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JWG421
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GoldenRod
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
If the RSVP date is 3/31, you won't get a lot of them until 3/30, 3/31, 4/1....
Many people wait until the last second to send in RSVPs.
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| Posted 3/18/16 10:08 AM |
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JWG421
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
you are prob right, but its annoying LOL
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
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| Posted 3/18/16 10:14 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
I usually make the RSVP date a week earlier than I want just so I can start to chase people down.
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| Posted 3/18/16 10:17 AM |
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JWG421
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by JDubs
I usually make the RSVP date a week earlier than I want just so I can start to chase people down.
well that is my question, guess i am early
How do you chase them down when I dont see them or know the parents?
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| Posted 3/18/16 10:24 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by JWG421
Posted by JDubs
I usually make the RSVP date a week earlier than I want just so I can start to chase people down.
well that is my question, guess i am early
How do you chase them down when I dont see them or know the parents?
Is the daycare teacher allowed to give you parents contact info? If so I would just find out their numbers, if possible and call/text them if they do not RSVP by the date.
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ChilisWife
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Honestly it doesnt matter when you make the RSVP date. Unfortunately most parents dont respond. Ive been dealing with it for many years. Its beyond obnoxious and theres no excuse, but it is what it is. My experience is that if they don't respond yes, they arent coming. Good luck.
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by ChilisWife
Honestly it doesnt matter when you make the RSVP date. Unfortunately most parents dont respond. Ive been dealing with it for many years. Its beyond obnoxious and theres no excuse, but it is what it is. My experience is that if they donr respond yes, they arent coming. Good luck.
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BargainMama
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
3/31 is almost 2 weeks away
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alli3131
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RSVP- and parents cant do it
You are worrying way too early. I wouldn't even think about it until it gets closer. You are thinking bad about parents when the deadline is 2 weeks away.
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blu6385
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
i hate when parents don't RSVP but like others said its 2 weeks away and i am one of those morons who sometimes ends up waiting to the last minute (though i cant stand when people do this ) i always tend to do right when i get it but something always distracts me and it get pushed for another day
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Hofstra26
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by GoldenRod
If the RSVP date is 3/31, you won't get a lot of them until 3/30, 3/31, 4/1....
Many people wait until the last second to send in RSVPs.
That drives me nuts!! I HATE when people wait until the RSVP date because more often then not, they totally forget. I guess because I am the type who gets an invite, checks the calendar right then and there, and then either commits or declines by RSVP'ing those who wait, make me lose my mind!
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GoldenRod
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by GoldenRod
If the RSVP date is 3/31, you won't get a lot of them until 3/30, 3/31, 4/1....
Many people wait until the last second to send in RSVPs.
That drives me nuts!! I HATE when people wait until the RSVP date because more often then not, they totally forget. I guess because I am the type who gets an invite, checks the calendar right then and there, and then either commits or declines by RSVP'ing those who wait, make me lose my mind!
Especially for spring events, many people wait until the last minute to find out what other activities are coming up. Spring is when sports starts (even if the invited kids aren't in sports yet, their siblings may be), Confirmations, First Communions, weddings, etc.
I'm a soccer coach, and I still have no idea when my games are. The parents of my athletes definitely won't know for a while yet.
However, many people *are* just rude and/or forgetful.... 
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JWG421
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
I totally understand
just was hoping for more i suppose
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ali120206
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RSVP- and parents cant do it
My son was invited to a party in mid January and the invites went home mid-December. Right around the RSVP date, the teachers put a note on the daily gram reminding parents to RSVP to the party.
ETA - but, I wouldn't stress yet since the RSVP date is still about 2 weeks away.
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Sparrow
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RSVP- and parents cant do it
I don't see any reason to be annoyed, your RSVP date is almost two weeks away. I wouldn't have expected to have many responses by now. If you wanted them this soon then I would have made today the date. I often don't know what my plans will look like that far in advance so I tend to respond on or near the given RSVP date. I always thought it was there for that reason.
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Sparrow
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by GoldenRod
If the RSVP date is 3/31, you won't get a lot of them until 3/30, 3/31, 4/1....
Many people wait until the last second to send in RSVPs.
That drives me nuts!! I HATE when people wait until the RSVP date because more often then not, they totally forget. I guess because I am the type who gets an invite, checks the calendar right then and there, and then either commits or declines by RSVP'ing those who wait, make me lose my mind!
Especially for spring events, many people wait until the last minute to find out what other activities are coming up. Spring is when sports starts (even if the invited kids aren't in sports yet, their siblings may be), Confirmations, First Communions, weddings, etc.
I'm a soccer coach, and I still have no idea when my games are. The parents of my athletes definitely won't know for a while yet.
However, many people *are* just rude and/or forgetful....
I never received the memo that RSVP'ing on or near the RSVP date is rude. I have always taken it that this is when the host needs to know by. 
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NYCGirl80
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
When I sent invites home to DS's class, I only gave 2 weeks notice because I knew any more and it would drive me nuts. I got 1 RSVP right away. Two came when we ran into parents at pick up/drop off. The others I got almost at the last RSVP date. And 1 never RSVPed...but came anyway! Everyone in his class came to the party.
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BlessedMomma
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by alli3131
You are worrying way too early. I wouldn't even think about it until it gets closer. You are thinking bad about parents when the deadline is 2 weeks away.
Agreed
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LIRascal
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RSVP- and parents cant do it
I'm going through this for the first time as a "responding parent". I got an invite for a party on a Sunday for twin DD's. I'm on the fence and haven't responded yet because (while they're all in the same class) I never hear them mention this boy, and i don't know how well they know each other. Nothing personal against the family (I know grandma well) but Sunday is usually our family day, and we often all get together at my mom's etc. If it were their BFF or their cousin, I would prioritize the birthday party and put other plans on hold, KWIM?
At the same time, I don't want them to be the only kids in their class who aren't attending. I wrote on my calendar to RSVP a week before the RSVP date.
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MrsT809
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Re: RSVP- and parents cant do it
Posted by NYCGirl80
When I sent invites home to DS's class, I only gave 2 weeks notice because I knew any more and it would drive me nuts. I got 1 RSVP right away. Two came when we ran into parents at pick up/drop off. The others I got almost at the last RSVP date. And 1 never RSVPed...but came anyway! Everyone in his class came to the party.
I'm thinking of doing the same for dds classmates. The last party she was invited to we got the invite one week before and almost all the kids in the class showed. Like pps mentioned, a classmate party is not likely going to be the priority if they have other things going on so may as well wait to send invites and then there's less time to hold out for better plans to come up or to forget to rsvp. Those who were close to know the date already.
For myself, I write on my calendar to rsvp a few days before the deadline. Never occurred to me that responding close to the date would be considered rude by some. I thought I was doing good being early at all!
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| Posted 3/20/16 12:26 PM |
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Jpteach95
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RSVP- and parents cant do it
You are 2 weeks early. You have to give people a chance. That said, many will not RSVP. We gave the daycare teacher a check off sheet and she hung it in the classroom door and asked people to check yes or no.
We still had 1 no response and he showed and two who said yes and didn't show.
In the future if you want immediate response make the rsvp date only a week or so later.
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