us or not. I did the same in my office when I was working.
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:07 AM |
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DandS
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Re: Would you send a gift?
To be honest I would send a gift. Nothing big, like someone said before, maybe a gift certificate or something.
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:33 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by CathyB
Posted by sticklee
i think the co-worker didn't send the invitation because he knew you couldn't attend, and didn't want you to feel obligated to send a gift. (that's giving him the benefit of the doubt, of course)
either way, i would do whatever you feel is right. personally, i might send a "token" gift.. i.e $100 gift certficate or something
I agree. We give all of DH's colleagues a gift when they get married regardless of if they invited us or not. I did the same in my office when I was working.
I agree. I think he didn't want you to feel obligated, but I would probably send something small, maybe worth $25 or less.
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:35 AM |
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: Would you send a gift?
I think sending a small gift would be nice. Maybe they have a registry set up.
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| Posted 10/15/07 10:59 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would you send a gift?
You weren't invited. I would acknowledge it as I would any other old co-worker that got married.
A card & that's it.
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| Posted 10/15/07 11:03 AM |
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Ginger123
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Re: Would you send a gift?
i would send a card if we were once close
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| Posted 10/15/07 11:05 AM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Would you send a gift?
absolutely not. no invite = no gift.
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:12 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by RandJ0806
absolutely not. no invite = no gift.
ITA.
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:14 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by melbalalala
nope. no invite, no gift.
ditto
you guys DID say you'd try and come if you weren't going away. he should have sent an invite anyway. sounds to me like he was bitter you weren't probably weren't going
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:16 PM |
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PotofLuck06
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Without an invite, I wouldn't send a gift. IMO
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:17 PM |
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kms717
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Re: Would you send a gift?
No, you guys are off the hook. He's obviously not that close of a friend anyway.
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:49 PM |
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kms717
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by CathyB
Posted by sticklee
i think the co-worker didn't send the invitation because he knew you couldn't attend, and didn't want you to feel obligated to send a gift. (that's giving him the benefit of the doubt, of course)
either way, i would do whatever you feel is right. personally, i might send a "token" gift.. i.e $100 gift certficate or something
I agree. We give all of DH's colleagues a gift when they get married regardless of if they invited us or not. I did the same in my office when I was working.
I disagree, he came to your wedding and only gave $25, there is no way I'd give him 100!
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:51 PM |
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MichelleR
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Re: Would you send a gift?
I feel thats rude... but thats just me.
We invited a couple to our baby shower who we know will be on their honeymoon. But we didn't want hurt feelings. DH was afraid they'd think we just wanted a gift, so I told him to just send them a note saying "We know you'll be away, but didn't want to NOT invite you"
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| Posted 10/15/07 1:52 PM |
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CouponKT
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Re: Would you send a gift?
I would send a small gift or check for the same thing - around $25. It's not a lot of money to worry about somewhere down to road losing a friendship or connection over...
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| Posted 10/15/07 2:40 PM |
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:36 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by PotofLuck06
Without an invite, I wouldn't send a gift. IMO
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| Posted 10/15/07 5:01 PM |
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MrsMessina
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Re: Would you send a gift?
Posted by DandS
To be honest I would send a gift. Nothing big, like someone said before, maybe a gift certificate or something.
Same here. I don't think that I would've sent you an invite either- b/c knowing you'd be out of town I would feel like I was only sending you an invitation just so I could get a gift.
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| Posted 10/15/07 5:09 PM |
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